After Hello Podcast

The Emotionally Available Men Are the New Sexy in Modern Dating

Ready to rewrite your love story? Join the After Hello registry here: https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here [https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here] ☎️Have questions or need assistance? Call our hotline today at (504) 233-4006 In this episode of the After Hello Podcast, hosts Ann Parnes [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] and Maria Murray [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] explore the shift from nonchalant dating to “Chalant dating”, a more intentional, emotionally present approach to building relationships. Blending thoughtful conversation with a live matchmaking format, they create space for authentic dialogue about connection and compatibility. They’re joined by John Andoh [https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-andoh-1a70b374], a 32 year old attorney who values emotional depth, faith, and long-term partnership, along with four accomplished women: Aisha Cook [https://www.linkedin.com/in/aishacook/], a biosafety officer who prioritizes presence and travel; Amanda, an architect and interior designer driven by creativity and growth; Indya Ajai [https://www.instagram.com/indya_ajai/], [https://www.instagram.com/indya_ajai/] a Doctor of Pharmacy turned spiritual teacher focused on intentional living; and Jessica Hawkins [https://www.instagram.com/jhawk421/], a criminal defense attorney who values honesty and direct communication. Through candid exchanges, the episode highlights the power of vulnerability, mutual effort, humor, and alignment showing how meaningful chemistry begins when people choose to show up with clarity and intention. Expect to Learn * How “Chalant dating” encourages intentional effort, clear communication, and emotional presence in modern relationships. * What accomplished, career driven singles truly value when seeking alignment in love and partnership. * The importance of vulnerability, humor, and mutual curiosity in building authentic chemistry. * How personal growth, spirituality, career ambition, and lifestyle preferences influence compatibility. * Insights from a live matchmaking style dating experience about what really matters beyond first impressions. Episode Breakdown with Timestamps [00:00] - Teaser [00:55] - Ann Parnes and Maria Murray explain the rise of "Chalant Dating" and the move toward intentional, effort-based connections. [01:20] - The shift from nonchalant dating to intentional connections, emphasizing clear communication and showing up with purpose. [04:03] - John Andoh discusses his values, emotional vulnerability, and his approach to finding a long-term partner. [07:59] - The importance of mutual effort in dating, explaining why effort, honesty, and vulnerability are key to modern relationships. [09:19] - John talks about how vulnerability is key to building meaningful connections and how it impacts dating dynamics. [21:44] - Introduction to the girls - Aisha, Amanda, Indya, and Jessica share their values and what they seek in a partner. [25:46] - The women talk about emotional safety & what makes them feel emotionally safe and valued in a relationship. [39:41] - The women answer questions from John and the hosts, covering personal values, deal-breakers, and what makes them feel connected. [01:17:22] - Ann’s insights as a matchmaker what she’s noticing in the conversations, highlighting emotional connection and alignment among the group. [01:23:22] - Final reflections, discussing the importance of mutual effort and emotional clarity in forming lasting relationships. Follow the Guests: John Andoh - LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-andoh-1a70b374 [https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-andoh-1a70b374] Aisha Cook - LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aishacook/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/aishacook/] Jessica Hawkins - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jhawk421/ [https://www.instagram.com/jhawk421/] Indya Ajai - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/indya_ajai/ [https://www.instagram.com/indya_ajai/] Follow the Hosts: 👉 Ann Parnes - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] - Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/ [https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/ [https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/] 👉 Follow Maria Murray - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/ [https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/] Follow After Hello Podcast: 👉 Website - https://www.afterhello.com/ [https://www.afterhello.com/] 👉 Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking [https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking] 👉 Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/ [https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/] 👉 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/ [https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/] 👉 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello [https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello]

When to Walk Away in Dating for Smart Singles to Stop Waiting and Trust the Signs Sooner

Ready to rewrite your love story? Join the After Hello registry here: https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here [https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here] ☎️Have questions or need assistance? Call our hotline today at (504) 233-4006 In this episode of the After Hello podcast, hosts Ann Parnes [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] and Maria Murray [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] explore real-life relationship dilemmas that many people face when it comes to balancing personal connections and timing. The first caller: Adeline from New Orleans, asks about how long to give a relationship before deciding it’s not the right connection. She struggles with finding the right balance between being patient and noticing potential red flags. The second caller: Jeff, is a 42-year-old from San Diego who is in a relatively new relationship and is uncertain about the right time to start blending his life with his partner’s, especially regarding meeting friends and family.. The third caller: David from Scottsdale, a corporate professional, shares his concerns about feeling unsupported in social settings that are important for his career and wonders about the future of his relationship. Expect to Learn * How Timing Impacts Relationships: Discover how timing plays a crucial role in dating decisions, from figuring out when to move forward in a relationship to when it's time to walk away. * The Role of Personal Values in Dating: Learn how identifying your non-negotiables and recognizing relationship patterns can help you make better decisions in love. * Integrating Your Partner Into Your Life: Gain insights into when and how to introduce a partner to your social circles, including friends and family, while maintaining a balanced relationship pace. * Navigating Relationship Expectations in the Professional World: Explore how busy professionals especially those in high-pressure careers like tech manage to balance ambition with meaningful personal connections. Episode Breakdown with Timestamps [00:00] - Teaser [00:40] - Introduction: Discussing Dating and Timing [02:24] - How Long to Give a Connection Before Deciding? [03:51] - Identifying Non-Negotiables in Relationships [05:43] - The Danger of Making Excuses in Relationships [06:42] - The Importance of Timing and Alignment in Relationships [10:06] - Three to Six Month Timeline for Serious Dating [11:47] - Question on Integrating Lives and Meeting Family [16:03] - Inclusion in Someone’s Life Reflects Genuine Interest [19:39] - How Many Dates Before Becoming Exclusive? [24:30] - Instinct to “Lock It Down” Quickly When Excited About a Match Follow the Hosts: 👉 Ann Parnes - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] - Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/ [https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/ [https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/] 👉 Follow Maria Murray - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/ [https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/] Follow After Hello Podcast: 👉 Website - https://www.afterhello.com/ [https://www.afterhello.com/] 👉 Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking [https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking] 👉 Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/ [https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/] 👉 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/ [https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/] 👉 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello [https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello]

Dating in Your 40s Feels Lonely Even When You’re Ready for Real Love

Ready to rewrite your love story? Join the After Hello registry here: https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here [https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here] ------------------------ ☎️Have questions or need assistance? Call our hotline today at (504) 233-4006 In this episode of the After Hello Podcast, hosts Ann Parnes [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] and Maria Murray [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] explore the realities of modern dating with a unique twist, combining thoughtful conversation and real-life matchmaking. They are joined by John Rotonti [https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-rotonti-8ba92326b],Senior Analyst; Head of Investor Training and Development at The Motley Fool [https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-motley-fool/], along with two remarkable women Amanda Abadie [https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanda-abadie/], a lawyer and nonprofit founder, and Amy Orgeron, a nurse practitioner as they explore connection, compatibility, and what it truly takes to build a meaningful partnership. Through candid dialogue and shared experiences, the episode discusses the importance of emotional readiness, balancing family responsibilities, and the chemistry that can spark when people show up authentically. After a series of insightful conversations, both Amanda and Amy expressed a desire to continue exploring their connection with John and are excited to see where things could go on a real-life date. Expect to Learn * How real-time conversations help uncover chemistry and connection beyond dating profiles. * What modern singles value most when it comes to balancing work, family, and intentional dating. * The role of vulnerability and emotional availability in navigating the complexities of adult dating. * How personal growth, life stage, and family responsibilities influence romantic decision making. * Insights from a Love Is Blind-style dating experience about what truly matters in forming a lasting partnership. Episode Breakdown with Timestamps [00:00] - Teaser [01:12] - Setting the stage for modern dating: How responsibilities impact relationships [04:11] - John talks about his hobbies: Fitness, travel, and finding joy in simple activities [06:03] - How finding the right partner could change John's life and daily routines [08:51] - Navigating the challenge of dating while caring for aging parents [11:31] - Maintaining personal identity in a partnership: Amanda’s approach [15:27] - Balancing career, fitness, and dating: Amy’s strategy [23:59] - Ideal first dates: Activity-based, engaging, and not conventional [30:38] - Deal-breakers in dating: John’s stance on drugs and smoking [35:10] - Final reflections: How values and chemistry play a role in modern dating Follow the Guests: 👉 John Rotonti - LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-rotonti-8ba92326b [https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-rotonti-8ba92326b] - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jrogrows/ [https://www.instagram.com/jrogrows/] - X: https://x.com/JRogrow [https://x.com/JRogrow] 👉 Amanda Abadie - LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanda-abadie/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/amanda-abadie/] - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amanda.abadie/ [https://www.instagram.com/amanda.abadie/] Follow Guest Company: 👉 Follow The Motley Fool on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-motley-fool/ [https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-motley-fool/] Follow the Hosts: 👉 Ann Parnes - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] - Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/ [https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/ [https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/] 👉 Follow Maria Murray - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/ [https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/] Follow After Hello Podcast: 👉 Website - https://www.afterhello.com/ [https://www.afterhello.com/] 👉 Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking [https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking] 👉 Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/ [https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/] 👉 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/ [https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/] 👉 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello [https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello]

When Your Career Is Thriving But Your Love Life Is Falling Apart

Ready to rewrite your love story? Join the After Hello registry here: https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here [https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here] ------------------------------------- In this episode of the After Hello podcast, hosts Ann Parnes [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] and Maria Murray [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] get into real-life relationship dilemmas that many face when balancing ambition and connection. The first caller: Is a young lawyer who struggles to find time for love while constantly traveling for work and feels torn between his career and personal life. The second caller: Is an entrepreneur questioning whether his partner aligns with his ambitious lifestyle and whether they can build a future together, given their differing goals. The third caller: Is a corporate professional who feels unsupported in social settings that are crucial for his career and is uncertain about the future of his relationship. Expect to Learn * How technology is reshaping dating dynamics and fostering more meaningful connections. * The impact of AI and algorithms on matchmaking and dating apps. * Insights into how professionals, especially engineers, approach relationships and emotional vulnerability. * Personal stories of growth, love, and finding balance in the fast-paced tech world. Episode Breakdown with Timestamps [00:00] - Teaser [01:08] - Introducing the After Hello Hotline and today’s core theme [01:33] - Career-first ambition and the challenge of making time for dating [03:16] - Why “winging it” doesn’t work for long-term relationships [04:56] - Are career-driven professionals really behind in dating? [07:37] - Getting intentional: vision, values, and proactive dating choices [10:21] - Nurturing connection when work dominates the calendar [14:21] - Where ambitious professionals are most likely to meet a partner [17:27] - Seasons of life: balancing growth, relationships, and priorities [29:41] - When career success and partnership expectations collide [35:58] - The role of partner dynamics in professional advancement [42:40] - Why core values act as an anchor during uncertainty [47:40] - Unpopular Opinion: Keep only those who lift you up 📞 Have questions or need assistance? Call our hotline today at (504) 233-4006 Follow the Hosts: 👉 Ann Parnes - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] - Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/ [https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/ [https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/] 👉 Follow Maria Murray - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/ [https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/] Follow After Hello Podcast: 👉 Website - https://www.afterhello.com/ [https://www.afterhello.com/] 👉 Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking [https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking] 👉 Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/ [https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/] 👉 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/ [https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/] 👉 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello [https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello]

What Happens When High Achievers Try Love Is Blind Dating Without Ever Seeing Their Match?

Ready to rewrite your love story? Join the After Hello registry here: https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here [https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here] ------------------------------------- In this episode of the After Hello Podcast, hosts Ann Parnes [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] and Maria Murray [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] take dating out of theory and into real life with a Love Is Blind style conversation centered on connection, chemistry, and intentional dating. They are joined by Esteban Gershanik [https://www.linkedin.com/in/esteban-gershanik-312a3310/] and three incredible women Jessica Holtzman [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jsholtzman/], Stephanie Douglas, and Anna Tisdale, for an unscripted exploration of what happens when profiles fade away, and real conversations take the lead. Through candid dialogue, shared values, and moments of vulnerability, the episode talks about modern dating culture, emotional readiness, and the often unpredictable chemistry that emerges when people show up as their authentic selves. Following the Love Is Blind-inspired experience, Jessica, Stephanie, and Anna all indicated they were curious to see where things could go with Esteban and were interested in meeting him for a real-life date. Expect to Learn * How real time conversations reveal chemistry and connection beyond dating profiles. * What modern singles value most when it comes to intentional dating, communication, and emotional availability. * How vulnerability, presence, and lived experiences shape romantic decision making. * The role of timing, life stage, and personal growth in forming meaningful relationships. * Insights from a Love Is Blind-style dating experience on what truly matters when building a lasting partnership. Episode Breakdown with Timestamps [00:00] - Teaser [02:27] - Introducing Esteban: A physician balancing work and life between Boston and New Orleans [05:37] - Discussing what’s been missing in Esteban’s past relationships and what he seeks in the future [06:51] - Exploring what Esteban is looking for in a partner and the importance of mutual support [14:22] - Host discusses the importance of family values and their impact on relationships [23:16] - Reflecting on authenticity, communication, and the role they play in relationships [31:00] - Reaching a “zen” mindset about dating and embracing uncertainty [33:46] - The importance of being intentional & consistent in relationships and putting in effort [39:38] - Learning to recognize “breadcrumbing” and mixed signals in dating [46:26] - Experiencing exclusion and navigating minority identity [53: 44] - Roundtable responses to a shared question on self-description and relationship expectations [1:04:49] - Final reflections: Finding a partner with similar values and staying present in dating 📞 Have questions or need assistance? Call our hotline today at (504) 233-4006 Follow the Guests: 👉 Esteban Gershanik - https://www.linkedin.com/in/esteban-gershanik-312a3310/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/esteban-gershanik-312a3310/] 👉 Jessica Holtzman - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jsholtzman/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jsholtzman/] Follow the Hosts: 👉 Ann Parnes - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] - Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/ [https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/ [https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/] 👉 Follow Maria Murray - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/ [https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/ ] Follow After Hello Podcast: 👉 Website - https://www.afterhello.com/ [https://www.afterhello.com/] 👉 Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking [https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking] 👉 Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/ [https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/] 👉 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/ [https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/] 👉 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello [https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello]