Even Me

Marriage & Kids Ain’t for Everybody!

Send us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2083260/open_sms] Let's normalize that just because you CAN get married and have children does not mean that you need to! Your relationships and romantic connections need to be solid before adding the thought of permanency. Are you guilty of assuming they are The One just because they are "nicer" than your ex? If you are "dating to marry," do you habitually ask people if they can see a lifetime with you with limited information? Do you reveal your traumas immediately to test if they can handle what comes with you, only to hyperfocus on how quickly you can form vulnerability and closeness? Have you been taught to believe in a meaningful wedding or proposal more than understanding the foundation of what helps a healthy relationship work? Are you a product of "making it work for the kids" but might feel guilty because you may not even want kids? If any of these questions apply to you, then today's episode will guide you!

Shadow Work: Embrace Your Dark Side

Send us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2083260/open_sms] What if I told you that you can "people-please" your inner critic by allowing you to project onto others unresolved feelings about yourself? Did you know that we begin embracing our inner critic in childhood by compartmentalizing our pain and then learning to repeat this pattern as adults to avoid confronting ourselves? What if you could discover the hidden parts of you that often produce guilt and shame and impact many of the decisions that you later regret? This episode is for you if you are frequently unsure of how to embrace parts of you that you resent or might ignore. This episode is also for you if you claim to know precisely who you are without exploring the darker parts of you that you might not know or acknowledge exist.

Healing Your Inner Child

Send us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2083260/open_sms] This episode is for you if you have scars or wounds from childhood that have been hard to release and impact things or people in your daily routine. This episode is also for you if you feel people owe you obedience in romantic relationships, and not getting your way results in emotional tantrums. Are you doing a good job protecting your inner child, letting them know you are a safe space to process and heal? Are you a good example to lead yourself through unexplored healing or compartmentalized hurt? Have you confronted the emotional injuries caused by those you trusted and used that pain to help re-parent you where needed? Let's address these questions together!

Accountability vs Responsibility?

Send us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2083260/open_sms] Did you know that accountability and responsibility are not the same? One is a personal response to what happens, and the other is about task orientation. Because they are different, yet both equivalent to progress, avoiding or lacking either can cause devastating outcomes and create burnout. This episode is for you if it has been tough getting motivated or maintaining discipline, especially if you misunderstand (or are unsure about) your role in life or why you stack your to-do list. This episode is also for you if you are trying to unlearn how to minimize feeling insulted or offended by constructive criticism or when perfectionism is not achieved.

Seeking Reciprocity?

Send us a text [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2083260/open_sms] Receiving what we give is not the goal. This goal is positioning ourselves with people and things that can return what we provide equivalently. Every interaction has an opportunity to have your cup filled. Filling a void that is triggered by unmet needs and trauma is not the same as filling your cup. If you have started tolerating not having that cup filled, this episode is for you! If you continue to engage in romantic relationships, sexual activity, gender norms, parenting, and communication without receiving your efforts returned or even acknowledged, this episode is also for you!