In Pneuma

mama's boy (enmeshment)

The conversation delves into the profound impact of childhood experiences on adulthood, emphasizing the importance of boundaries, self-discovery, and the effects of enmeshment. It explores the role of family dynamics in shaping individuals and the long-term consequences of childhood experiences on personal development and relationships. Takeaways * Boundaries and self-discovery * Impact of childhood experiences on adulthood * Enmeshment and its effects Work with us: www.pneumachicago.com [http://www.pneumachicago.com] Resources: * Minuchin, S., Rosman, B. L., & Baker, L. (1978). Psychosomatic Families: Anorexia Nervosa in Context. Harvard University Press. * Anderson, B. J., Vangsness, L., Connell, A., Butler, D., Goebel-Fabbri, A., & Laffel, L. M. B. (2002). “Family conflict, adherence, and glycaemic control in youth with short duration Type 1 diabetes.” Diabetic Medicine, 19(8), 635–642. * Adams, K. M. (1991, revised 2011). Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners. HCI Books. * American Psychological Association. APA Dictionary of Psychology — entry on “enmeshment.” * Frankl, V. E. (1946). Man’s Search for Meaning. Beacon Press.

why we fear intimacy

The conversation delves into the topic of fear of intimacy, exploring its impact, healing process, and the role of childhood experiences. It emphasizes the importance of acceptance, cognitive diffusion, being present, and committed action in addressing fear of intimacy. Additionally, it highlights the significance of experience and relationships in the healing journey. Takeaways * Fear of intimacy is a common issue that can manifest in various forms, such as addiction, people-pleasing, and avoidance of vulnerability. * Healing from fear of intimacy involves acceptance, cognitive diffusion, being present, self as context, values, and committed action. * Understanding the root of fear of intimacy and addressing it through experience and relationships is essential for healing and growth. LINKS & RESOURCES * Work with us: www.pneumachicago.com [http://www.pneumachicago.com] Descutner, C. J., & Thelen, M. H. (1991). Development and validation of a fear-of-intimacy scale. Psychological Assessment, 3, 218–225. — the original scale, the source of the working definition. * Reis, S., et al. (2024). From Emotional Abuse to a Fear of Intimacy: The Mediating Role of Attachment Styles and Rejection Sensitivity. Int. J. Environ. Res. Public Health, 21(12), 1679. — clean mediation model linking childhood experience → attachment → fear of intimacy. * Khoshroo et al. (2024). The mediating role of mentalization and integrative self-knowledge in the relationship between childhood trauma and fear of intimacy. (PMC11239571) — adds the self-knowledge and mentalization piece, which dovetails with self-as-context. * Gloster, A. T., Walder, N., Levin, M. E., Twohig, M. P., & Karekla, M. (2020). The empirical status of acceptance and commitment therapy: A review of meta-analyses. — broad ACT evidence base for the framework you're using. * Hayes, S. C., Strosahl, K. D., & Wilson, K. G. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: The Process and Practice of Mindful Change (2nd ed., 2012). — the source text for the six core processes; worth naming for clinically-curious listeners. KEYWORDS: fear of intimacy, emotional avoidance, attachment styles, avoidant attachment, anxious attachment, rejection sensitivity, vulnerability, self-disclosure, ACT therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, psychological flexibility, values-based living, experiential avoidance, mental health podcast, therapy podcast, Christian therapist, faith and mental health, relational healing, emotional intimacy, childhood trauma, inner child, defusion, mindfulness, somatic awareness, In Pneuma, Eugene Kim, Chicago therapist

from betrayal to healing ft. Hannah Miller

The conversation covers Hannah Miller's journey into becoming a therapist, the impact of betrayal trauma, and the role of motherhood in therapy. It delves into the symptoms of betrayal trauma, the recovery process, and the importance of full disclosure in healing. The discussion emphasizes the significance of support, community, and practical steps for healing and recovery, providing valuable insights into the therapist's approach to helping clients through betrayal trauma. Wanna work with us? Find us at pneumachicago.com [http://pneumachicago.com] Want to work with Hannah? Here's her website. [https://www.hannahlynnmiller.com/therapy] Takeaways * Betrayal trauma and its impact * The importance of full disclosure in healing Chapters * 00:00 The Journey to Becoming a Therapist * 11:21 Helping Clients Through Betrayal Trauma * 18:08 Understanding Betrayal Trauma Symptoms * 32:06 The Importance of Full Disclosure

the opposite of sex addiction ft. Nathan Ghantous

The conversation covers topics related to addiction, grief, joy, and sex addiction recovery. It delves into the science behind addiction, the stages of grief, the impact of trauma, and the definition of sex addiction. It also explores the role of joy in recovery and the challenges faced by partners of addicts. The conversation covers topics related to intimacy, commitment, trauma, addiction, and recovery. It delves into the impact of lying, the stages of a healthy relationship, the role of community in recovery, and the connection between joy and shame.

The science behind your addiction

This episode delves into the role of dopamine in addiction and explores the stages of the addiction cycle, including triggers, preoccupation, ritualization, and the acting out stage. It also discusses the cycle of sex addiction, the impact of shame, and the concept of allostatic state in relation to dopamine. The chapters provide a comprehensive understanding of the science behind addiction and the psychological processes involved in addictive behaviors. Takeaways * Dopamine's role in addiction * Stages of addiction cycle Work with us: https://pneumachicago.com/ [https://pneumachicago.com/]