Marriage with Intention

#30 Dad Solo Parents + Mom Retreats to Tulum for 6 Days: How We Support Individual Growth in Our Marriage

When you’re raising toddlers, running a business and trying to stay connected as a couple, taking 6 days away to a retreat in the jungle might feel impossible or even selfish -- especially as a mom. But what if stepping away for your own growth actually made your partnership and parenting stronger? In this episode, we share exactly how we planned for, pivoted and made possible Aman’s recent 6-day trip to a women’s retreat in Tulum, Mexico and what it really took to make it happen. From the prep (wall calendar, Costco run and a homemade advent countdown for our son) to the mindset shifts (on both sides), this is a behind-the-scenes look at how we support each other’s personal growth while parenting two young kids. The lesson: there's no perfect time.  You’ll hear: * What we did 2 weeks in advance to reduce stress (and set each other up to thrive) * The advent calendar hack that helped our 3-year-old stay connected while Mom was gone * The quiet mindset shift Tom used to stay calm and present during solo parenting * How we handled the inevitable curveballs (hello, stomach flu and missed workouts) * Why your own nourishment and identity outside of parenting matters so much more than people think We’re not perfect at this, and the trip back home didn’t go as planned, but we’re learning to build a marriage where both partners grow, dream and thrive. Even (and especially) when it’s messy. If you’ve ever felt guilty for wanting space … or struggled to get your partner on board for time away, this episode will shift something for you.   JOIN THE BECOMING YOUR FUTURE SELF: VISION BOARD WORKSHOP HAPPENING ON SATURDAY, JANUARY 10, 2026: https://www.amancostigan.com/visionboard [https://www.amancostigan.com/visionboard]    Have a question you’d like us to answer? Email it to amancostigan@gmail.com and we’ll answer it anonymously! HOW TO WORK WITH US OUR WEBSITE: How we work with couples [https://www.amancostigan.com/program] CONNECT WITH US AT Aman Costigan on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/amancostigan/] and on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/aman-costigan-56b6994b/] Tom Costigan on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-costigan-89979879/] Our Facebook Page [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61559579623332] ** RATE, REVIEW & FOLLOW ** Help us connect with more driven couples by giving us a 5-star rating! It takes less than 90 seconds, and it really helps spread the word about Marriage with Intention.  Or simply text a friend about the podcast to let them know what you love about it!  Be sure to FOLLOW to our show so you don’t miss an episode!

#29: How to Revisit Your Expenses Without the Stress (and Save Hundreds Doing It)

We’ve gone from “If it’s yellow, let it mellow. If it’s brown, flush it down.” to making our money work for us. But, the relationship with our money is an ongoing one that’s so easy to put aside or avoid when life gets busy.  We’ve been meaning to review our monthly expenses, optimize our subscriptions and who’s paying what… but life keeps moving, and it just hasn’t happened. Until now.  In this episode, we walk you through the exact process we’re using right now to get more mindful and intentional with our money as a couple. After attending the Rich Girl Era Money Summit In Vancouver, Aman shares what reignited her obsession with personal finance, what she realized was missing (spoiler: a one-pager listing our accounts, logins, and bill breakdowns), and the small changes we’re making that are already saving us hundreds. We talk about: * The $120 subscription shift we made this week (and how we’re tracking renewals now) * Why “just calling to negotiate” isn’t always simple and how we made it easier for ourselves    * How to stop defaulting to overspending and start aligning with your actual values * The mantra Aman picked at the Summit that’s already changed her money habits We’ve gone from turning off the heat to save a few dollars… to paying for a Porsche in cash. But this episode isn’t about extremes. It’s about intention. Teamwork. And looking at the numbers. It's the small shifts that build a life of freedom together. Whether you're just starting to get a handle on your finances or you've been tracking every penny for years, this episode will give you real-life strategies (and a nudge of motivation) to get back in the driver’s seat with your partner. 🚨 BECOMING YOUR FUTURE SELF: VISION BOARD WORKSHOP: https://www.amancostigan.com/visionboard [https://www.amancostigan.com/visionboard]  Workshop dates: Nov 22, Dec 3 and January 10 2026   Have a question you’d like us to answer? Email it to amancostigan@gmail.com and we’ll answer it anonymously! HOW TO WORK WITH US OUR WEBSITE: How we work with couples [https://www.amancostigan.com/program] CONNECT WITH US AT Aman Costigan on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/amancostigan/] and on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/aman-costigan-56b6994b/] Tom Costigan on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-costigan-89979879/]   ** RATE, REVIEW & FOLLOW ** Help us connect with more driven couples by giving us a 5-star rating! It takes less than 90 seconds, and it really helps spread the word about Marriage with Intention.  Or simply text a friend about the podcast to let them know what you love about it!  Be sure to FOLLOW to our show so you don’t miss an episode!

#28 Redecide Your Top 3 Priorities. Finish 2025 Strong

You don’t need more time. You need some silence.  This is your chance to stop sprinting through the year and ask yourself: What actually matters most to you right now? In this episode, Aman guides you through a powerful, reflective exercise that will help you decide your top 3 priorities for the rest of the year and finish 2025 feeling clear, calm and on purpose. This isn’t about hustling harder or adding more to your plate. It’s about letting go of what’s not working, anchoring back into what matters most and creating space for the life you actually want. You’ll experience: * Simple reflection prompts that help you see how far you’ve come (and where to focus next) * The exact questions Aman asks clients to clarify their top 3 priorities * A real‑time pause to think, something few people ever do * Why “presence over productivity” might be the most radical goal you set this year * And one easy habit to keep your priorities front‑and‑center every day 🎧 Hit PLAY to pause the noise, get grounded and finish the year intentionally. Want to watch it on video, see the slides and follow along in real-time? Watch the Be the Catalyst: Women’s Summit REPLAY ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/QvoYCv0wSks [https://youtu.be/QvoYCv0wSks]      Grab Your Ticket to Aman's upcoming Vision Board Workshops: BECOMING YOUR FUTURE SELF: VISION BOARD WORKSHOPS [https://www.amancostigan.com/visionboard] (in-person and virtual)    CONNECT WITH US AT Aman Costigan on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/amancostigan/] and on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/aman-costigan-56b6994b/] Tom Costigan on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-costigan-89979879/]   ** RATE, REVIEW & FOLLOW ** Help us connect with more driven couples by giving us a 5-star rating! It takes less than 90 seconds, and it really helps spread the word about Marriage with Intention.  Or simply text a friend about the podcast to let them know what you love about it!  Be sure to FOLLOW to our show so you don’t miss an episode!

#27 Vision Boards for Couples: How We Dream Together (and What Came True)

It’s SO easy to overlook creating a life vision - one for yourself and one with your partner. In this episode, we sit down with our past vision boards and unpack what’s come true, what surprised us and what it’s taught us about dreaming solo and as a couple. From the Porsche that magically appeared (after Aman forgot she even put it on her board), to starting a family, to yoga on a paddle board in the middle of the ocean … it turns out our future selves are always trying to guide us. We just have to slow down long enough to think and listen. This episode is a roadmap for you. You’ll learn how to approach vision boards in a way that feels grounded, not fluffy. Why Tom (a self-proclaimed skeptic) came around to making one. And how this simple, creative practice can help you and your partner uncover shared dreams, name unspoken desires and create intentional alignment – one image at a time. Plus, you’ll hear about Aman’s upcoming Becoming Your Future Self: Vision Board Workshops and how she’s connecting women in these rooms from all over the world. If you’re craving more clarity, creativity, and connection in your life and with your partner, this episode will help you get there. Becoming Your Future Self: Vision Board Workshops (Virtual and In-Person) [https://www.amancostigan.com/visionboard] - GRAB YOUR TICKET NOW! 2025 and 2026 dates!    Have a question you’d like us to answer? Email it to amancostigan@gmail.com and we’ll answer it anonymously! HOW TO WORK WITH US: How we work with couples [https://www.amancostigan.com/program]   CONNECT WITH US AT Aman Costigan on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/amancostigan/] and on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/aman-costigan-56b6994b/] Tom Costigan on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-costigan-89979879/]   ** RATE, REVIEW & FOLLOW ** Help us connect with more driven couples by giving us a 5-star rating! It takes less than 90 seconds, and it really helps spread the word about Marriage with Intention.  Or simply text a friend about the podcast to let them know what you love about it!  Be sure to FOLLOW to our show so you don’t miss an episode!

#26: Do We Regret Leaving Our Law Careers? Listener Q&A.

What happens after you built the careers. And then you walked away from all of it - with a 2 year old and baby on the way --- one month apart from each other?!  In this deeply reflective episode, we answer another listener question: “Do you ever think about if you made the right decision leaving your law careers?” Because even when you’ve done the math, made the spreadsheets, built the runway and created a life people admire (and are also confused about) … That doesn’t mean the internal questions go away. We share: * What helped us actually make the leap (hint: it wasn’t just financial prep) * The emotional cost of walking away from something we worked so hard to build * How we’ve handled the waves of doubt and what we remind ourselves of when they creep in * A rare moment at swimming lessons that reminded us why this decision matters so much * Why the “worst case” isn’t what you think AND how the “best case” is better than we imagined This is the kind of episode that will feel like an exhale for anyone who’s questioning the path they’re on, whether you’ve made a big leap already or you’re standing on the edge wondering what if.   Have a question you’d like us to answer? Email it to amancostigan@gmail.com and we’ll answer it anonymously! HOW TO WORK WITH US OUR WEBSITE: How we work with couples [https://www.amancostigan.com/program] CONNECT WITH US AT Aman Costigan on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/amancostigan/] and on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/aman-costigan-56b6994b/] Tom Costigan on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-costigan-89979879/] Our Facebook Page [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61559579623332] ** RATE, REVIEW & FOLLOW ** Help us connect with more driven couples by giving us a 5-star rating! It takes less than 90 seconds, and it really helps spread the word about Marriage with Intention.  Or simply text a friend about the podcast to let them know what you love about it!  Be sure to FOLLOW to our show so you don’t miss an episode!