She's Not Done

Should Married Women Maintain Financial Independence?

In this deeply honest conversation, we unpack one of the most important and often avoided topics in relationships: financial independence in marriage and motherhood. What does it really mean to be financially independent in a partnership? Should couples keep money separate, combine everything, or build a hybrid system based on income percentages? We explore real-life experiences of balancing careers, motherhood, and marriage—and what happens when financial structures aren’t clearly discussed. From stay-at-home motherhood and unpaid labor, to divorce, 401Ks, and financial insecurity, this episode opens up the conversations many couples never have until it’s too late. We also dive into: * The emotional impact of not earning an income while raising children * How financial control (or lack of transparency) affects relationships * Divorce realities and rebuilding financial independence * The importance of financial literacy for women * Why “hard conversations” about money should happen early in relationships This is not about right or wrong—it’s about awareness, preparation, and empowerment. Whether you're married, divorced, a parent, or building your financial future, this episode will make you rethink how money, value, and partnership truly connect. #momlife #momstruggles #workingmom #momtruth #financialindependence  00:00 – Feeling financially “less than” in a relationship Opening reflection on self-worth and not contributing financially. 04:00 – Should women be financially independent in marriage? Debate on separate accounts vs shared money systems. 08:00 – Percentage-based financial systems in relationships How couples split expenses based on income ratios. 12:00 – The reality of being a stay-at-home parent Sacrifice, home building, and invisible labor. 16:00 – Divorce and the financial shock afterward Loss of security, income reduction, and rebuilding life. 20:00 – Unpaid labor and feeling undervalued Emotional toll of raising children without financial recognition. 24:00 – Resentment, imbalance, and communication breakdown How emotional and financial imbalance affects marriages. 28:00 – Financial literacy gaps women face Credit cards, mortgages, and lack of financial education. 32:00 – Divorce, 401Ks, and legal financial complexity Negotiations, retirement accounts, and legal systems. 36:00 – Society’s pressure on working vs staying home Judgment, expectations, and conflicting standards for women. 40:00 – Value, control, and emotional labor in relationships Feeling unseen when contributions aren’t monetary. 44:00 – Advice: financial independence & hard conversations early Why couples should plan financially for “what if” scenarios. Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ [https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/] Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod [https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod] Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod [https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod] Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio [https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio]

Introduction of Andrea & Kouelee

In this introductory episode of She’s Not Done, Andrea and Kouelee share who they are, where they come from, and why this podcast exists. From divorce and motherhood to marriage, identity, and the unspoken realities women carry, this conversation sets the tone for what’s to come: honest, unfiltered discussions about life, relationships, and everything in between. They open up about the shame and silence often surrounding divorce, marriage struggles, mom guilt, intimacy, and emotional honesty — and why they believe these topics need to be talked about more openly. The goal is simple: to create a space where women feel seen, understood, and less alone. This is not about having it all figured out — it’s about sharing life as it is. Because we’re not done. Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ [https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/] Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod [https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod] Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod [https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod] Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio [https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio]

Why Modern Women are Mentally Exhausted From Doing It All

In this episode of She’s Not Done, Andrea and Kouelee get brutally honest about the kind of exhaustion no one really prepares women for — the mental load, emotional burnout, motherhood guilt, relationships, divorce, marriage, and the pressure to “do it all.” From being touched out by toddlers to carrying the invisible weight of everyone’s schedules, emotions, and needs, this conversation dives into what modern motherhood really feels like behind closed doors. They unpack the difference between traditional and modern women, why so many moms feel emotionally drained before physically tired, and how communication can either save a relationship or slowly destroy it. The episode also explores friendships in adulthood, learning to say no without guilt, why women struggle to relinquish control, and the emotional role moms play as the “safe place” for their children. This is the conversation every exhausted woman needs to hear — honest, validating, funny, emotional, and deeply relatable. Because being exhausted doesn’t mean you’re failing…  00:00 – Intro + “Women entered the workforce, but men didn’t fully enter the home” 01:15 – Feeling exhausted and finally taking time to rest 03:10 – The difference between modern women and traditional women 05:45 – The pressure of carrying financial, emotional, and household responsibilities 07:30 – Mom guilt, needing breaks, and learning to say no 10:15 – Feeling emotionally “on” 24/7 as a mother 13:00 – Doing everything yourself and the resentment that builds 16:20 – Trust issues in relationships when help never follows through 19:10 – Marriage, communication, and how honest conversations saved their relationship 22:00 – Emotional exhaustion vs. physical exhaustion 25:15 – Mental overload and constantly thinking about the next task 28:40 – Learning to walk away, regroup, and stop fixing everything 31:20 – Friendships as adults and how exhausting one-sided relationships can be 35:00 – Isolation, shutting down, and overstimulation as a mom 38:10 – Being “touched out” and struggling to stay present with kids 41:00 – The invisible mental load moms carry every day 44:15 – Raising daughters differently and breaking generational patterns 47:00 – Double standards for moms vs. dads in parenting 49:10 – The shift happening in younger generations and relationships 51:00 – Final thoughts: learning to say no and remembering you’re not alone Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ [https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/] Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod [https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod] Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod [https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod] Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio [https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio]

Mom Guilt: Working Moms vs Stay-At-Home Moms

In this episode of She’s Not Done, Andrea and Kouelee dive into the reality of modern motherhood, partnership, and the constant mental load that comes with trying to “do it all.” From working moms to stay-at-home moms, they unpack the invisible expectations, the guilt that follows every choice, and the impossible standard of being everything to everyone. They talk openly about intimacy in long-term relationships, the struggle of balancing career and parenting, and the emotional weight of never feeling fully “caught up” at home or work. The conversation moves between personal stories and honest reflections on divorce, marriage, identity, and what it really means to be present. At the heart of it all is one message: no matter what path you choose—working, staying home, or somewhere in between—you’re still not done figuring it out, evolving, and redefining what success and motherhood look like for you. 0:00 – 1:18 – Exhaustion, intimacy, and introduction to motherhood realities + hosts 1:18 – 4:14 – Mom guilt: real vs taught + expectations vs reality of motherhood 4:14 – 8:50 – Working mom vs stay-at-home mom + mental load and identity 8:50 – 12:32 – Parenting styles, judgment, and “I could never do that” comparisons 12:32 – 18:23 – Identity pressure, sacrifice, and the reality of doing everything imperfectly 18:23 – 24:20 – Mental overload, social media comparison, and constant judgment 24:20 – 30:11 – Career gaps, missed opportunities, and long-term trade-offs 30:11 – 38:20 – “She’s Not Done” mindset + emotional load in relationships and divorce dynamics 38:20 – end – Redefining guilt, presence, family life, and what quality time really means Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ [https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/] Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod [https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod] Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod [https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod] Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio [https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio]

Motherhood Has A Way Of Bringing Back Our Past

In this emotional Mother’s Day episode of She’s Not Done, Andrea and Kouelee dive into the complicated feelings motherhood can bring — pride, guilt, grief, healing, disappointment, and unconditional love. They open up about the pressure and expectations surrounding Mother’s Day, the pain of feeling unseen, and how becoming mothers changed the way they viewed their own parents. From difficult mother-daughter relationships to breaking generational cycles, this conversation explores how childhood wounds can shape adulthood — and how healing begins when we choose to self-reflect instead of repeat patterns. The episode also touches on learning to let go of unhealthy relationships, parenting with emotional awareness, apologizing to your children, and raising kids differently than we were raised ourselves. This is an honest conversation about motherhood in all its forms: the beautiful, the heartbreaking, the messy, and the healing. Because sometimes becoming a mother forces you to finally confront the child within yourself. Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ [https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/] Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod [https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod] Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod [https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod] Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio [https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio]