The Divorce Queens

Episode 10: Housing After Divorce: What You Need, What You Can Afford, and What’s Realistic

One of the first — and most emotional — questions women ask in divorce is: "Can I keep the house?" In this candid and educational episode, Taylor and Rachel sit down with Tina Hagen, mortgage loan originator at Guild Mortgage, to explore the biggest real estate questions that come up during and after divorce. Whether you're hoping to refinance and stay in the family home, wondering what’s realistic based on your income, or facing pressure to sell and start fresh — this episode will walk you through what’s actually possible. We cover: What lenders look for when you’re trying to refinance post-divorce How equity, debt, and support payments impact mortgage eligibility Smart timelines for buying, selling, or waiting When it makes financial sense to stay vs. let go Creative solutions when one party can't qualify on their own Tina brings warmth, facts, and a whole lot of common sense to a conversation that feels overwhelming for many. If you're navigating housing decisions in your divorce — don’t miss this one. Guest Resources: 🔗 Visit Tina Hagen’s website: https://www.mortgageswithtina.com [https://www.mortgageswithtina.com] Upcoming events: Stop Renting: Start Owning: https://calendly.com/aweaver-guildmortgage/budgeting-clone [https://calendly.com/aweaver-guildmortgage/budgeting-clone] The Credit Building Blueprint: https://calendly.com/aweaver-guildmortgage/stop-renting-start-owning-your-first-home-sta-clone-1 [https://calendly.com/aweaver-guildmortgage/stop-renting-start-owning-your-first-home-sta-clone-1] Connect with us: 📲 Taylor: @mom.lawyer.divorced 📲 Rachel: @racheltalksdivorce 📥 Got questions or a story to share? Slide into our DMs — we’re here for it. 💬 Divorce isn’t the end of your story. It’s the beginning of your comeback.

Episode 9: Finding Your People After Divorce

Your people matter—especially when you’re navigating divorce, single motherhood, and a co-parenting dynamic that may feel like a daily emotional rollercoaster. This week on The Divorce Queens Podcast, Taylor (@mom.lawyer.divorced) and Rachel (@racheltalksdivorce) sit down to unpack what happens when your community shifts after divorce—and how to intentionally rebuild it from the ground up. We share how our support systems changed (or disappeared) during our own divorces, the judgment we felt, and how we created new connections that were rooted in shared experience, real talk, and mutual growth. From church friends to soccer squads, from MOPS moms to Facebook groups—this episode is about how you find your people and hold on tight. You’ll hear: Why the loneliest part of your marriage might come before the divorce How to build new friendships when your old ones don’t fit anymore The importance of having different types of support: practical, emotional, social Why community based on shared values and interests is key Tips for finding (or creating) support—Facebook groups, divorce meetups, nonprofit circles, coaching programs, and beyond A reminder that you’re not too much, too broken, or too far gone—you’re becoming 💡 Whether you’re newly single or years past your divorce, this one will remind you: you don’t have to do it alone. Resources & Mentions: Follow Taylor: @mom.lawyer.divorced Follow Rachel: @racheltalksdivorce Join the Facebook Community: Divorce Queens [https://www.facebook.com/groups/824353083415043]

Episode 8: When the House Is Quiet: Coping With Missing Your Kids

Whether it’s your first weekend away from your kids or your hundredth, the silence can still hit hard. In this heartfelt and honest episode, Taylor and Rachel open up about what it’s really like to miss your kids when they’re with the other parent — and how they’ve learned to cope, adapt, and even thrive during parenting time transitions. They talk about the early days of post-divorce parenting schedules, what evolved over time, and how they’ve both cried, coped, and learned to build full lives in the “off” moments without their children. From sleeping in and pottery nights to dancing, dating, and even doing off-duty parenting on weekends “off,” this episode is your reminder that you’re allowed to feel it all — and still live your life. In this episode: * How their parenting time schedules started vs. how they’re going * The guilt of missing moments — and the power of making new ones * What it’s like when parenting time isn’t “equal” * Why it's okay to cry and be relieved when the kids leave * How off-duty weekends often still involve parenting * Building joy, hobbies, and relationships outside of your kids * Reframing alone time as opportunity — not punishment Links & Resources: Follow Taylor on IG: @mom.lawyer.divorced Follow Rachel on IG: @racheltalksdivorce 💬 Got questions? Slide into our DMs — we want to hear from you. 🖤 Divorce isn’t the end of your story. It’s the beginning of your comeback.

Episode 7: Helping Kids Heal From Divorce and High Conflict Co-Parenting With AJ Gajjar

In this powerful episode, we’re joined by AJ Gajjar—therapist, trauma-informed coach, mom, and founder of The Trauma Healing Parent. Together, we get real about how divorce and high-conflict co-parenting can impact kids—and what we can do to support their healing. We talk about what trauma-informed parenting actually looks like, how to help our kids hold space for hard truths, and how to start breaking generational cycles without making ourselves feel like failures. If you’ve ever worried that your kids are getting caught in the middle, that you’re doing it all wrong, or that the system won’t protect them—this conversation is for you. We see you, we’ve lived it, and we’re doing it with you. Highlights: What “emotional buckets” are and how to fill them How to tell if your child is showing trauma symptoms or normal stress responses Why regulating your nervous system is key to helping your kids How to handle triggers without feeling like a bad parent What to do when you're the safe parent but still feel like the scapegoat Supporting kids who have experienced loyalty binds or alienation Creating safety when your co-parent’s home feels unpredictable How to talk about trauma and divorce without guilt or shame 🔗 Resources Mentioned: AJ’s book collab: Children's Mental Health Matters [https://www.amazon.com/Childrens-Mental-Health-Matters-Collaborative/dp/1739617959] AJ's website: www.thetraumahealingparent.com [http://www.thetraumahealingparent.com] Follow Taylor: @mom.lawyer.divorced [https://www.instagram.com/mom.lawyer.divorced/] Follow Rachel: @racheltalksdivorce [https://www.instagram.com/racheltalksdivorce/]

Episode 6: How Divorce Actually Works

Divorce isn't just a legal process—it’s an emotional and logistical transformation. In this episode of The Divorce Queens Podcast, Taylor and Rachel break down exactly what to expect in the divorce process. Whether you’re just thinking about separating or are mid-way through your case, this episode will help you understand what has to happen in every divorce: gathering information, making informed decisions, and choosing the right path forward. You’ll learn: What decisions have to be made in every divorce (no matter how you do it) The importance of understanding your finances, parenting dynamics, and long-term goals Why you shouldn’t wait to gather documents and get clarity—even if you’re not ready to file The different process options: DIY Mediation Collaborative divorce Hybrid models Traditional legal representation Tips for choosing the right approach for your unique situation How to avoid rushing into agreements you’ll regret later Plus, we talk about what can go wrong when you try to “just get it over with” and why a little strategy now can save you years of frustration later. 💬 Favorite quote: “Divorce is about decisions. You have to make them for yourself, your family, and your future. No one else gets to dictate what that looks like—not even the court—unless you give up that power.” 🔗 Resources Mentioned: LawHelpMN.org [lawhelpmn.org] (for MN-specific legal info) The Cooperative Divorce Kit (Taylor & Rachel’s divorce coaching program) 🎧 Tune in if you're: Contemplating divorce but not sure where to start Already separated and overwhelmed by logistics Wanting to keep things amicable, but not at your own expense Looking for a smarter, more supported way to divorce Connect with us on social!! @thetaylorwinds @racheltalksdivorce Or book 1:1 time with us by email at taylor@taylorwinds.com [taylor@taylorwinds.com] rachel@rachelkennedymediation.com [rachel@rachelkennedymediation.com]  💌 Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share the podcast with someone who needs to hear it. This is just the beginning—your new life starts here.