Be The Torch

Why Smart Leaders Lose Their Team’s Trust Without Realizing It

Most leaders believe trust is earned through vision, values, and competence. It isn’t. People don’t trust your words. They trust your patterns. In this LIVE conversation, I break down why smart, capable leaders lose their team’s trust without realizing it and what separates leaders people follow from leaders people quietly manage around. You’ll learn: * The subtle behaviors that cause teams to filter the truth * Why mission-driven leadership fails under pressure * How your reactions, not your intentions, define your leadership * The difference between being respected and being accommodated * A practical framework to lead with calm, consistency, and authority This isn’t about being nicer. It’s not about lowering standards. And it’s not about abandoning your mission. It’s about leading in a way people trust when it matters most. FROM THE EPISODE: The Practical Tool: The Fire Mirror Audit After any tense moment, ask: 1. What triggered me? 2. Which fire showed up? 3. What truth was exposed? 4. What needs repair, ownership, or a boundary? Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life? START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus [https://www.cletuscoffey.com/bookacall] If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you: Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work. Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning.   Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now! [https://www.cletuscoffey.com/morning] 1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW!  https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist [https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist] 2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey [https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey] 3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey [https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey]

Life Is A Mirror: Why Your Triggers Are Costing You Power, Profit And Peace

Most men are playing victim and blame everything around them. Her. The kids. The employees. The economy. Meanwhile their body is softening, their relationship is flat, the business is stuck and they keep attracting the same chaos in different clothing. In this solo episode, Cletus breaks down one of the core Be The Torch principles: life is a mirror, not a verdict. Your results in business, your body, your relationships and your bank account are feedback, not a life sentence. You’ll hear Cletus walk through: * Why your relationship, bank account and body are a scoreboard that only shows feedback * How victim mindset quietly weakens men and kills leadership at home and in business * The real reason you keep attracting the same toxic relationship or bad hires on your team * How to use triggers as a signal instead of a reason to explode or shut down * What it looks like to live with standards, a personal code and real self respect * How to become the dad your kids can trust when they screw up, not the one they fear This is straight talk for driven dad entrepreneurs who are tired of repeating the same patterns in their marriage, dating, co parenting and business. 🔹 Ready to stop playing the blame game and build standards you actually live by? If you want to accelerate your growth and results.. book a complimentary connection call with Cletus and see what Be The Torch program is your best next step: 👉 https://www.cletuscoffey.com/bookacall Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life? START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus [https://www.cletuscoffey.com/bookacall] If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you: Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work. Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning.   Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now! [https://www.cletuscoffey.com/morning] 1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW!  https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist [https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist] 2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey [https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey] 3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey [https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey]

How to Tell If You’re Headed for Divorce, Burnout, or a Business Breakdown

Dude, you don’t need a psychic to predict the future, you just need the balls to look in the mirror. In this episode, Cletus Coffey exposes how your current habits, beliefs, and standards quietly predict whether you’ll face divorce, burnout, or business collapse. You’ll learn how to read the signs, raise your standards, and stop the breakdown before it happens. Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life? START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus [https://www.cletuscoffey.com/bookacall] If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you: Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work. Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning.   Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now! [https://www.cletuscoffey.com/morning] 1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW!  https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist [https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist] 2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey [https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey] 3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey [https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey]

You Mad Bro? Squash Anger Today, Before Your Kids Copy It

You snap at your kids? Lose it with your partner? Let pressure dictate your decisions?  It’s not about them my friend. It’s about you. And if you don’t get this under control, you’ll burn trust, connection, and energy that you can’t afford to lose. In this episode of the Be The Torch Podcast, Cletus Coffey shares the Torch Treatment™ A 7-step recalibration tool that helps you regulate your emotions, stop reacting from old patterns, and start leading from power and presence. Discover: * How triggers sabotage your leadership and relationships * The step-by-step Torch Treatment™ process * Why this tool can be done in 3 minutes or less * How to shift from chaos and guilt to power and peace 🔥 DM me on Instagram @CletusCoffey [https://instagram.com/cletuscoffey] to get the free Torch Treatment™ guide.  👉 Book a call with Cletus to map this into a 3 step plan: https://cletuscoffey.com/bookacall Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life? START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus [https://www.cletuscoffey.com/bookacall] If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you: Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work. Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning.   Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now! [https://www.cletuscoffey.com/morning] 1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW!  https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist [https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist] 2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey [https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey] 3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey [https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey]

Your Kids, Your Business, and YOU… All Getting Screwed

The Impossible Triangle That’s Screwing You..and Everyone Else If you’re a divorced dad running a business, you’ve been sold a lie that you can give 100% to your business, 100% to your kids, and 100% to yourself. The math doesn't add up. It’s impossible, and it’s killing you. In this episode of Be The Torch, I break down the brutal reality of the “Impossible Triangle” every divorced dad entrepreneur faces—business, kids, and rebuilding yourself—and why trying to “balance” them will burn you out. We’ll walk through: * Why “balance” is a losing game * How to merge your three missions into ONE man * The guilt trap you’ve been living in (and how to crush it) * The IGNITE Method for taking back your time, energy, and control 🎯 Join me LIVE for the Guilt to Greatness Workshop 🗓 Thursday, August 14, 2025 | 10 AM PT / 1 PM ET ✅ 2.5 hours of interactive, AI-driven coaching to apply the IGNITE Method to your life 💰 Just $10  You put skin in the game and transformation in your hands 👉 Register here: https://cletuscoffey.com/guilttogreatness Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life? START HERE: Book a Call with Cletus [https://www.cletuscoffey.com/bookacall] If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you: Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work. Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning.   Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now! [https://www.cletuscoffey.com/morning] 1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW!  https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist [https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist] 2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey [https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey] 3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey [https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey]