Build It Messy

When Delayed Doesn't Mean Denied Finding Peace in God's Timing

There's a gap between where you thought you'd be and where you are. Between the promise you felt and the fulfillment you're still waiting for. That gap can become the enemy of faith if the story you're telling yourself isn't the right one. I get honest about turning 60, starting something completely new, and what it means to trust God's timeline when it doesn't align with your own. I unpack three truths about delay, grief, and wholeness that will shift how you see the season you're in right now. This one's for anyone who's ever felt behind, off course, or like they missed their moment. You're not late. You're right on time. Key Timestamps:  [00:00:00] Introduction [00:04:17] Turning 60 and starting something new [00:05:03] The gap between promise and fulfillment [00:07:11] Three truths about God’s timeline [00:07:57] Joseph: From pit to palace [00:09:28] Grieving your timeline [00:14:24] The graduation party conversation [00:15:52] His timing is always right Memorable Quotes: "Trust isn't believing He'll come through. Trust is believing that He knows the right moment when it's best for you." [00:10:17] – Kimber Allen "The outcome is just the byproduct of who you've become through some of the delays and some of the setbacks." [00:11:31] – Kimber Allen If this resonates with you, you’ll feel at home in our Skool community where we build beautiful lives not perfectly, but honestly, faith-first, and with the courage to start before you’re ready: https://www.skool.com/build-it-messy-3088 [https://www.skool.com/build-it-messy-3088].  Links Mentioned In This Episode: Connect with Kimber Allen: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlya.co [https://www.instagram.com/kimberlya.co] Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com

The Four Lies about Vulnerability-the Truth That Flips Each One

There's something you're carrying that doesn't have a name yet. It's not quite fear, not quite sadness. Just a gnawing that shows up in the quiet moments, the thing you've gotten really good at editing out of your story for everyone else. In this episode, I'm sitting down with you like we're on the couch with coffee, unpacking four lies we've believed about vulnerability. It’s not the kind that overshares with everyone, but the kind that brings your real self before God and the people He placed in your life, because the edited version of you can't do what the real version of you was called to do. If you've ever felt like you need to hold it all together, like your struggle means your faith isn't working, or like the full version of you is just too much, this one's for you. Key Timestamps:  [00:00:00] Introduction[00:00:52] What fear really means in Scripture [00:01:18] Vulnerability is the courage to be seen [00:05:52] The unspoken thing without a name yet [00:08:41] What vulnerability really is [00:11:08] Lie #1: Strong people hold it together [00:14:52] Lie #2: Struggle means your faith isn’t working [00:16:08] Lie #3: Struggle should stay private [00:20:41] Lie #4: The real me is too much [00:23:18] “There was a lot of Kimber in your talk.” [00:25:18] Jesus in the garden: the model of vulnerability Memorable Quotes: "Vulnerability is actually courage, and it's the courage to be seen, to be known before God and before the people He placed in your life." [00:08:33] – Kimber Allen "The edited version of you can't do what the real version of you was called to do." [00:22:56] – Kimber Allen And if you’re ready to stop building your life from perfection and start building it from honesty, faith, and courage, come join my Skool community where we’re learning to build beautiful lives before we feel fully ready: https://www.skool.com/build-it-messy-3088 [https://www.skool.com/build-it-messy-3088].  Links Mentioned In This Episode: 30-Minute Discovery Call: insert link here Connect with Kimber Allen: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlya.co [https://www.instagram.com/kimberlya.co] Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com

Courage in the Messy Middle: How to Keep Going When You Can't See What's Ahead

The middle is where most people quit, and not because they lack vision or desire, but because they're tired. They're empty. They've been enduring so long they've forgotten what it feels like to hope without flinching. I sit with that tension in this episode. I don’t offer shortcuts or platitudes. Instead, I walk through what it actually takes to keep going when the foundation is poured, but the walls aren't up yet. When you're not where you were, but you're not where you're going either. I talk about endurance that doesn't numb out, character that's formed in the waiting, and the power of just one more step. This isn't about pushing through for the sake of productivity, but staying present, staying faithful, and trusting that what God is building in you during this season could not be built any other way. Key Timestamps:  [00:00:00] Introduction [00:02:45] Holding onto hope on hard days [00:05:12] Building faith, courage, and endurance [00:08:50] Faith vs. surviving on fumes [00:11:34] The messy middle builds character [00:13:42] The power of one more step [00:15:28] My messy middle: building this podcast [00:18:00] Hives, stress, and my father’s wisdom Memorable Quotes: "There's a difference between enduring with faith and surviving on fumes. One keeps your heart open and the other slowly closes it." [00:08:51] – Kimber Allen "In this messy middle is where our character is formed." [00:09:52] – Kimber Allen And if you’re in that in-between place too, you can join my Skool community where we build together: Beautiful lives aren’t built perfectly, they are built honestly, faith-first, and with courage to start before you’re ready; we build the life that’s been waiting for you because you are not broken, you are building: https://www.skool.com/build-it-messy-3088 [https://www.skool.com/build-it-messy-3088].  Links Mentioned In This Episode: Connect with Kimber Allen: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlya.co [https://www.instagram.com/kimberlya.co] Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com

Building on Honesty When You Don't Feel Ready

The life you're waiting to start might already be under construction. I walk through what it means to build a foundation that can actually hold weight, the kind that doesn't crack when the storms hit. I’m not talking about perfection or curation. I’m talking about confession, surrender, and the daily practice of showing up even when you don't feel equipped. Through stories from the construction site, the gym, and my own quiet mornings with a journal, I unpack the three things required to build anything that lasts: an honest inventory, the faith to move toward what you're being called to, and the courage to walk through it even when it's embarrassing. This isn't about waiting until you're ready, but starting messy and staying faithful. If you've been sitting on something you know you're supposed to do, this episode will give you the push you need to take the next step. Key Timestamps: [00:00:00] Introduction [00:02:10] Site foundation walk [00:03:07] Curate vs. confess: God’s intent [00:04:13] Daily foundation habits [00:05:33] Life inventory check [00:07:48] Growth talk with son [00:09:19] Journaling for self-discovery [00:10:27] Courage moves faith [00:10:39] Lost at the gym story [00:14:23] Workout breakdown [00:15:13] Starting over daily practice [00:15:24] Evaluate your foundation Memorable Quotes: "The world tells us to curate, but I truly believe that God wants us to confess." [00:03:01] – Kimber Allen "Courage is the muscle that makes that faith move." [00:10:18] – Kimber Allen If you’re ready to build alongside people doing the same, you can join the Skool community here: https://www.skool.com/build-it-messy-3088. Where we build beautiful lives not through perfection, but through honesty, faith-first living, and the courage to start before you're ready. Connect with Kimber Allen: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlya.co Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com

The Man I Chose vs. The Man God Chose

Sometimes the people who love you most will tell you the hardest truth. For me, it came over champagne at 10 p.m., three months before my wedding. My best friends drove up from South Carolina to tell me I was marrying the wrong person. I knew they were right. I also knew my entire life was about to unravel. This is the story of how one conversation, one picnic, and one still small voice in a closet changed the trajectory of everything. It's about the courage it takes to walk away from what's familiar and step into what's unknown. It's about surrendering control and trusting that the mess you're standing in might actually be the path forward. Life doesn't always unfold neatly. But when you look back, you can see where every tangled thread was leading you all along. Key Timestamps: [00:00:00] Introduction [01:53:00] Building a business and raising three boys [02:53:00] The 4th of July visit that changed everything [04:12:00] "You're marrying the wrong person" [05:31:00] Meeting John at the Jefferson Memorial [06:44:00] The conversation with Dad [07:34:00] The picnic and the breakup [08:44:00] The wedding gown and the still small voice [10:08:00] Taking the step of courage Memorable Quotes: "I really felt like it was the Lord talking to me. He said, get up. You will wear that wedding gown, but it'll be with the man that I've chosen for you, not who you've chosen for you." [00:08:52] – Kimber Allen "Life is not always perfect, and it's not as we always see it, but boy, it's pretty exciting when we just allow things to unfold in our pure obedience and surrendering." [00:10:48] – Kimber Allen And if you’re ready to start building honestly, faith-first, and before you feel fully ready, you can step into that journey here: https://www.skool.com/build-it-messy-3088 Connect with Kimber Allen: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlya.co Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com