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Episode 18: Tiny Wins, Big Impact with Samantha Buente

Big goals are cute. Tiny steps are powerful. This week, we’re joined by Samantha Buente to talk about why “something is better than nothing” isn’t lowering the bar, it’s how real progress actually happens. We unpack negative self-talk, the freeze response, and the myth that you need motivation (or a perfect plan) to get started. No productivity pressure, just practical ways to quiet your inner critic and build momentum, one small win at a time. Takeaway: Progress doesn’t have to be dramatic to be meaningful. One imperfect step is enough to shift your mood, your mindset, and your momentum. https://www.mysafetyplan.org [https://www.mysafetyplan.org]

Episode 17: Global & Grounded with Dr. Diana Rodriguez Quevedo

Moving to a new country or even a new campus can come with excitement, pressure, and a whole lot of “Why does this feel so hard?” This week, we talk with Dr. Diana Rodriguez Quevedo about culture shock, belonging, and what adjustment really looks like. We bust common myths, name the emotional side of transition, and share ways students can feel more grounded while finding their footing. TAKEAWAY Struggling to adjust doesn’t mean you don’t belong, it means you’re human in a new environment. Culture shock is part of the process, and support makes a difference.

Episode 16: Connectedness? In this Economy? With Dr. Rachel Carpenter

Feeling like everyone else already has their people? This week, we’re talking connection — the real kind. We’re joined by the Dean of Student Affairs to break down what it actually means to feel connected on campus, why loneliness is more common than you think, and how small steps (not personality makeovers) can help you build belonging over time. No pressure, no forced friendships just honest conversation about finding your place. Takeaway: You don’t have to be everywhere or know everyone to belong. Connection grows through small moments — and you’re allowed to find it at your own pace.

Episode 15: Careers? I'm Still Figuring Out Lunch with Adam James

Career panic, but make it honest. This week, we’re joined by a career advocate Adam James to talk about jobs, majors, and the pressure to have it all figured out — without the “5-year plan” energy. We unpack why feeling behind is actually very normal, bust some big career myths, and share realistic ways to move forward when your brain says “I’ll deal with this later.” Takeaway: Not knowing your next step doesn’t mean you’re failing — it means you’re human. Careers aren’t one big decision, they’re a series of small, changeable choices.

Episode 14: Muscles are Cool, but have you Tried Therapy? with Dr. Matt Powless

This week, we talk with Dr. Matt Powless about pressure, performance, and men’s mental health in college. We break down what sports psychology really is, why mental health struggles often get overlooked in high-achieving students and athletes, and how the pressure to always “handle it” can quietly add up. No tough-it-out mentality — just honest conversation about doing well without burning out. Takeaway: Caring for your mental health doesn’t hold you back — it helps you keep going. Strong performance starts with support, not silence.