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The Courage To Live Differently | A Spiritual Deep Dive Into Step 10

The Courage To Live Differently | A Spiritual Deep Dive Into Step 10 Is your ego still running a cover up operation for your old stinking thinking? We love to celebrate getting through the big clean up of steps eight and nine. We think because we cleared out the decades of wreckage we are suddenly bulletproof. But the minute you stop paying attention your old dry drunk attitude pokes its head right back up. You start fuming at people in secret, keeping a scoreboard of offenses, and demanding that everyone else bow to your ego. That is not recovery. That is just a polished version of the same old chaos. Step 10 is the daily weed barrier. It forces you to come face to face with the ugly things popping up in your heart before they turn into a monster plant that spreads seeds everywhere. If you are snapping at your spouse or trying to verbally destroy people who talk about you, your alignment is off. Real transformation requires you to drop the defensive act, eat the crow, and pull the weed the second it sprouts. What is the old stinking thinking thought you caught yourself slipping into today? Heidi is continuing her raw, spiritual deep dive into the 12 steps. This series delivers a mechanical framework for true life alteration whether you are fighting a chemical dependency or just tired of your own ego. Subscribe to the YouTube channel at www.youtube.com/@sobernotboring [https://www.youtube.com/@sobernotboring] and look for the Outreach 419 Recovery Church Playlist to watch the full series. #Step10 #RecoveryChurch #Outreach419 #SoberNotBoring #12Steps #DailyAccountability #EgoCheck #SpiritualAlignment #Honesty   00:00 Step 10 Overview 01:31 Weed Barrier Maintenance 05:46 Ego and Quick Amends 10:44 Plumb Line to Jesus 19:32 Honesty in the Light 38:34 Serving Over Spotlight 39:50 Sabbath And God’s Voice 44:13 Weeds And Workplace Witness 48:23 Home Marriage And Kids 54:40 Tech Cleanup And Daily Amends

The Courage To Make Amends | A Spiritual Deep Dive Into Step 9

The Courage To Make Amends: A Spiritual Deep Dive Into Step 9 In this session, Heidi explores the "Spiritual Mechanics" of Step 9, moving beyond the "lite apology" into the restorative work of balancing the scales. This isn't about checking a box; it's about the courage to show up and give back what was stolen—whether that is money, security, or years of "ghosting" those we love. Key Teaching Points: * The Zacchaeus Math: Understanding why true restoration often requires going above and beyond to repair the "peace of mind" we damaged [09:02 [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-VLQD5nZigU&t=542]]. * The Walking Back: Lessons from the Prodigal Son on the physical act of returning and owning our mess without excuses [10:46 [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-VLQD5nZigU&t=646]]. * Living Amends: How to handle situations where your amends are rejected or ignored, and why your life must become the testimony [24:18 [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-VLQD5nZigU&t=1458]]. * Amends to Self: The vital work of restoring your own "temple" after years of self-neglect and verbal abuse [40:05 [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-VLQD5nZigU&t=2405]]. * The Bridge: How Jesus acts as the ultimate bridge for the debts we are humanly incapable of paying [26:52 [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-VLQD5nZigU&t=1612]]. The Goal: To walk away free from the "pig pen" of shame and into the "fruit of the spirit" life God intended for you. Watch the message: https://youtu.be/-VLQD5nZigU [https://youtu.be/-VLQD5nZigU] Download the FREE Sober Not Boring App at www.sobernotboring.app Learn more about our Recovery Community Organization at www.outreach419.com [https://www.outreach419.com]   00:00 Recovery and Spiritual Steps 01:55 Amends Beyond Words 04:48 Zacchaeus Restoring Security 13:31 Family Amends Without Expectations 24:42 Onesimus Living Amends 32:25 Walking Back Home 39:23 Amends Beyond Words 40:03 Restoring Yourself 43:45 Sabbath and Community 55:48 Let It Go

The Courage To Make A List  |  A Spiritual Deep Dive Into Step 8

The Courage To Make A List  |  A Spiritual Deep Dive Into Step 8 You are the most important name missing from your own amends list. We’re good at making lists of the people we’ve hurt. We’ll list the friends, the family, and the coworkers. But we almost always leave one person off: the one in the mirror. I spent 40 years "pickling" my body and mind with chaos. I carried a 25lb weight of guilt and shame every single day, thinking I had to pay for my past. But Step 8 isn't just about who you’ve harmed out there; it’s about acknowledging the harm you’ve done right here. Coming to your senses in the "pig pen" of life means realizing that the Father is already running toward you. It’s time to put your own name on the list and stop carrying a debt that Jesus already covered. Watch the full Deep Dive into Step 8: https://youtu.be/8N3Fo5wbJvc [https://youtu.be/8N3Fo5wbJvc]  When was the last time you actually forgave yourself for the years you lost to the struggle? #Step8 #Recovery #SelfAmends #SoberNotBoring #Outreach419 #12Steps #TheCourageToMakeAList #Healing #Grace   00:00 Heavy Calling 01:24 Step Eight Reframed 04:32 Put Yourself on List 06:18 God Chasing Prodigal 09:44 Willingness Begins 13:24 See Yourself as Loved 24:09 Drop Shame Pigpen 31:42 Truth Boundaries Joy 34:58 Psalm 103 Mercy 40:04 Freedom and Closing

The Courage To Make A List | A Spiritual Deep Dive Into Step 8

The Courage To Make A List  |  A Spiritual Deep Dive Into Step 8 You are the most important name missing from your own amends list. We’re good at making lists of the people we’ve hurt. We’ll list the friends, the family, and the coworkers. But we almost always leave one person off: the one in the mirror. I spent 40 years "pickling" my body and mind with chaos. I carried a 25lb weight of guilt and shame every single day, thinking I had to pay for my past. But Step 8 isn't just about who you’ve harmed out there; it’s about acknowledging the harm you’ve done right here. Coming to your senses in the "pig pen" of life means realizing that the Father is already running toward you. It’s time to put your own name on the list and stop carrying a debt that Jesus already covered. Watch the full Deep Dive into Step 8: https://youtu.be/8N3Fo5wbJvc [https://youtu.be/8N3Fo5wbJvc]  When was the last time you actually forgave yourself for the years you lost to the struggle? #Step8 #Recovery #SelfAmends #SoberNotBoring #Outreach419 #12Steps #TheCourageToMakeAList #Healing #Grace   00:00 Heavy Calling 01:24 Step Eight Reframed 04:32 Put Yourself on List 06:18 God Chasing Prodigal 09:44 Willingness Begins 13:24 See Yourself as Loved 24:09 Drop Shame Pigpen 31:42 Truth Boundaries Joy 34:58 Psalm 103 Mercy 40:04 Freedom and Closing

The Courage To Ask | A Spiritual Deep Dive Into Step 7

The Great Leveling: Why Your "Low Spots" Are Just as Dangerous as Your Pride. We usually think of humility as just bringing the "hills" of our ego down. But Step 7 is about the Tapanui—the Greek word for leveling the ground. It means God wants to fill in your valleys of shame and guilt just as much as He wants to level off your hills of pride. Whether you’re living with a "God complex" or you’re trapped in the belief that you’ll never be good enough, both are rooted in the same thing: Fear. True humility is the courage to stand on level ground and realize you are seen, noticed, and loved—not because of what you’ve done, but because of whose you are. Watch: The full Step 7 Deep Dive right here. https://youtu.be/4kXsdNyl9U0?si=fTRPUgL8tPNvIFlH Listen: Catch the audio on the Sober Not Boring app. Connect: Download the app on Google Play or Apple, or visit www.sobernotboring.app [http://www.sobernotboring.app/] for resources for recovery and the families who love them. What "hill" or "valley" are you ready to let God level off today? #Step7 #TheCourageToAsk #RecoveryChurch #Outreach419 #SoberNotBoring #12Steps #Humility #LevelGround #FaithAndRecovery