Episode 11: Why I Can't Just Do the Thing- Self Sabotage

Episode 11: Why I Can't Just Do the Thing- Self Sabotage

We love to call it laziness, or a willpower problem. But self-sabotage usually shows up sounding completely reasonable — "I'm not ready," "I just have a few more things to do first," "I'm not really qualified." It's not that you don't want the thing. It's that some part of you is working overtime to keep you safe from it. In this episode I break down the two fears underneath almost all of it — the fear of being found out, and the fear of success itself — and why your brain treats hitting submit like walking into a burning building. I tell you about the contest I never entered (and the all-expenses-paid trip to Vegas I lost on purpose), the years I spent quitting jobs right before I'd have to sustain them, and what psychologists call self-handicapping. This isn't a pep talk. I'm not going to tell you to just do it. We're going to talk about what's actually in the way — because you can't run into the fire. You have to put it out first. Find me at leighgall.com, on Instagram @theleighgall, and on YouTube at The Leigh Gall.

Episode 10: I Swam in a T-Shirt: The Fear of Being Seen

The fear of being seen doesn't start in the bad relationship or the burnout job — it starts in childhood, the moment a kid learns the world is watching before she learns who she is. In this episode, Leigh shares the oversized t-shirt she wore to swim in as a child, and how that one small act of hiding became people pleasing, performing, perfectionism, and decades of self-surveillance. If you've ever rehearsed a text, scanned a room for disapproval, or talked yourself out of something because it wouldn't be perfect — press play. This one's freaking relatable. In this episode: * Why Leigh swam in a t-shirt — and what it was really about * How the fear of being seen becomes self-abandonment * The childhood roots: objectification, authoritarian homes, and "approval equals safety" * People pleasing, performing, and assuming you're always being judged * The "if I'm not perfect, why bother" trap * How it quietly turned into overachievement, promotions, and anxiety * The grocery store moment that broke the spell * The reframe: no one is watching — and you're allowed to be seen Connect with Leigh: Website: leighgall.com Instagram: @theleighgall TikTok: @thisseemspersonal LinkedIn: @LeighGall Work with Leigh: Leigh speaks and coaches on the conditioned thinking and survival patterns that get in our way. To bring her to your team or work together, head to leighgall.com. Enjoying the show? Follow This Seems Personal and leave a quick rating — it's how new listeners find it.

Episode 9: The Overthinkers Club

Overthinking doesn't always look like overthinking. Sometimes it looks like being responsible, three steps ahead, or "really good at processing." But if your brain has ever spiraled over face soap, eyeliner timing, or a 4 AM decision that wasn't actually a decision — this episode is for you. In this one, Leigh breaks down why overthinking isn't a sign of intelligence, it's a sign your brain has labeled something as unsafe and won't stop sending you notifications about it. She talks about how conditioning trains some of us to scan, plan, and forecast every possible scenario — and how those loops disguise themselves as productivity until they're running the show. You'll hear: * Why your brain treats small decisions like survival threats * The "fish in water" problem — how overthinking hides in plain sight * Negative thoughts dressed up in business suits * How environmental scanning becomes a personality trait * Three things that actually help when you're stuck in the spiral * Why "I am safe" is the sentence that breaks it Follow Leigh: leighgall.com | @theleighgall on Instagram | @thisseemspersonal on TikTok  | @leighgall on LinkedIn |

Episode 8: People Pleasing Is Paralysis (And I Have Proof)

People pleasing isn't a personality trait — it's a freeze response. The fawn response. A survival skill that hijacks you in the moment and makes you say yes, take the blame, and lose your voice when you didn't want to. There's actual science behind it (it's called tonic immobility), and in this episode I prove it the hard way: by catching myself doing it on tape. This was supposed to be a guest episode. I scrapped it. When I watched it back, I saw myself people pleasing all over again — in an episode about people pleasing. So instead of showing you, I'm telling you what happened and what it taught me. In this episode: * Why people pleasing is paralysis, not politeness * The science: freeze + fawn, and why you don't get a vote in the moment * The "ping" you feel but don't act on — and why that happens * Giving yourself space: why you don't owe anyone an answer on demand * Why "I've thought about it and changed my mind" is allowed * Why you don't need to pinpoint where your conditioning came from to start changing it * Why this doesn't resolve overnight — and why that's okay If you've ever walked away from a conversation thinking "why did I agree to that?" — this one's for you. Website: leighgall.com  Instagram: @theleighgall  TikTok: @thisseemspersonal LinkedIn: @LeighGall Work with me: I do speaking and coaching on inner critics, people pleasing, perfectionism, and the conditioned thinking that masquerades as drive. leighgall.com

Episode 7: Signs You're a People Pleaser (And Don't Know It)

Most people pleasers don't know they're people pleasing. They just think they're nice, easygoing, low-maintenance — or that they're not doing enough. In this episode, Leigh breaks down the fawn response, why people pleasing is a survival skill (not a personality trait), and the small everyday moments — the wave to the neighbor, the "I'm fine," the rehearsed text message — that are quietly running your nervous system. If you've ever caught yourself managing someone else's mood without realizing it, this one's for you. In this episode: * Why most people pleasers don't see themselves that way * The fawn response, explained without the clinical jargon * How we regulate other people's nervous systems to protect our own * The sneaky signs you've never thought twice about — small talk, texting back too fast, "good, you?" * How people pleasing showed up in Leigh's relationships and at work, and what it cost her * Why high achievers get stuck in this pattern and get rewarded for it * How to start telling the difference between authenticity and survival mode Mentioned in this episode: Episode 6, Your Traumatic Intelligence Is Showing. Connect with Leigh: Website: leighgall.com Instagram: @theleighgall TikTok: @thisseemspersonal Leigh is a speaker and coach who helps people identify and rewire the inner critics, conditioned thought patterns, and survival-mode behaviors that masquerade as productivity, drive, and reliability. To work with her or book her to speak, visit leighgall.com.