Time to Lean

what can we learn when we revisit couples therapy classics?

Have you heard of the Gottman Institute? The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is a wildly popular relationship book and it has plenty of fantastic insights. However, some of the research and case studies could use some updating. In this episode, we take a close look at conflict while keeping in mind the weight of emotional labor and the impacts of patriarchy. Mentioned: The Seven Principals for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD [https://bookshop.org/a/55904/9780553447712] The Autism Partner Handbook: How to Love an Autistic Person by Joe Biel, Dr. Faith G. Harper and Elly Blue [https://microcosmpublishing.com/catalog/books/10889?srsltid=AfmBOoriVqJHlPs-KOc9wPQ7g6ERmfjT5SHzjy0vpsLZSpPM6fyotSAe] The Autism Relationships Handbook: How to Thrive in Friendships, Dating, and Love by Joe Biel and Dr. Faith G. Harper [https://microcosmpublishing.com/catalog/books/10468?srsltid=AfmBOoqVyBfx44fYen2kpqHqryNRltYqf2Y2mHFhk9Kkk5epqR_eFtlP] Study: Check out the https://www.lightenlab.com/ [https://www.lightenlab.com/] In this episode: Relationship conflict patterns and Gottman's research Gendered communication and systemic issues Neurodivergence and emotional regulation in relationships Get resources, ad-free episodes, and more at timetoleanpod.substack.com [https://timetoleanpod.substack.com/] Order No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand More [https://www.lauradanger.com/no-more-mediocre] Follow Laura: @thatdarnchat [https://www.instagram.com/thatdarnchat] | thatdarnchat.substack.com [https://thatdarnchat.substack.com/] Follow Crystal: @itscrystalbritt [https://www.instagram.com/itscrystalbritt] | itscrystalbritt.substack.com [https://itscrystalbritt.substack.com/] Subscribe, rate, and share to help others find the show If you or someone you know needs support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline [https://www.thehotline.org/] | 800-799-7233 Themes: relationship dynamics, conflict resolution, Gottman Institute, gender theory, neurodivergence, communication, mental load, emotional labor, systemic gender issues, relationship advice ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

when does teasing turn toxic?

In this episode, we share a "candid" video from a couple who are having a serious convo in a #couplescomedy tone. We unpack emotional attunement, family dynamics and the impact of social media on all of us. Mentioned in this episode: No More Mediocre by Laura Danger is in stores on January 6, 2026! Enter here for a chance to win an early copy! [https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/231108795-no-more-mediocre?] Don’t miss Crystal’s upcoming groups! More info here! [https://crystalbritt.com/] ---------- Get resources, ad-free episodes, and more at timetoleanpod.substack.com [https://timetoleanpod.substack.com/] Order No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand More [https://www.lauradanger.com/no-more-mediocre] Follow Laura: @thatdarnchat [https://www.instagram.com/thatdarnchat] | thatdarnchat.substack.com [https://thatdarnchat.substack.com/] Follow Crystal: @itscrystalbritt [https://www.instagram.com/itscrystalbritt] | itscrystalbritt.substack.com [https://itscrystalbritt.substack.com/] Subscribe, rate, and share to help others find the show If you or someone you know needs support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline [https://www.thehotline.org/] | 800-799-7233 ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

when does modeling better balance become capitalizing on the issue of inequity?

In this episode, we explore the line between sharing personal growth and capitalizing on the widespread normalization of inequity. When does modeling a more equitable division of labor go from influencing a cultural shift to patting yourself on the back? Mentioned in this episode: No More Mediocre by Laura Danger is in stores on January 6, 2026! Enter here for a chance to win an early copy! [https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/231108795-no-more-mediocre?] Don’t miss Crystal’s Autism Self-Diagnosis Group, starting Dec 1st! More info here! [https://crystalbritt.com/adult-group-landing-page] ---------- Get resources, ad-free episodes, and more at timetoleanpod.substack.com [https://timetoleanpod.substack.com/] Preorder No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand More [https://www.lauradanger.com/no-more-mediocre] Follow Laura: @thatdarnchat [https://www.instagram.com/thatdarnchat] | thatdarnchat.substack.com [https://thatdarnchat.substack.com/] Follow Crystal: @itscrystalbritt [https://www.instagram.com/itscrystalbritt] | itscrystalbritt.substack.com [https://itscrystalbritt.substack.com/] Subscribe, rate, and share to help others find the show If you or someone you know needs support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline [https://www.thehotline.org/] | 800-799-7233 ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

what if men were tricked into going to therapy?

In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss an IG reel sent to us from a listener. Do men need to be tricked into going to therapy? What are some things that keep them from going? How do you even go about picking a therapist that’s right for you? Get resources, ad-free episodes, and more at timetoleanpod.substack.com [https://timetoleanpod.substack.com/] Preorder No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand More [https://www.lauradanger.com/no-more-mediocre] Follow Laura: @thatdarnchat [https://www.instagram.com/thatdarnchat] | thatdarnchat.substack.com [https://thatdarnchat.substack.com/] Follow Crystal: @itscrystalbritt [https://www.instagram.com/itscrystalbritt] | itscrystalbritt.substack.com [https://itscrystalbritt.substack.com/] Subscribe, rate, and share to help others find the show If you or someone you know needs support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline [https://www.thehotline.org/] | 800-799-7233 ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

if i have to ask you to invite me, is it REALLY an invitation?

In this episode, Laura and Crystal chat about a clip from the movie Knocked Up where Leslie Mann confronts Paul Rudd about his dishonesty around how he's been using his time. We cover invisible labor, insidious inequity, subtle betrayals and so much more. Here's the link to the original video! [https://www.instagram.com/reel/DOHOP-Njnc6/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=Ymc2a3NoYXY3ZGd1] Get resources, ad-free episodes, and more at timetoleanpod.substack.com [https://timetoleanpod.substack.com/] Preorder No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand More [https://www.lauradanger.com/no-more-mediocre] Follow Laura: @thatdarnchat [https://www.instagram.com/thatdarnchat] | thatdarnchat.substack.com [https://thatdarnchat.substack.com/] Follow Crystal: @itscrystalbritt [https://www.instagram.com/itscrystalbritt] | itscrystalbritt.substack.com [https://itscrystalbritt.substack.com/] Subscribe, rate, and share to help others find the show If you or someone you know needs support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline [https://www.thehotline.org/] | 800-799-7233 ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.