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My wife weaponizes intimacy to get her way, nearly every single day. We’ve been married for 3 years and every time we get into an argument, regardless of whose right, I know she will deny any approach for sex. When I really need it, I end up begging her and she blackmails me to accepting I was in the wrong, even when I don’t believe I was. If I touch her to initiate, she leaps away from away like have some disease. This has happened more times than I can remember and it is starting to become not only ridiculous but mentally draining. I am starting to despise her and even when she gives it up, she makes herself so undesirable and makes it verbally clear how much she hates it. Now I am reaching the stage of not wanting it at all to prevent the glooming feeling that comes straight afterwards. Our relationship is ok outside this issue, but this is a weekly occurrence now. Jazakallahu Khair for taking my question. 💭 Email Dilemmas to: ismail@deep-ishtalks.co.uk 👉 Website: https://deep-ishtalks.co.uk [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa1BDQklaRi1zcW94TlJjOWVqMUI3anIybHkzZ3xBQ3Jtc0tuUmNkeS1oUkRaSExOSkxhdmpWbmMxam5TWUgtTHFqVmJTTWMxMU1lc3VrYmdTQXRtdHk3cEdGMTJjUE51cEpUSDdyUjdWbTZHaWlUVVZ6SkNwdWUtNEt2VDZUaDZLQUJZOUlXOUVmR2lGWlpFWjlfYw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fdeep-ishtalks.co.uk%2F] Instagram: @deep_ish_talks Tiktok: @deep_ish_talks Youtube: Deep-Ish Talks

Porn, I’m more than addicted to it, I’m on the dark side of desire. There’s no other way of putting it. I’ve been married 4 years now with 2 children. I will be honest with you, sex with the misses is just not it. I feel so low on my iman which lead me into this. I would wait for her to be in bed and the kids to go bed and I would go into the other bedroom or the living room and get phone and started watching it. I would do it for a good month and then feel like rubbish, quit for a while, and go there again. Until one night, I was getting into it and she creeped up behind me and took my phone off my hand. Her face changed the min she saw what I was watching, and she started screaming and I tried calming her down and she broke my phone out of anger and then started crying. At that moment, I’ve never felt so low, and our relationship was never the same after that. After that, what I found crazy was that she would also look through my dirty boxes to see if I, you know, doing it again. I blamed myself for all of this. There's no way I could justify this action. Please share some advice. 💭 Email Dilemmas to: ismail@deep-ishtalks.co.uk  👉 Website: https://deep-ishtalks.co.uk [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa1BDQklaRi1zcW94TlJjOWVqMUI3anIybHkzZ3xBQ3Jtc0tuUmNkeS1oUkRaSExOSkxhdmpWbmMxam5TWUgtTHFqVmJTTWMxMU1lc3VrYmdTQXRtdHk3cEdGMTJjUE51cEpUSDdyUjdWbTZHaWlUVVZ6SkNwdWUtNEt2VDZUaDZLQUJZOUlXOUVmR2lGWlpFWjlfYw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fdeep-ishtalks.co.uk%2F] Instagram: @deep_ish_talks Tiktok: @deep_ish_talks Youtube: Deep-Ish Talks

I just realised that I haven’t seen my wife pray more than once during the day and at times not at all. We’ve been married for 4 months and I work 9-5 whilst she is currently unemployed. Originally I would do Maghrib and Isha at the masjid, but when I suspect she wasn’t praying at all, I alternated the days I go masjid and pray at home. Before we got married, she was praying here and there, But what baffles me is when I come home and I ask her to pray with me, she will either say, I’ve prayed, or I will pray later. But I never see the later prayer and lets not even go to fajr, she uses the excuse of I don’t hear the alarm so im excused and as long as im trying to put my alarm clock on, Im not sinful. And then it just hit me the other day, I don’t know when the last time I’ve seen her pray and she is very defensive about it. She says she should trust me. What on earth should I do? Should I divorce her? 💭 Email Dilemmas to: ismail@deep-ishtalks.co.uk 👉 Website: https://deep-ishtalks.co.uk Instagram: @deep_ish_talks Tiktok: @deep_ish_talks Youtube: @Deep-IshTalks 🎶 All sounds in my videos are produced entirely from human voice, without any use of musical instruments 🚫

I really like my wife and I wouldn’t say our marriage is in crisis, however, there is one thing that I cannot get her to improve on that I believe is important. And that is cooking home cooked meals. We’ve been married for two years and we have two children together. I work full time and she is a stay at home mum, looking after our children. Before the kids arrived, we were ordering on average twice a week, but that has now more than doubled as there is more stress and responsibilities on her. We previously agreed on that she runs the day to day affairs of the house and I provide for the family but she finds it difficult to juggle it all and ordering in has become the norm. I come home and all I want is hot home cooked meals but I find myself going to my mums and stopping by because I know the only thing waiting for me at home is some cold chips and dried out kebab. Btw, my wife does not know I eat at my mums and I just say im not hungry at those times. I’ve spoken to her about it but she uses the excuse of the kids and house duties (which she does really well). The only time she will cook is when family are around and she makes it out that she always cooks to her friends and family. 240 Uber Eats orders in a year, Any advice would be appreciated. Jazakallah khair. 💭 Send your Dilemmas to:   ismail@deep-ishtalks.co.uk 👉 Website: https://deep-ishtalks.co.uk Instagram: @deep_ish_talks Tiktok: @deep_ish_talks Youtube: @deep-ishtalks 🎶 All sounds in my videos are produced entirely from human voice, without any use of musical instruments 🚫