Elle Aime Men

LMN Ep 13 – It's Good to Be Alive

After months away from the podcast, I’m sharing a story from an art and somatic dance workshop I went to in Da Nang, Vietnam. What started as movement and drawing exercises turned into something much deeper about the patterns we carry in our bodies, the ways we keep ourselves small, and what it feels like to finally take up space again. This episode is about expression, inner child healing, creativity, embodiment, and remembering that it’s good to be alive.

LMN Ep 12 – Body Shame, Sisterhood, and Nervous System Softening

In this episode, I’m sharing about a recent experience in a small, women-only, consent-based space where we stood in our bodies and allowed ourselves to be seen without performance, without comparison, without judgment. It brought up old stories I didn’t realize I was still holding, and it softened something in me that had been hard for a long time. We spoke about the parts of our bodies we’ve struggled with, and we received reflections that felt like medicine. This really wasn't about nudity but more about reverence. About meeting my body again as an ally in life. I’ll leave you with a couple of gentle questions to explore your own relationship with being seen.

LMN Ep 11 – Acting Before I'm Ready

In this episode, I share about a fun and slightly edgy game I’m playing alongside thousands of other women. A game that’s challenging how I show up in the world, how I relate to power, and how willing I am to take action before I feel fully ready or qualified. The Game invites us to stretch. To notice where we hold ourselves back. To look at who we let into our lives, who we ask for support, and where we’re still waiting for permission, quietly wondering, am I allowed to do this? I talk about the energy this has been bringing up in me: feeling alive, a little scared, a little naughty, and deeply empowered. About what happens when we stop hiding in the shadows and start moving from self-trust instead. This game was created by Kasia Urbaniak, whose work has been deeply inspiring me as I unwind old conditioning and step more fully into my power. If you feel curious or activated by this, you can learn more and sign up at:  https://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/the-game It's high time for us to have courage, take action, and let ourselves move before everything feels perfectly aligned. Sometimes the power comes after the step, not before.

LMN Ep 10 – The Treasure That Is a Man’s Heart

In this episode, I didn’t have anything prepared, I just felt called to riff. My heart felt very full of love, excitement for life, and a deep appreciation for human relationships and the connections we’re capable of creating. And my thoughts kept returning to men’s hearts. I reflect on how easy it can be for us, as women, to take men’s hearts for granted or to not care for them as the precious things they are. I speak honestly about my own experiences of knowing I had the power to manipulate men, and how choosing not to use that power has changed the way I approach relationships. I share a recent conversation with a man who trusted me with something very vulnerable, and what it meant for him to feel seen, appreciated, and held without shame or regret for sharing what was on his heart. This episode is about the tenderness of men’s shares, the responsibility that comes with being trusted, and the shift from outdated relational dynamics into deeper integrity, self-respect, and embodied leadership. My hope is that the next time a man shares something from his heart with you, you remember what a gift that is.

LMN Ep 9 – Pinocchia: On Becoming Human

The other day, a series of dawning realizations made me see that I didn’t actually know how to meet myself and my emotions. Not how to understand myself. Not how to heal myself. But how to be with myself…when something uncomfortable is here. What opened from that realization was a wave of grief and relief at the same time (what I ended up calling grieflief). Grief for the years I spent functioning, fixing, reframing, and moving past my feelings. And relief in discovering that my heart was never gone, it had just been hibernating. In this episode, I speak from inside that moment. About believing I was a robot. About my heart thawing.  About feeling like Pinocchio, nervous system safety, unmet relational needs, and what it’s like to feel yourself come back online. If you’ve ever felt numb, overly strong, highly functional, disconnected, or like you move too quickly past what you feel…this is a gentle place to land. Love, Lila