Unlabeled Love

015 Evolution of "I'm ok with it"

Violet and McCartney discuss what it really means when a spouse says they are “okay” with a cross-dressing or gender-expansive partner. Violet shares how her own “I’m okay” evolved and describes how a communication breakdown led to feelings of betrayal. They encourage baby steps, honesty without passive aggression, considering therapy, and recognizing that while couples should try to work through it together, it’s also valid to leave if it remains incompatible. You can contact us: * email - unlabeled.love.journey@gmail.com * Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠UnlabeledLove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/unlabeledlove.podcast/] * Facebook - Violet S. Lee & McCartnie Rose

014 From Keystone with Love

McCartney and Violet reflect on seeing each other again at the Keystone conference, where they met listeners. They describe Keystone highlights, including workshops, the significant-other lunch, vending on the main floor, and their shared goal of helping spouses of gender-expansive partners feel less alone and more supported. McCartney and Deanne hosted a travel workshop about traveling in femme. They also share social moments like dinners, the gala, and dancing. You can contact us: * email - unlabeled.love.journey@gmail.com * Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠UnlabeledLove⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/unlabeledlove.podcast/] * Facebook - Violet S. Lee & McCartnie Rose

013 Culture and Traditions Part 2

Violet and McCartney continue a discussion on how culture and traditions shape reactions to gender expression for partners of gender-expansive people. They describe historical and cultural examples that challenge Western norms and distinguish gender identity from biological sex. The conversation highlights double standards that allow women to adopt masculine clothing more freely than men adopting feminine presentation. They encourage significant others to examine beliefs, keep open dialogue, and remember it is the same person regardless of presentation. You can contact us: * email - unlabeled.love.journey@gmail.com * Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠UnlabeledLove⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/unlabeledlove.podcast/] * Facebook - Violet S. Lee & McCartnie Rose

012 Culture and Traditions Part 1

Violet and McCartney begin a discussion on traditions and gender norms, prompted by a passage from Peggy Rude’s My Husband Wears My Clothes about rigid conditioning around what men and women “should” do. Violet reflects on initial fear and hesitation when Katrina wanted to go out in public, realizing the reaction centered on social expectations and personal embarrassment rather than Katrina’s needs. They compare historical and cultural examples of shifting gendered clothing and labor roles, changing color norms like pink for men, and discuss stereotypes that still sharply separate “male” and “female” traits. You can contact us: * email - unlabeled.love.journey@gmail.com * Instagram - ⁠⁠UnlabeledLove⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/unlabeledlove.podcast/] * Facebook - Violet S. Lee & McCartnie Rose

011 Healthy Boundaries

This episode focuses on setting boundaries in relationships where one partner is gender expansive, including why boundaries matter and how they relate to trust and comfort levels. They describe physical, emotional, time, and material boundaries. They stress that boundaries should be specific, communicated calmly with “I” statements, and can evolve over time as acceptance grows. They also discuss healthy versus unhealthy partner responses, warn against guilt, manipulation, lying, or ignoring boundaries, and recommend individual or couples therapy with clinicians familiar with gender and relationship issues. They close by reminding listeners to prioritize empathy without losing one’s own identity. You can contact us: * email - unlabeled.love.journey@gmail.com * Instagram - ⁠UnlabeledLove⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/unlabeledlove.podcast/] * Facebook - Violet S. Lee & McCartnie Rose