Episode 6: The Calibrator
Change is a constant. I remember learning this very young, but what life has taught me since that I didn't expect is that change doesn't just happen constantly on the outside, it also happens constantly on the inside.
Just as much as your circumstances change, who you are as a person changes with them. Just as much as the people, the environment, the events in your life continue to evolve and unfold, so too does your inner journey of discovering who you are.
So how do you navigate that? How do you navigate two turnings, an inner and an outer, at the same time? There are people that are here to help. Our next guest is one of these people.
They refer to themselves as "The Calibrator" in this conversation. I think it's great because I take that as like the tuning of a musical instrument, which fits because the best that we can do amongst changes is to find harmony. I asked them how they want to share a bit of what they do with our audience and they sent me a text with a gorgeous bit of writing about the role of communication in the process of really uncovering who we are and how we learn to navigate the environments and the people that are around us. They wrote:
"We've all had the experience of saying the wrong thing to someone and getting a response we weren't looking for. This happens every day in our work lives and in our personal lives. Why is this? And more importantly, is this a foundational truth of being human? That we can't reliably and predictably communicate to each other and that we will sometimes just plain miss?
This is the question that initiated a journey into human discovery, development, and bespoke individual qualities that has brought me to the present day. I started with a relatively simple premise. We are all personas that are crafted from a set group of native qualities that are baked into us. We all have the same four types of qualities and we all have different unique qualities that are reflection of us as individuals. Since we are all different, we all communicate and receive communications differently. If we want to always get through, connect, and reach our fellow humans, the solve is to start by understanding how everyone receives communications on an individual level.
I created a system for this, which evolved into an algorithm and code for unpacking people. If we can understand how to communicate with each other, we can also learn how to do so strategically. So we can actually motivate each other and put our entire community into flow. With this challenge, the journey unfolded."
And unfolded did. This person, The Calibrator, is, I would say, a master of navigating change through grace, with grace, and communicating through change to hold people together brilliantly.
As you'll hear in the conversation, we met at a time of, you know, changing environment. They had just moved from their family home for years into a new environment, a new chapter. We were looking around the house and talking about all of the things, all of the stuff, and the stories that that stuff carries. We talked about what it means to stop and then start again, to transition from the old into the new.
What you'll also hear is that house is in the Pacific Palisades. Where we sat and had the conversation is gone. It's ash now - and everything that we were talking about burned with it. In the days and weeks that followed, we communicated. We communicated about how that experience was, how this person, The Calibrator, was doing. What I saw is somebody that deepened their well of strength, deepened their connection and their communication with the people around them through an incredibly arduous journey.
So listen closely to what this person has to say because their story and their wisdom is going to be valuable for you whenever you face some of the hardest trials in your life. The most important thing that you'll be reaching for then is...how to communicate with others.
