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A Cuppa With.. Ep. 110 Charlie from @charlie_red_x Listening to others can make a difference.

We are not alone, reach out, this is what we hear but do others truly understand? Well we do not know unless we start that conversation with others. Others telling their stories helps ease the fears and concerns of judgement and rejection. Charlie has definitely done that. We talk about her story of mental health and how this has led her on a path of self discovery and within that discovery how she can help others. She has some excellent nuggets of wisdom, reflecting on how you must start with yourself and what you can control, that although reaching out is difficult and you may not understand why you feel the way you do, talking to others and finding support can make a real difference. Charlie also wanted to share a youtube video of how just listening to others can help all by itself. Because sometimes we don't want to be fixed, we just need to be heard. Thank you Charlie for taking the time to talk to me and tell your story, I enjoyed nattering with you. And thank you all for listening. Good day, Good brew. YouTube video. https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg Find Charlie on Instagram @charlie_red_x

A Cuppa With Ep. 109. 38 and life, false advertising.

Turning 38, closer to 40, gives me the desire to reflect. Coming from the viewpoint of what I expected at 38. A house, a car, wealth, health, a family. The funny thing is I have all of them but none are as I expected.  The markers we set are generally not set by us. They are the traditions and standards passed on, normally with care and the want for happiness but is it our happiness or what others envision happiness for us because what they were sold was happiness and being content in life.  Living my life backwards children first, then house, car and then career it's easier (not easy just easier) to see the flaws and the false advertising or at least feel it's not quite one size fits all. Your path can only be walked by you, which means it can only be forged by you. Yes, there's help along the way and others can teach you skills but the glass ceiling is up to you. Your best all you can do and it is enough for you. Do your best, until you know better, then do better.  Thank you for listening, Good day, good brew.  #mentalhealth #expectation #life

A Cuppa With.. Ep. 108. Can't see the wood for the trees. Lost doesn't mean alone.

I woke up this morning and saw something that really made the penny drop.  Not being able to see the wood for the tree is a saying that invokes the concept of being lost yet, it's right in front of you. Something which is resonating with a lot of people close to me just lately and especially myself.  These ideas and targets we have for ourselves, our north stars, what happens when we don't reach them, or moreover what happens when we do? What then? What do we do next?  The blackhole we find ourselves in leaves us feeling lost without a sense of direction. Not knowing where to turn. What is the right path? What is our yellow brick road?  What we also need to remember is we are not alone when we feel lost. It is so easy to not want to put on others, to believe we are alone in what we are feeling but I can hand on heart say you are not. Sometimes all it takes is a listening ear.  We have our own answers but support and care and compassion can make it alittle easier. Those that are there for you will listen.  This podcast was inspired by a couple of people close to me, those that are around you can be your mirror and the love and care for them because of this can not be worded.  Thank you for listening, so much love to you all and if you need an ear and feel there is no one, I will do my best to be that.  Thank you agaoin, stay beautiful and good day, good brew.  #mentalhealth #lost

A Cuppa With.. Ep. 107 Purpose and connection. Meaning in life.

Starting with a big thank you. My last podcast saw a huge influx of listens and I can not be more grateful so many of you took the time to listen to my podcasts, old and new. I speak from the heart and somehow it's connecting with you. I appreciate you all. SPeaking of connecting... Purpose and connection.  Without them we feel lost. We need a goal to work towards, a north star. Purpose gives life meaning, yet meaning is an individual idea. What is meaning for one is pointless to another. Additionally, how we are connected to our own meaning is equally diverse.  Connection involves a magnitude of connotation. From friends, family, partners to a career, a possession or goal. They interlink and become harder to separate the more we engross ourselves in what matters to us.  Purpose involves connection but without connection there is no purpose.  Recently I have felt lost in the position of my north star and I wonder do we ever really know or does it change as we do? leading to the question I think we all face, what's next and what the hell am I doing.  Thank you for listening. Good day, good brew. #purpose #connection #mentalhealth

A Cuppa With.. Ep. 106 Suspected heart attack, changing perspective.

Something out of the blue can change your view.  A week ago I was taken to the hospital because they suspected I was having a heart attack. What it gave me was a change of heart. This was not some grant, near death experience where people see the error of their ways and change their life story like a movie. Fuck that romantised BS.  What it can make you realise is the support network you have. Who do you call and are you really as alone as you thought you once were.  Many tangents, so be warned. None of my podcasts are scripted or edited. From start to finish you get the full thought process of me speaking from my heart. Nothing fancy, just one yorkshire lass trying to connect with others over a brew.  What is personal is usually experienced generally.  Thank you for listening.  #mentalhealth #alone #together #heartattack