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147. February Monthly Curriculum: How I am Becoming Smarter and More Interesting (+ Key Framework)

One of my goals for 2026 is to learn something new every single month — without feeling overwhelmed, scattered, or like I’m trying to do everything at once. In this episode, I’m introducing my monthly curriculum framework: a repeatable structure I’m using to stay engaged with my life, learn new things, spend less time doom scrolling, and actually make progress on the hobbies and interests I care about. I walk through the full framework step by step, explain why I’m doing this, and then share my February monthly curriculum - including what I’m reading, learning, practicing, and prioritizing this month. If you’ve ever felt like you have too many interests and not enough time, or you want more intention and structure in your free time without turning life into another to-do list, this episode is for you. Subscribe to Beyond Your Budget: https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/ Personal Finance Starter Kit: https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kit BREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES: 💸 Personal Finance Dashboard: https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard 💸 Basic Budgeting Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template 💸 FI/RE Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template 💸 RENT VS. BUY CALCULATOR https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator 💳 Tools + Cards I Use: Rakuten Cash Back: https://shorturl.at/w0PcH SoFi HYSA: https://wealthlink.me/michela-sofi-hysa AmEx Platinum: https://tinyurl.com/2rkrysw2 Bilt Rewards: https://tinyurl.com/4kd8s33a Blue Cash Everyday: https://tinyurl.com/yrcbr2ac All Other Resources: https://breakyourbudget.com/links 👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: michela@breakyourbudget.com 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/ 📲 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget 📸 Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa 💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaallocca 00:00 – Why I want to learn something new every month 03:10 – What a “monthly curriculum” actually is 06:00 – Why having too many interests can feel overwhelming 09:40 – The full monthly curriculum framework overview 12:00 – Setting a monthly theme, vision, and inspiration 14:45 – Choosing a nonfiction topic or book to study 17:45 – Focusing on one skill, hobby, or practice 20:15 – Domestic and daily upgrades that make life easier 22:40 – Staying culturally engaged without scrolling 25:10 – Solo dates, accountability, and my February curriculum

146. How to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed by Everyday Life | Manage "Life Admin" & Reduce the Mental Load

Being an adult is so hard because of the constant, low-level decisions that never stop - the scheduling, the errands, the emails, the meals, the maintenance, and the mental load that quietly piles up in the background of daily life. In this episode, I’m breaking down the systems and skills that have made my adult life feel calmer, more predictable, and more manageable. Instead of relying on motivation or discipline, these are practical frameworks I use to reduce decision fatigue, lower stress, and support my nervous system through everyday life. We talk about scheduling in a way that actually works, why maintenance prevents burnout, how to manage life admin without overwhelm, why feeding yourself consistently matters more than you think, and how self-regulation ties everything together. This episode is about building a life that feels lighter - not by doing more, but by creating systems that support you when things get busy. Subscribe to Beyond Your Budget: https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/ Personal Finance Starter Kit: https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kit How to Be Organized Article: https://annanewton.substack.com/p/how-to-be-organised-in-2026 BREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES: 💸 Personal Finance Dashboard: https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard 💸 Basic Budgeting Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template 💸 FI/RE Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template 💸 RENT VS. BUY CALCULATOR https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator 💳 Tools + Cards I Use: Rakuten Cash Back: https://shorturl.at/w0PcH SoFi HYSA: https://wealthlink.me/michela-sofi-hysa AmEx Platinum: https://tinyurl.com/mpf7u7uy Bilt Rewards: https://tinyurl.com/4kd8s33a Blue Cash Everyday: https://tinyurl.com/yrcbr2ac All Other Resources: https://breakyourbudget.com/links 👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: michela@breakyourbudget.com 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/ 📲 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget 📸 Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa 💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaallocca TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 – Why adulthood feels overwhelming in the small moments 03:10 – The hidden mental load no one teaches you to manage 06:05 – Why willpower fails and systems actually work 09:10 – Scheduling as a tool for mental relief, not control 13:40 – How weekly planning reduces daily overwhelm 18:05 – Why maintenance prevents burnout before it starts 23:10 – Managing life admin so it stops hanging over you 28:30 – Feeding yourself without stress as an adult skill 33:45 – Self-regulation and reducing constant overstimulation 38:10 – Building a calmer, more manageable adult life

145. Why and How I Am Becoming More Analog to Regulate My Nervous System

As I think about 2026, I’ve realized that for the first time ever, I’m not craving more ambition, more structure, or more systems. I’m craving less, and I want to create more peace and calm in my daily life. In this episode, I’m sharing why regulating my nervous system has become one of my biggest personal goals this year, and how I’m intentionally becoming more analog to support that. We talk about overstimulation, doom scrolling, decision fatigue, and how constant input has quietly become normalized in our lives. I walk through the practical shifts I’m making - from using paper instead of apps, reading physical books, sitting in silence, reducing phone time, and creating calmer mornings and evenings - along with the mental patterns I’m unlearning around productivity, stimulation, and burnout. This is a grounded, honest conversation about slowing down, reducing noise, and creating space to actually feel calm again. Subscribe to Beyond Your Budget: https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/ BREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES: 💸 Personal Finance Dashboard: https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard 💸 Basic Budgeting Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template 💸 FI/RE Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template 💸 NEW RENT VS. BUY CALCULATOR https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator 💳 Tools + Cards I Use: Rakuten Cash Back: https://shorturl.at/w0PcH SoFi HYSA: https://wealthlink.me/michela-sofi-hysa AmEx Platinum: https://tinyurl.com/mpf7u7uy Bilt Rewards: https://tinyurl.com/4kd8s33a Blue Cash Everyday: https://tinyurl.com/yrcbr2ac All Other Resources: https://breakyourbudget.com/links 👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: michela@breakyourbudget.com 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/ 📲 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget 📸 Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa 💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaallocca TIMESTAMPS: 0:00 – Why I’m craving less, not more, in 2026 2:10 – Becoming more analog and why nervous system regulation matters 4:00 – Doom scrolling, stimulation, and why silence feels uncomfortable 6:30 – Living alone, constant input, and mental exhaustion 9:00 – Choosing physical cues over digital ones 11:00 – Using paper, notebooks, and writing things out 13:30 – Capturing less and letting moments exist 16:00 – Reading physical books and learning with intention 18:00 – Sitting in silence, sauna time, and walks without headphones 21:00 – Calmer mornings, evenings, and reducing decision fatigue

144. The January Wellness Protocol I Use to Set the Tone for the Entire Year

January is the one month of the year where I intentionally slow down, simplify, and refocus on my health and wellness without turning it into a rigid challenge or restrictive reset that I can't stick to. In this episode, I walk you through my full January wellness protocol - a flexible, realistic framework I use to rebuild momentum after the holidays, regulate my nervous system, and reset my habits in a way that actually sticks. Instead of forcing myself into things like 75 Hard or Whole30, I focus on daily non-negotiables and weekly add-ons that reduce decision fatigue and support my energy, digestion, sleep, and routines. I break down my daily wellness anchors, my weekly focus habits, how I think about discipline versus forcing, and why January is the easiest month of the year to build sustainable momentum. This episode is meant to feel grounding, practical, and adaptable - whether you’re listening in January or any time you need a gentle reset. Subscribe to Beyond Your Budget: https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/ BREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES: 💸 Personal Finance Dashboard: https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard 💸 Basic Budgeting Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template 💸 FI/RE Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template 💸 NEW RENT VS. BUY CALCULATOR https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator 💳 Tools + Cards I Use: Rakuten Cash Back: https://shorturl.at/w0PcH SoFi HYSA: https://wealthlink.me/michela-sofi-hysa AmEx Platinum: https://tinyurl.com/mpf7u7uy Bilt Rewards: https://tinyurl.com/4kd8s33a Blue Cash Everyday: https://tinyurl.com/yrcbr2ac All Other Resources: https://breakyourbudget.com/links 👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: michela@breakyourbudget.com 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/ 📲 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget 📸 Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa 💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaallocca 0:00 – Why I don’t do New Year’s resolutions and how I use January instead 2:00 – Why January is the easiest month to build momentum 3:30 – What I actually mean by a “wellness protocol” 5:30 – Discipline vs forcing yourself into restrictive challenges 7:00 – The structure: daily anchors vs weekly focus habits 8:30 – My morning wellness lineup and digestion routine 10:30 – Skincare, body care, and slowing down in winter 12:30 – Fiber, movement minimums, and realistic fitness expectations 14:00 – Sleep hygiene, phone boundaries, and winding down 16:30 – Weekly add-ons: sauna, face masks, juicing, and organizing

143. Why I Don’t Believe in New Year’s Resolutions + My Gentle Reset and Reflection for 2026

The start of a new year comes with a lot of pressure - to rebrand, overhaul your life, and fix everything all at once. In this episode, I’m sharing why I don’t believe in New Year’s resolutions, why I think they fail most people, and how I approach resetting in a way that actually lasts. We walk through a real reflection on 2025: what changed my life, what habits worked, what didn’t, and where I got in my own way. Then I share how I’m setting themes (not resolutions) for 2026 across money, wellness, routines, home, and career - plus the systems I’m putting in place to support them. Subscribe to Beyond Your Budget: https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/ BREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES: 💸 Personal Finance Dashboard: https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard 💸 Basic Budgeting Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template 💸 FI/RE Template: https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template 💸 NEW RENT VS. BUY CALCULATOR https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator 💳 Tools + Cards I Use: Rakuten Cash Back: https://shorturl.at/w0PcH SoFi HYSA: https://wealthlink.me/michela-sofi-hysa AmEx Platinum: https://tinyurl.com/mpf7u7uy Bilt Rewards: https://tinyurl.com/4kd8s33a Blue Cash Everyday: https://tinyurl.com/yrcbr2ac All Other Resources: https://breakyourbudget.com/links 👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: michela@breakyourbudget.com 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/ 📲 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget 📸 Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa 💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaallocca TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 — Intro: why I hate the pressure of New Year rebrands 02:00 — Why New Year’s resolutions don’t work (and abandonment day) 04:00 — No-buy years vs. no-buy January (and why extremes fail) 06:00 — How I think about change: slow, intentional, lifestyle-based 08:00 — Reflecting on 2025: what changed my life 12:00 — Habits that worked: phone boundaries, sleep, cleanliness 15:00 — What didn’t work: cooking ruts, hermit mode, adjustment periods 19:00 — Setting themes for 2026 instead of resolutions 23:00 — Who I want to be by the end of 2026 30:00 — January rituals, documentaries, and closing reflections