When Well-Meaning is Actually Dismissive

Book Review of “How to Deal with Your ____ So Your Kids Don’t Have To" by Eli Harwood

In today’s episode, I’m doing a book review of How to Deal with Your ____ So Your Kids Don’t Have To by Eli Harwood. One of the things I loved most about this book is the reminder that good movement truly starts with US. Honestly, it’s not about perfection - it’s about growing our capacity to hold our own emotions, so we’re not unintentionally passing them on. If you’ve ever found yourself wondering how to better process your emotions, respond instead of react, or better support the people you love without carrying old patterns into your relationships, this one is a worthwhile read! If you enjoyed this episode and found it helpful, I’d love to hear from you. We might have to make book reviews a regular thing around here! In this episode, I cover: * Why this book stood out as a top recommendation for beginning inner work * How processing our own emotions impacts parenting, relationships & everyday interactions * The connection between emotional capacity and “good movement starts with us” * The book’s practical structure * Why the encyclopedia-style format makes it easy to revisit specific struggles when needed * My personal favorite features * Why this book earned a full 10/10 recommendation Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/book-review-eli-harwood [https://terryndrieling.com/book-review-eli-harwood] Connect with Terryn: * Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/instagram] * Check out my website [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/website] * Send me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.com [terryn@terryndrieling.com] Resources & Links: * How to Deal with Your [https://www.attachmentnerd.com/books/how-to-deal-with-your-so-your-kids-dont-have-to] https://www.attachmentnerd.com/books/how-to-deal-with-your-so-your-kids-dont-have-to So Your Kids Don’t Have To [https://www.attachmentnerd.com/books/how-to-deal-with-your-so-your-kids-dont-have-to] by Eli Harwood [https://www.attachmentnerd.com/books/how-to-deal-with-your-so-your-kids-dont-have-to] * Raising Securely Attached Kids [https://www.attachmentnerd.com/books/raising-securely-attached-kids] by Eli Harwood [https://www.attachmentnerd.com/books/raising-securely-attached-kids] * Follow Eli Harwood on Instagram @attachmentnerd [https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd/] * Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/1-1-guidance] is right for you - mention "castpod" when you book to receive 10% off! * Check out my merch shop [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/merch] * Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/collective-sign-up] * Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/aaronespe] * Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/jillcarrpodcasting]

When Well-Meaning is Actually Dismissive

Sometimes, the people who love us most say things with the very best intentions. Unfortunately, they can still land in a way that feels painful. In today's episode, I'm talking about what happens when well-meaning is actually dismissive. Through experiences like losing my dad, navigating cancer, and living through devastating fires, I've become more aware of how quick we are to search for silver linings or make someone feel better. At the end of the day, people don't always need us to have the "perfect" words. They need us to sit beside them, truly listen, and say, "I see you." If this conversation resonates and you're ready to go deeper on your healing journey, I'd love to support you. You can schedule a free 30-minute call with me to talk about 1:1 Good Movement Guidance [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/1-1-guidance]. Make sure to mention "castpod" when you book to receive 10% off! In this episode, I cover: * Why “well-meaning” responses can sometimes feel dismissive * Common phrases that unintentionally gloss over grief or hard emotions * Why validation matters more than silver linings in difficult moments * The reminder that multiple experiences & perspectives can both be true * Why we don’t get to choose our feelings * How our own relationship with emotions shapes how we respond to others * Recognizing the urge to fix, solve, or rush someone toward feeling better + what to do instead * Why holding space, listening & simply being present matters SO much * Why others need your presence more than “perfect words” Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/when-well-meaning-is-dismissive [https://terryndrieling.com/when-well-meaning-is-dismissive] Connect with Terryn: * Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/instagram] * Check out my website [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/website] * Send me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.com [terryn@terryndrieling.com] Resources & Links: * Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/1-1-guidance] is right for you * Check out my merch shop [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/merch] * Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/collective-sign-up] * Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/aaronespe] * Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/jillcarrpodcasting]

Guilt and Shame... What's the Difference?

Something that so many people quietly carry (but often struggle to name) is the difference between guilt and shame. While those two emotions are commonly used interchangeably, they are actually VERY different. Understanding that difference can completely shift the way we move through hard emotions, relationships, and healing! In today’s episode, I’m diving into guilt and shame, and how they’re different. My hope is that this conversation reminds you that you are not bad, broken, or “weak” for being human. If you’re struggling with guilt and shame and are ready to go deeper on your healing journey, I’d love to support you. You can schedule a free 30-minute call with me to talk about what 1:1 Good Movement Guidance [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/1-1-guidance] could look like for you. Make sure to mention “castpod” when you book to receive 10% off! In this episode, I cover: * The difference between guilt and shame * Why guilt can lead to accountability, repair, and growth * How shame is often rooted in outside criticism, expectations & cultural messaging * The role “should” and “shouldn’t” play in reinforcing shame * Why needing help is not a weakness * How shame thrives in secrecy + loses power when brought into the light * Practical ways to move through both guilt and shame * Why boundaries help protect your peace and emotional well-being * Learning to recognize whether you’re carrying guilt for an action or shame about yourself Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/guilt-and-shame [https://terryndrieling.com/guilt-and-shame] Connect with Terryn: * Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/instagram] * Check out my website [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/website] * Send me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.com [terryn@terryndrieling.com] Resources & Links: * Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/1-1-guidance] is right for you * Check out my merch shop [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/merch] * Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/collective-sign-up] * Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/aaronespe] * Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/jillcarrpodcasting]

Empathy... What Does It Mean?

In today’s episode, I’m talking about empathy and what it really means. It’s often talked about like it’s automatically a good thing. But honestly, empathy can be both a superpower and something that quietly wears us down when we aren’t intentional with it. As someone who has always felt deeply for other people, I’ve had to learn the difference between holding space for someone and trying to carry what was never mine to carry in the first place. Thankfully, inner work helped me recognize where healthy empathy ends and emotional over-responsibility begins. If you’re ready to dive deeper and do the “inner work” I talk about here often, I’d love to connect with you. Schedule a free 30-minute call with me, and let’s talk about 1:1 Good Movement Guidance [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/1-1-guidance]. Don’t forget to mention “castpod” when you book to receive 10% off! In this episode, I cover: * What empathy actually is (and what it isn’t) * Why empathy can feel both beautiful and exhausting * The difference between supporting someone vs. carrying their emotions * How empathy can become unhealthy without self-awareness * What the “hold the herd” analogy entails * Why emotional safety creates a stronger connection * How exposure to different perspectives helps grow empathy * The importance of asking honest questions * Why we should second-guess the stories we create about others * Learning to sort what’s yours to feel and what isn’t Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/empathy-what-does-it-mean [https://terryndrieling.com/empathy-what-does-it-mean] Connect with Terryn: * Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/instagram] * Check out my website [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/website] * Send me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.com [terryn@terryndrieling.com] Resources & Links: * Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/1-1-guidance] is right for you * Check out my merch shop [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/merch] * Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/collective-sign-up] * Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/aaronespe] * Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/jillcarrpodcasting]

How to Help Someone Who Is Grieving or Going Through a Lot

In today’s episode, I’m talking about how to help someone who is grieving or going through a lot. I had a powerful moment from a recent Good Movement workshop, where one simple exercise (listening without trying to fix) felt surprisingly hard. Honestly, that makes sense. So many of us have been conditioned to respond with solutions, encouragement, or perspective. When someone is grieving or struggling, though, those responses can unintentionally feel dismissive instead of supportive. I hope this episode allows you to rethink how we can show up for others and for ourselves. Being seen, heard, and cared for in those moments is where the REAL healing begins! If you’re ready to go deeper and do this inner work for yourself, I’d love to connect with you. You can schedule a free 30-minute call with me to talk about what 1:1 Good Movement Guidance [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/1-1-guidance] could look like for you. Make sure to mention “castpod” when you book to receive 10% off! In this episode, I cover: * Why listening without fixing can feel so uncomfortable + why it matters * How well-meaning phrases can unintentionally dismiss someone’s pain * The power of simple, silent presence when someone is grieving * What it actually looks like to “bear witness” to someone’s experience * How validation helps people feel seen, heard, and supported * Why we don’t get to decide the magnitude of someone else’s “hard” * The tendency to avoid our own pain + why sitting with it matters Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/how-to-help-someone-grieving [https://terryndrieling.com/how-to-help-someone-grieving] Connect with Terryn: * Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/instagram] * Check out my website [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/website] * Send me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.com [terryn@terryndrieling.com] Resources & Links: * Let Your Life Speak [https://bookshop.org/p/books/let-your-life-speak-listening-for-the-voice-of-vocation-parker-j-palmer/b7e83cdbee3e641d?ean=9781394235100&next=t] by Parker J. Palmer [https://bookshop.org/p/books/let-your-life-speak-listening-for-the-voice-of-vocation-parker-j-palmer/b7e83cdbee3e641d?ean=9781394235100&next=t] * Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/1-1-guidance] is right for you * Check out my merch shop [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/merch] * Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/collective-sign-up] * Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/aaronespe] * Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting [https://good-movement.captivate.fm/jillcarrpodcasting]