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Why Becoming a Parent Changes Everything with Veronica Kemeny

We plan births. We register for gear. We don't plan for what happens to the people becoming parents. Veronica Kemeny, co-founder of Anchor Perinatal Wellness in Raleigh, joins Brittani to talk about matrescence, the neuroscience of new parenthood, why couples hit their hardest stretch right when baby arrives — and what support actually looks like across a full continuum of care. Veronica Kemeny, LCSW discusses the realities of pregnancy, postpartum mental health, parenting, relationships, and nervous system regulation.   Resources * Anchor Perinatal Wellness — free walk-in screenings, outpatient + IOP, call even if you're out of state https://www.anchorperinatal.com/ * Postpartum Support International — ⁠postpartum.net⁠ [https://www.postpartum.net] · 55+ free virtual support groups, 24/7 Maternal Mental Health Hotline, state chapters for local navigation   Brittani's Resources Website: ⁠https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/⁠ [https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/] IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow] Intimacy Workbook: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219⁠ [https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219] Newsletter: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ [https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc]   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. ⁠https://larryscoffee.com/relate⁠ [https://larryscoffee.com/relate]    Therapist Threads Newsletter: For therapists to stay connected ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/069297fffb⁠ [https://howtorelate.kit.com/069297fffb]

Healing from Betrayal Trauma with Heather Heide

What happens when everything you thought was true about your relationship turns out to be built on secrets? Heather Heide, founder of Uplifted Therapy in Minnesota, a practice specializing in betrayal trauma. Heather works with couples and individuals navigating the aftermath of infidelity, sex addiction, and all the nuanced forms betrayal can take — and what healing actually looks like when your world gets rocked.   Resources Mentioned * Seeking Integrity — treatment center with extensive free resources for betrayal and sex addiction * Michelle Mays — betrayal trauma specialist and podcast host * Dr. Ken Adams — work on enmeshment and generational family patterns * Terry Real — shame/grandiosity/boundarylessness framework referenced in conversation * Maddie Corman's one-woman show on betrayal trauma (title TBD — Heather to confirm!) * Unmasking Shame — Heather's upcoming shame project with her business partner, launching in approximately 6 weeks Connect with Heather * ⁠uplifted-therapy.com⁠ [https://uplifted-therapy.com] * Instagram: ⁠@heatherheidi⁠ [https://instagram.com/heatherheidi] Brittani's Resources Website: ⁠https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/⁠ [https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/] IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow] Intimacy Workbook: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219⁠ [https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219] Newsletter: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ [https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc]   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. ⁠https://larryscoffee.com/relate⁠ [https://larryscoffee.com/relate]    Therapist Threads: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/069297fffb⁠ [https://howtorelate.kit.com/069297fffb]

Therapy vs. Coaching, Leadership, and the Inner Work of Work

What separates great leaders from ones who quietly destroy their teams? And when you're the one burning out at the top — do you stay or go? Kealy Spring, licensed therapist and executive coach in the San Francisco Bay Area, breaks down the inner psychology of leadership, what executive coaching actually is, and why most people calling themselves coaches probably aren't.   In This Episode * Therapy vs. coaching — where they overlap and where the line actually is * The energy audit: a practical tool for diagnosing burnout before deciding to stay or quit * Golden handcuffs — how to think through ambivalence when the pay is great but you're miserable * The 3-step cognitive reframe for catching distorted thinking at work (mind reading, personalization, and more) * Imposter syndrome across career stages — and why it hits differently for women * The double bind for women in leadership: likable vs. competent, and how to navigate it * Why less than 10% of coaches are actually thriving — and what the unregulated industry gets wrong Key Takeaways 🔑 The energy audit isn't about adding to your plate — it's about gathering data so you know where to work the edges. 🔑 Cognitive distortions don't stay home when you go to work. Name it → check your evidence → reframe. 🔑 Coaching is strategic and time-limited. Therapy goes deeper into patterns and history. You may need both. Resources Mentioned * Kealy's therapy practice: ⁠keelyspring.com⁠ [http://keelyspring.com] | Coaching: Spring Ahead Coaching * Kealy's podcast: Therapeutically Aligned https://www.youtube.com/@therapeuticallyaligned [https://www.youtube.com/@therapeuticallyaligned]  * ⁠Hampton⁠ [http://joinhampton.com] — peer advisory groups for founders * Simon Sinek's Start With Why | Self-Determination Theory * ☕ Larry's Coffee: https://larryscoffee.com/relate Brittani's Resources: Website: ⁠https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/⁠ [https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/] IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow] Intimacy Workbook: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219⁠ [https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219] Newsletter: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ [https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc] Stay connected.

Conflict Is the Symptom, Not the Problem: Couples Therapy, Intensives, and the Power of Experiential Connection with Carole Cullen

What if the problem in your relationship isn’t the argument you keep having—but the pattern underneath it? Therapist Carole Cullen explores how couples can move from disconnection to deeper intimacy using a mix of structured tools, emotional processing, and experiential learning. Carole shares how she integrates the John Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), why traditional 50-minute sessions often fall short, and how immersive couples intensives can create breakthroughs in just a few days. We also dive into her innovative membership model, The Work of Us, which combines therapy, community, and real-life experiences—from Pilates to equine-assisted learning—to help couples reconnect outside the therapy room. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same conflict loop, this episode will help you understand why—and what actually creates change.   Carole's Resources: Website: https://mytherapistnc.org/ Couples Workshops: https://www.couplesworkshopsnc.com/   Brittani's Resources Website: ⁠https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/⁠ [https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/] IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow] Intimacy Workbook: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219⁠ [https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219] Newsletter: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ [https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc]   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. ⁠https://larryscoffee.com/relate⁠ [https://larryscoffee.com/relate]

AI, Therapy, and the Future of Connection with Ann Dypiangco

What happens when artificial intelligence enters the therapy room—both with clinicians and clients? Ann Dypiangco, LCSW, is a therapist in private practice and co-creator of Therapist Brief, [http://www.therapistbrief.com/] a newsletter for therapists navigating tech, research, and the changing landscape of mental health care. She also works at the intersection of clinical practice and emerging technology in her roles at Blueprint.ai [https://clinician.blueprint-health.com/] and Mental Health Match [https://mentalhealthmatch.com/]. From AI-generated therapy notes to clients turning to chatbots for emotional support, we explore what’s changing, what’s concerning, and where there’s actually opportunity.   Ann's Resources: Therapist Brief Newsletter: https://therapist-brief-newsletter.beehiiv.com/ [https://therapist-brief-newsletter.beehiiv.com/]    Podcast Resources Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ [https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/] IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow [https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow] Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 [https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219] Newsletter: https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc [https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc]   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. https://larryscoffee.com/relate [https://larryscoffee.com/relate]   Therapist Collective: The Trusted Community for Entrepreneurial Therapists to Refer, Connect, and Grow https://howtorelate.kit.com/069297fffbhttps://therapistcollective.carrd.co/ [https://howtorelate.kit.com/069297fffb]