No One Knows What They're Doing

In Episode 13, Erin interviews Dr. Meg Jay, a developmental clinical psychologist who specializes in 20-somethings. A recent New York Times profile called Dr. Jay “the patron saint of striving youth” and her TED talk “Why 30 Is Not the New 20” is among the most watched to date. Erin and Meg discuss the current mental health crisis, pros and cons of medication, what the research shows about your 20s, and advice on how to spend your 20s (especially when it comes to feeling stuck or behind in your career!). Enjoy! ➞ In this episode: 0:00 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=0s]-3:39 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=219s] Introduction 3:40 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=220s]-7:09 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=429s] Meg Jay's Background 7:10 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=430s]-11:54 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=714s] Realistic life working as a therapist 11:55 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=715s]-14:09 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=849s] Fascinating 20-somethings research 14:10 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=850s]-15:39 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=939s] Why your 20s aren't the best years of your life 15:40 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=940s]-17:24 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=1044s] Advice if you don't know what to do with your life 17:25 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=1045s]-22:00 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=1320s] How to pick a job in your 20s 22:01 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=1321s]-24:21 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=1461s] Thoughts on a "dream job" 24:22 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=1462s]-27:30 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=1650s] Opportunity cost + decision making 27:31 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=1651s]-32:34 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=1954s] What is "identity capital"? 32:35 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=1955s]-35:59 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=2159s] Gen Z mental health crisis 36:00 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=2160s]-38:59 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=2339s] Labels & self-diagnosis 39:00 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=2340s]-48:00 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=2880s] Nacebo effect + medication warnings 48:01 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=2881s]-51:01 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=3061s] Why life generally gets better 51:02 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=3062s]-53:29 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=3209s] Are parents to blame? 55:30 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=3330s] Advice for parents 59:45 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKj2nlOv9rg&t=3585s] How to connect with Meg ~~~~~~~~~ ↳ Follow Meg on TikTok:   [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqblUyWExNaXJBcncyUEt4Zm14MWtjYlFOaWhSUXxBQ3Jtc0tuQjhkYUdrS1RjcVg4N3pULWVsRXNIanNVaEVDTEk5VkE0d1B5V2c4M3JSWTJMWVlTb3prVXhsUnR4NnNyU3JtYjNuR3AyeVdXQXl2UjlKSmdkVUxqd3BSd3pTTnp1aVNJcnZNZ2hYeGZpZkNpTnpocw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40drmegjay&v=EKj2nlOv9rg]  / drmegjay   [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqblUyWExNaXJBcncyUEt4Zm14MWtjYlFOaWhSUXxBQ3Jtc0tuQjhkYUdrS1RjcVg4N3pULWVsRXNIanNVaEVDTEk5VkE0d1B5V2c4M3JSWTJMWVlTb3prVXhsUnR4NnNyU3JtYjNuR3AyeVdXQXl2UjlKSmdkVUxqd3BSd3pTTnp1aVNJcnZNZ2hYeGZpZkNpTnpocw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tiktok.com%2F%40drmegjay&v=EKj2nlOv9rg] ↳ Follow Meg on Instagram:   [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbmY4WmdaOFJ3dG93N0dnTlI4Qk9BOEVPUEhBd3xBQ3Jtc0tuU1hjSkZrcFFqM19NMzhkcy05cXlRZkh5YVVPQUczUHdMT2I0M3RiSG1KV2RjWFBaVzRZV3p1Rnh3azVid2NKRk44azl5ay1abDdlNWQ3TlV6YkMxalF5NnZPMW1taGFXaDZaMmRhdi1LT3RXNHlyNA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fdrmegjay%2F&v=EKj2nlOv9rg]  / drmegjay   [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbmY4WmdaOFJ3dG93N0dnTlI4Qk9BOEVPUEhBd3xBQ3Jtc0tuU1hjSkZrcFFqM19NMzhkcy05cXlRZkh5YVVPQUczUHdMT2I0M3RiSG1KV2RjWFBaVzRZV3p1Rnh3azVid2NKRk44azl5ay1abDdlNWQ3TlV6YkMxalF5NnZPMW1taGFXaDZaMmRhdi1LT3RXNHlyNA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fdrmegjay%2F&v=EKj2nlOv9rg] ↳ Meg's Website! https://megjay.com/ [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbDlNQ1NveUx4ZDFndmV5NkEyVC1PblU2bVpZd3xBQ3Jtc0ttUVFxSzVwWncwa1E5dHVFWEE0aUw3OEFBMzdYVm9DUTRzLTNLNHBGQ29OcDVpMVBuNG8ydmVqNjFfRi1vcWxOMWFhRUJMSGZhNndfd2FPamJwcjFQQmNIR1pvSk84YWxLQzQ5Z2FnOXZjblk3YU9CNA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fmegjay.com%2F&v=EKj2nlOv9rg] ↳ Buy The 20-Something Treatment: https://megjay.com/twentysomething-tr... 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In Episode 12, Erin interviews Reshma Saujani, founder of GirlsWhoCode and MomsFirst, an activist and leader with over a decade of experience advocating for women & girls empowerment. In this interview, Erin asks Reshma about being the first Indian American woman to run for U.S. Congress, getting rejected from Yale Law School (but persisting and eventually getting in!), founding GirlsWhoCode and MomsFirst (organizations that have impacted 500,000+ women across the world), paid family leave, childcare affordability, feminism, motherhood penalty, and more (including our love for dogs!). ➞ In this episode: 0:00 Meet Reshma! 2:22 Reshma’s Childhood + Background (& dogs!) 4:41 Growing up the daughter of African/Indian refugees 6:13 School bullies, immigrant parents & growing up as a minority 9:30 Rejection + Yale Law School 19:33 Why we should stop talking about “Imposter Syndrome” 23:23 Current feminist wave 27:37 Running for public office in NYC (and losing) 34:09 Starting GirlsWhoCode 35:50 What is MomsFirst? 38:35 Paid Family Leave in the US 41:22 Why we “don’t love moms” 58:52 Taking care of mental health 1:00:00 PaidLeave.ai 1:03:51 Advice with Reshma + Erin ~~~~~~~~~ ↳ Follow Reshma on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@reshmasaujani ↳ Follow Reshma on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reshmasaujani ↳ Check out GirlsWhoCode! https://girlswhocode.com/ ↳ Check out MomsFirst! https://momsfirst.us/ ↳ Need some help? Write to us for a chance to have your question answered (anonymously) on the show: https://bit.ly/nokwtd

In Episode 11, Erin interviews Grace Wells, a Gen Z content creator, filmmaker, and self-made commercial director. During the pandemic, Grace was finishing up her bachelors degree in Linguistics when she discovered her passion for video. She self-taught herself how to film, edit, animate, and produce videos. She started sharing her hobby online and went mega-viral overnight. Today, she has over 3 MILLION followers, was awarded Creator of the Year, signed on as a commercial director with Tool of NA, signed with Whalar, and has been hired to create ads for brands such as Maybelline, Celsius, Pampers, Amazon Prime Video, Adobe, QuickBooks, Old Spice, Kiehls, Cascade, Loreal, and many others. We also talk about managing finances, social anxiety, COVID, and more. This episode is perfect for anyone looking to work for themselves, become a content creator or filmmaker, especially if you're in your 20s! ➞ In this episode: 0:00 Meet Grace! 3:11 Grace upbringing + background 4:14 Working as a content creator/director 6:28 Going to school in Scotland 11:10 Switching majors & COVID in the UK 19:20 Social Anxiety & Going Viral 22:47 How to teach yourself skills online 25:10 Monetizing internet videos 32:49 Long-term goals/plans/strategy 34:10 Managing finances as a content creator 39:33 Advice with Erin & Grace ~~~~~~~~~ ↳ Follow Grace on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gracewellsphoto ↳ Follow Grace on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gracewellsphoto ↳ Check out Grace's COURSE! http://bit.ly/3Lh0HC9 ↳ Need some help? Write to us for a chance to have your question answered (anonymously) on the show: https://bit.ly/nokwtd

LIVE from Yosemite National Park: Episode 10 is our first ~Special Episode~ ever! Erin interviews her dad, Scranton-born, Maryland-living business owner, speaker, and author (and father of 6 kids). We discuss topics ranging from planning beers, UFO, answering questions in job interviews, deathbed confessions, and much, much more. If you're looking for good ol' fashion life advice from a Dad, you found it! ➞ In this episode: 0:00 Meet Chris McGoff 1:14 Growing up in Scranton in a funeral home 5:19 The Planning Beer 8:55 Seeing a UFO 11:20 Because of/In order to 14:00 Choose vs. Decide 17:04 "Enjoy the Gap" 22:28 How to work with someone you don't like 32:45 Business Card 32:24 Best Career Advice 38:25 Best Financial Advice 40:00 Best Piece of Life Advice Ever 48:49 How to answer "why do you want to work here?" 50:53 Relationship Advice after 43 Years of Marriage 54:40 Concluding Beers & a Dad Joke ~~~~~~~~~ ↳ Connect with Chris on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chrismcgoff/ ↳ Buy The Primes: https://amzn.to/3KX3New ↳ Buy Match in the Root Cellar: https://amzn.to/3VRtLpT ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ 🎙️ Listen on Apple → https://apple.co/3SNBpPu 🎙️ Listen on Spotify → https://spoti.fi/3I6j6Qz ~~~~~~~~~ → Mics are Rode 🎙️ → Chairs are from Target 🪑 → Table is Article 🍸 https://bit.ly/42HJU37 → Plants are from Bloomscape 🪴 https://bit.ly/48hjC8Y ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ↳ AdviceWithErin Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/advicewitherin/ ↳ NOKWTD Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/nooneknows.show/ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ↳ Need advice? Submit here → https://bit.ly/nokwtd ↳ Get my emails → https://advicewitherin.com/show

In Episode 09, Erin interviews Helene Sula (aka @heleneinbetween [https://www.instagram.com/heleneinbetween]) to talk about why and how she moved to Europe (twice!). Helene, a Texas native, explains how she left the corporate world to become a full-time travel blogger and content creator. She explains how she moved to Germany, then back to the US, and then to the UK—with her husband and two large dogs. We discuss healthcare, maternity leave, monetizing your social media, being childfree by choice, and the pros and cons of living abroad. ➞ In this episode: 0:00 Meet Helene 2:12 Helene’s childhood + upbringing in Texas 7:52 - Helene quitting her corporate job 12:30 - Side hustles + toxic corporate jobs 18:58 - Moving to Nashville 20:33 - Moving to Germany 23:24 - Moving to Europe with a dog 27:28 - How to monetize blog/social media 29:00 - Being childfree by choice 33:35 - Should you move to Europe? 36:11 - Erin living in the UK 37:42 - Why do Europeans care about US so much? 39:41 - NYC EARTHQUAKE! 40:36 - Advice for people moving to Europe 44:00 - Maternity leave US vs Europe 47:39 - Visa + immigration hurdles 49:20 - Favorite part about living abroad 50:52 - Experience living in Germany 56:00 - Happiest countries in the world? 58:00 Advice with Helene & Erin ~~~~~~~~~ ↳ Follow Helene on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heleneinbetween ↳ Check Out Helene's BOOK! https://www.amazon.com/OClock-Tuesday-Trevi-Fountain-Unconventional-ebook/dp/B0C9ZDP2YK ↳ Need some help? Write to us for a chance to have your question answered (anonymously) on the show: https://bit.ly/nokwtd