The Hardcore Therapist

The Hardcore Therapist 115.5- Why Do I Panic When Someone I Love Pulls Away? Understanding Attachment Panic + Tools to Self-Regulate

In today’s episode of The Hardcore Therapist, I breaks down one of the most common relationship struggles: the panic that hits when someone you love pulls away — even just a little. If you’ve ever gone into fight, flight, freeze, or frantic texting mode when a partner goes quiet, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening inside your brain and body. We explore: * How attachment patterns make distance feel dangerous * The neuroscience behind panic and “rejection alarms” * Why your nervous system reacts before your thoughts do * How this pattern affects relationships * And three powerful in-the-moment regulation tools you can use to calm your body and reconnect with clarity Proceeds from this podcast go directly to supporting uninsured and underinsured individuals seeking mental health care.  Follow, share, and help us get healing tools into more hands. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/support]

The Hardcore Therapist 115- Chris Lohman ( Blackspot, Collateral Damage, Done Dying, and John Henry Holiday)

Today on The Hardcore Therapist, we’re talking with Chris Lohman — guitarist, vocalist, and true veteran of the Southern California hardcore scene. Hailing from Huntington Beach, Chris has been part of the scene since the mid-’80s, playing in bands like Blackspot, Collateral Damage, Done Dying, and John Henry Holiday. He’s not just a musician, he’s also the founder of his own screen printing company, supporting the same community he helped build through decades of music, creativity, and DIY spirit. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/support]

The Hardcore Therapist 114.5- Perimenopause, Menopause & Your Mental Health — What No One Told You

In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, I breaks down the truth about perimenopause, menopause, and the massive impact hormonal shifts have on anxiety, depression, mood, sleep, and cognitive function. She explains why so many women are prescribed SSRIs during this phase — and why sometimes the real issue is unaddressed hormonal imbalance. You'll learn the science behind estrogen’s role in mental health, practical tools to manage symptoms, how to find a menopause-literate clinician through The Menopause Society, and why hormone therapy can be life-changing for some people. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/support]

The Hardcore Therapist 114- Benny Capaul (The Boy Detective)

Today on The Hardcore Therapist Podcast, I’m sitting down with Benny Capaul — vocalist and co-founder of the high-energy ska-punk band The Boy Detective, born out of southeastern Michigan’s DIY scene. The band, which began as a recording project between Benny and guitarist Nic Good, has evolved into a powerhouse of sharp songwriting, infectious energy, and emotional honesty. But Benny’s story goes far beyond the stage. He’s also a fourth-generation funeral director and death doula, dedicating his life to helping people navigate the sacred transition between life and death. His unique balance between creating music that celebrates life and holding space for grief and mortality offers a profound perspective on what it means to be human — to feel deeply, love fiercely, and honor every ending as much as every beginning. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/support]

The Hardcore Therapist 113.5- Who Are You When You’re Not Performing or Pleasing Others?

If that question hits a nerve, this episode is for you. In this powerful, science-backed episode of The Hardcore Therapist,I breaks down why so many of us become people-pleasers — from attachment to nervous system conditioning to psychological theories like the Sociometer Theory, Self-Determination Theory, and self-silencing research. You’ll learn:   The neuroscience and psychology behind people-pleasing  How chronic performing disconnects you from your authentic self  ACT-, CBT-, and IFS-informed strategies to break the cycle   Boundary scripts, micro-no’s, and behavioral experiments  A 2-minute guided practice to help you reconnect with your values If you’ve ever felt like your worth depends on staying likable, agreeable, or accommodating, this episode will help you reclaim your identity — without guilt, without shame, and without performing. Listen now and start becoming the version of yourself you actually recognize.