#58 What if the past still lives in you?

#59: Redefining Fatherhood: Why Two Weeks Isn’t Enough - George Chimes In on paternity leave and modern masculinity

In this episode,  George Gabriel the Co founder of Dadshift, a charity campaigning for better paternity leave. We explore the evolving narrative of masculinity and fatherhood, discussing the challenges faced by modern fathers, the importance of emotional support, and the need for societal change regarding paternity leave, which is currently 2 weeks! George shares his personal journey through fatherhood, emphasising the significance of presence over provision and the impact of paternal affection on future generations. We also address the term 'toxic masculinity' and advocate for a healthier understanding of masculinity that includes vulnerability and emotional engagement.  https://dadshift.org.uk [https://dadshift.org.uk] George Gabriel - LinkedIn

#58 What if the past still lives in you?

Let's explore how the subconscious mind holds onto early experiences and how the past can continue to shape our present. In this episode, I share my journey of losing my mother at ten years old and how, even decades later, my inner child still recreates that sense of chaos and powerlessness. Through a raw look at my therapy session, we unpack why the brain has no sense of linear time those early emotions are often still alive within us. We dive into how the inner child seeks safety in familiar patterns, even when they no longer serve us, and why understanding these hidden dynamics is key to breaking free. Whether you’ve faced loss, struggled with attachment, or found yourself repeating emotional cycles, this episode offers vulnerability, insight, and a reminder that we’re all human and healing starts by listening to that inner child. Let's connect! Email - menarehuman2@gmail.com Tik Tok - @menarehumantoo LinkedIn - Valentin Moyo

#57: From Restraining Order to Secure Love, healing attachment wounds - Bryan Power Chimes In

In this episode, I sit down with Bryan Power to talk about what happens when relationship patterns finally catch up with you and what it really takes to change them. Before Bryan began studying attachment styles and emotional healing, his marriage had reached a breaking point, including a restraining order from his wife (nothing violent) a moment that forced him to confront the deeper wounds driving his behaviour. What followed was a powerful journey of self-discovery, where he began unpacking the subconscious trauma passed down through generations, growing up with parents who were doing the best they could while carrying their own unresolved pain. We explore how attachment styles are shaped in childhood, how trauma gets inherited, and why these patterns are not a life sentence they are something we can work with and move through. Bryan also shares a huge shift that changed his relationships: learning the difference between listening defensively versus listening to understand. We talk about how many conflicts aren’t about the words being said, but about two nervous systems trying to protect themselves. Now, Bryan helps others identify their emotional blocks and teaches what secure love actually looks like in practice not perfection, but awareness, responsibility, and choice. This is an honest, hopeful conversation about breaking cycles, healing old wounds, and learning how to love in healthier ways even when your past didn’t teach you how. We dive into the subconscious wounds that shape our emotional wiring and learn why the things we react to in conflict often aren’t about the fight they’re about our unmet needs from long ago. We talk about how to listen during arguments with curiosity instead of defence, how to lead by example in relationships, and most importantly, why your attachment style isn’t a death sentence  it’s a starting point for growth. Whether you’re in a long-term partnership, somewhere in between, or healing alone, this conversation offers practical insight, personal stories, and hope for becoming more secure, more conscious, and more connected both to others and to yourself.

#56 Healing Old Wounds Without Losing Your Edge, Mother wounds and Lessons from Yoga - Paul Cameron part 2

In Part Two of my conversation with trauma coach Paul Cameron, we go deeper into the work of becoming a well-rounded man. We explore mother wounds, how they shape our relationships, and what it really means to balance masculine and feminine energy without losing yourself. Paul also shares a surprising insight from his time practising yoga — how slowing down challenged his nervous system, softened old patterns, and taught him a different kind of strength. We talk about presence, patience, and the quiet work of learning to feel rather than push. This episode is an invitation to rethink masculinity, heal old relational wounds, and discover that growth doesn’t always come from doing more — sometimes it comes from slowing down.

#55 Why We Keep Going Back to Pain - Paul Cameron Chimes in on Self sabotage Inner teen rebel

In this episode, I sit down with trauma coach Paul Cameron for a deep, honest, and surprisingly relatable conversation about the patterns that keep us stuck. Paul breaks down the idea of the “emotional home” — the familiar state we fall back into when life gets hard, even if that place is painful or self-sabotaging. He opens up about a moment in his own life when the financial pressure became so intense he contemplated “ditching the van” — literally driving it into a ditch just to escape the weight he was carrying. His honesty around that moment sets the tone for the rest of the conversation: raw, human, and unfiltered. We also explore the inner teen rebel, the disconnection from the inner child, the exhaustion of people-pleasing, and how these old roles show up in adulthood when we’re trying to move forward. This episode is packed with insight, compassion, humour, and real talk — a reminder that breaking patterns isn’t about being perfect; it’s about understanding the story you keep returning to and choosing something better. Connect with Paul https://www.traumapaul.com TikTok - Paul Cameron @TruamaPaul Join Paul's healing program - https://www.skool.com/rewrite-the-script-5671/about?ref=7c11d06d489943b9902c72fe61754111 Let's connect! Email - menarehuman2@gmail.com Tik Tok - @menarehumantoo LinkedIn - Valentin Moyo