Midlife Clarity

Your ability to transform is directly related to your psychological flexibility

Key premise:   Our ability to adapt to changing circumstances is just as important as commitment and discipline, because corrections mean improvements and this is real life.  Why it’s important: “Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the mouth.” - Mike Tyson Having a plan going in is critical.  But when something happens that’s not in the plan, many times we’ll freeze in fear.  Heavy traffic, bad health diagnosis, slow business month, weather event, COVID.  How you react to adversity (or even just different) defines you and your ability to persevere.   A deviation from the plan doesn’t mean failure.  If adapting to changing circumstances moves you closer to where you want to be than checking off the box just to say you did it, then by adapting, you’ve made for an effective day.

Imagining your future is better than remembering your past

You are much more likely to end up where you want to be when you focus on what you want your future to look like instead of what your past has looked like.

Everything in life is cyclical

When you're on top the mountain, it won't stay that way forever. And when you're down in a valley, it won't stay that way forever. Life is full of cycles and rhythms. Learn to be hopeful and prepared, and to work in cooperation with your own personal rhythms.

Raising the floor is better than aiming for the ceiling

A few announcements, and still working on building some common language. This week let's talk about playing chess instead of checkers, and making sustainable improvements for the long haul.

Labels equal limits

Let's explore transformation principle #2 as we open up our minds to the possibility that the next chapter can be what we truly want it to be.