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When families are under pressure, is it ever really about one person? Or is it actually about the system they’re part of? In this episode of The Reframe, host Douglas Bodin speaks with Dr. Kathryn Ford, psychiatrist, couples therapist, and author of The Aperture Effect, about how stress within families often exposes deeper relational dynamics. Drawing on her systems-based approach, Dr. Ford explains why competence lives in relationships rather than individuals, and how mindfulness can help couples stay connected when tensions rise. They discuss how modern families have become more isolated, even while living together, and how this shapes the way parents respond to stress and conflict. Dr. Ford shares practical tools from her book, including the idea of “aperture”, or moment-to-moment openness, and explains how slowing down and noticing subtle shifts in connection can transform difficult conversations. The episode also explores the challenges parents face when raising adolescents and young adults, from learning how to let go of outcomes to supporting growth through uncertainty. Tune in for a grounded, thoughtful conversation on how to strengthen relationships when families are under pressure. Key Points From This Episode: * Systems thinking and why Dr. Ford works with couples rather than individuals. * How modern families have lost a sense of themselves as interconnected systems. * Why isolation can exist even when families live in the same household. * Competence as something created between people, not within an individual. * The limits of therapeutic models when presence and connection are missing. * How to use mindfulness as the foundation of moment-to-moment connection. * Learning to notice early “uh-oh” moments in difficult conversations. * How challenges can move couples from complacency into a growth mindset. * The shift parents must make from control to consultation with young adults. * Trusting young adults to learn through mistakes and recovery. * Dr. Ford’s tools for helping families slow down and stay present in conversation. * Practical exercises in The Aperture Effect for communication and learning. * How Dr. Ford works with families when a young adult at home is not thriving. * Ways that post-pandemic uncertainty has reshaped youth development. * Why growth, learning, and change remain possible at every stage of life. Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: Dr. Kathryn Ford [https://www.kathrynfordmd.com/] Dr. Kathryn Ford on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathrynfordmd/] The Aperture Effect [https://www.kathrynfordmd.com/the-aperture-effect] Dialogue: The Art Of Thinking Together [https://www.amazon.com/Dialogue-Thinking-Together-William-Isaacs/dp/0385479999] A General Theory of Love [https://www.amazon.com/General-Theory-Love-Thomas-Lewis/dp/0375709223] Douglas Bodin [https://thebodingroup.com/dougbodin] The Bodin Group [https://thebodingroup.com/]
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