BWJP Presents: Taking Back Control

Who We Believe: The Perfect Victim and the Credibility Discount

Episode Summary Who do we believe when someone says they’ve been harmed — and why? In this episode of Taking Back Control, host Alyssa Toledo introduces BWJP Staff Attorney Rachel Barkley, who unpacks two interconnected ideas that shape how survivors are treated by our culture and our courts: The Perfect Victim Archetype and The Credibility Discount. From Nils Christie’s “Ideal Victim” theory to modern-day media narratives, Rachel explores how bias, privilege, and trauma misunderstanding combine to determine who is seen as believable. Through two high-profile cases — Cassie Ventura’s lawsuit against Sean “Diddy” Combs and Amber Heard’s defamation trial with Johnny Depp — she illustrates how survivors who don’t fit the “perfect” mold are too often dismissed, doubted, or punished. Together, Alyssa and Rachel examine how challenging these myths can create space for systemic change, media literacy, and real accountability within the legal landscape. Resources & References * What These Cases of High-Profile Accusers Reveal About the Credibility Gap — bwjp.org [https://bwjp.org] * DARVO, Misogyny, and the Myth of the Perfect Victim * Victim Blaming (Canadian Resource Centre for Victims of Crime) * Sanctuary for Families: DARVO and the Perfect Victim * Related podcast: Women & Crime: Cassie Ventura * Amber Heard & The Myth of the Perfect Victim (YouTube)

When Justice Goes Global: BWJP & GRW Join Forces

In this special episode of Taking Back Control, host Alyssa Toledo sits down with two visionary leaders—Amy Sánchez, CEO of BWJP, and Cheryl Thomas, Founder and Executive Director of Global Rights for Women (GRW)—to discuss the landmark merger between their organizations. Now a few weeks into this historic union, we explore what it means for survivors, advocates, and the future of global justice. Together, we unpack: * Why BWJP and GRW chose to merge now * How this shift expands survivor-centered advocacy across borders * What’s next for programming, policy, and community engagement * The challenges and heart behind making big change happen * A message to GRW’s global community—and how to stay connected Whether you're a long-time listener of Valiant Voices or brand new to BWJP’s work, this episode marks a turning point—and we’re honored to have you here for it. Learn more today! bwjp.org [https://bwjp.org]

Identity in Action: Advocacy, Storytelling, and the Power of Showing Up Whole

In this episode of the BWJP podcast, host Alyssa Toledo is joined by legal advocate and community organizer Rachel Barkley for a powerful conversation about the role of identity in social justice work. Together, they reflect on how personal experiences shape their approaches to advocacy, communications, and movement building. From navigating burnout to finding joy, and from creative storytelling to systems change, Alyssa and Rachel explore what it means to lead with authenticity—and how staying true to who we are can deepen our impact.

A New Era of Protection: Inside the National Restraining Order Center

In this episode of Taking Back Control, host Alyssa Toledo explores the launch of the National Restraining Order Center (NROC), a new initiative by BWJP aimed at improving safety, access, and justice for survivors of abuse. Alyssa is joined by Monica Player, Sarah Hur, and Megan Belden, experts in law and advocacy, who share their insights on NROC’s vision, its approach to breaking down barriers, and its role in supporting survivors. The discussion covers the importance of restraining orders, common myths and misconceptions about their effectiveness, and the legal and procedural challenges that still make it difficult for survivors to obtain or enforce them. The guests dive into how NROC is making restraining orders more accessible, particularly for underserved populations like teens, immigrants, and those in rural areas. They also address the intersection of technology, legal protections, and the rise of Extreme Risk Protection Orders (ERPOs). With a focus on collaboration and systemic change, the episode highlights NROC’s efforts to improve interstate enforcement of restraining orders and work alongside other BWJP centers to ensure holistic support for survivors. This conversation offers a deeper look into NROC’s mission to create a more effective and inclusive legal system for survivors of abuse.

Financial Empowerment for Survivors: Inside the Moving Ahead Workbook

Economic abuse is a common tactic in abusive relationships—yet it’s often misunderstood or overlooked. In this episode of Taking Back Control, we take a closer look at the Moving Ahead workbook, a resource developed by The Allstate Foundation to help survivors navigate financial instability and work toward long-term independence. Host Alyssa Toledo is joined by Tonya Lovelace, President & CEO of Lovelace Consulting Services, Inc., who served as expert facilitator for the workbook’s most recent revision. Sharisse Kimbro of The Allstate Foundation and Amy Sánchez, CEO of BWJP, also join the conversation to share how the workbook has evolved over time and how it continues to support advocates and survivors across the country. Together, they explore how financial empowerment is not just about numbers—it’s about safety, dignity, and building a future on your own terms. https://www.thelearningcommunitytoendviolence.org/movingahead