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Season 1 - Episode 19 - Rescuer or Disappearing Act - Untangling Codependency and Pathological Accommodation

27 min · 22 okt 2025
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Are you always the one fixing, pleasing, or holding everything together, even when it hurts? In this raw and revealing episode, Adele dives into the hidden psychology of codependency and pathological accommodation - the deep, often unconscious patterns that make us sacrifice our own needs to keep the peace. We explore:  🌀 The difference between healthy empathy and self-erasure  ❤️‍🩹 Why “helping” can sometimes be a trauma response  💣 How childhood survival strategies turn into adult relationship traps  🧠 The inner drivers behind rescuing, over-giving, and emotional burnout  💬 Steps to break free — reclaiming your boundaries, voice, and authentic self This isn’t about blaming yourself, it’s about seeing yourself. Because you can’t heal what you can’t name. 🎧 Tune in for a powerful deep dive into how to stop rescuing, start receiving, and finally learn that you don’t have to disappear to be loved.

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