Punk Rock Therapy

These Go to 11

In this final episode of Season One, Josh pulls together the through-line that runs through the entire Punk Rock Therapy project — the uncomfortable truth that what we want most in life is usually found in the place we least want to look. He reflects on his own work with anger, the parts of ourselves we exile, and how our wounds don't disappear just because we ignore them. The places inside us that scare us, embarrass us, or feel "too much" are often the exact places where our power and presence are hiding. This episode is about embracing the contradictions that real growth requires: stepping into tension to find relief, surrendering to find strength, and turning toward pain to reclaim ourselves. Season One ends here. But the work doesn't.

Fight of the Century

In this episode, Josh breaks down a painful pattern that shows up again and again in relationships — finding yourself in the same fight, with a different person, and wondering what's wrong with you. Using Muhammad Ali's obsession with rematching Joe Frazier, Josh explains why we're drawn back to the people and dynamics that hurt us the most. Not because we're broken, but because our nervous system is looking for a rematch — the same fight, this time with a different outcome. He explores how childhood wounds quietly shape adult attraction, why "chemistry" can be a warning sign, and how unhealed pain shows up either as the same wound or its opposite. The fight feels personal. But it was set up a long time ago.

What Death by A Thousand Cuts Sounds Like

In this episode, Josh talks about one of the most common and least dramatic ways relationships fall apart — not through blowups, betrayal, or big moments, but through not being heard. Drawing from a real couples session, he explains how two opposite experiences can be happening at the same time, and how one partner slowly loses themselves when their inner world goes unseen. Over time, that invisibility adds up — not in one fatal wound, but in hundreds of small cuts. Josh breaks down why feeling unheard is so corrosive to intimacy, why defensiveness kills connection, and how simply learning to truly listen can be the difference between a relationship that survives and one that quietly dies. Most relationships don't end with a bang. It's usually death by a thousand cuts.

Trauma, Trauma, Trauma-Everbody Loves Trauma!

In this episode, Josh breaks down the most overused, eye-roll-inducing word in the therapy world — trauma — and explains why people shut down around it. Instead of treating trauma like a dramatic label, he reframes it as something much simpler: the natural way a wildly sensitive nervous system gets "knocked out of tune" in childhood. We aren't broken — we were Stradivarius violins asked to survive in blizzards. Josh explores the danger of becoming the opposite — a cinder block who feels nothing — and why ignoring the sensitive parts of ourselves only gives those parts more control. Real healing begins when we learn to feel again, to tune the instrument instead of pretending it's made of concrete. And if you think you have no wounds? As Uncle Hank says… you're lying, and you're boring. Tune the violin. Don't piss off Uncle Hank.

Go Back

In this episode, Josh tells the story of two boys on a playground — a story that becomes a metaphor for what so many men unknowingly do in their adult relationships. He explains how men often exile the wounded, insecure part of themselves and instead chase the "cool kids": success, achievement, and romantic validation. Those things feel like salvation, like proof that we never have to face the old pain again. But when work disappoints us or a partner pulls away, the reaction — rage, collapse, panic — comes from that abandoned kid inside who suddenly gets exposed again. Josh breaks down why our talents can't heal our wounds, why career and relationships can't save us from ourselves, and why the only way forward is to go back to the part of us we left behind a long time ago. You can't outrun the kid. You have to go get him.