ALLT: S03E11 Passports, Patriarchy & Genital Operators

S03E14 – Wall Street Trans Barbie Meets Her Match (Spoiler: It's Mardi P.)

Mardi and Lenny, two trans elders carrying over a century of lived experience, open their hearts about the realities facing the trans community today. The episode centers on the devastating violence claiming trans lives. Trans women of color face the most brutal violence, often from intimate partners. They honor Erica Caldwell, Aliana Royal Bechdel, Devonta Curtis, and Shael Diamond Sanchez McCrae—women whose stories deserve to be told. The hosts raise awareness about systemic violence rooted in intersecting racism and transphobia. Some A Life Lived Trans social media drama happened when a viral clip posted from our last episode sparked heated conversations online when Alexandra Billings discussed how trans men often experience different passing dynamics. Further down the algorithm, Mardi responded with a video critiquing rapid transitions and punching down at others in the community. The exchange generated thousands of comments, teaching Martdi that viral moments create conversations far beyond her original intention. Throughout the episode, Mardi and Lenny explore how survival alone leaves people miserable – thriving requires joy, community, and growth. They acknowledge their own privilege while calling for collective liberation across all marginalized communities. Their core message: stay authentic, support one another, engage respectfully to educate, and remember that trans elders continue learning too. – This is A Life Lived Trans. * Shownotes: Trans Women of Color Collective: https://twocc.org/ [https://twocc.org/] RIP Davonta Curtis: https://www.them.us/story/black-trans-woman-davonta-curtis-killed-in-her-chicago-apartment [https://www.them.us/story/black-trans-woman-davonta-curtis-killed-in-her-chicago-apartment] RIP Aleanna Royal Bechdel: https://www.pghlesbian.com/2026/04/black-trans-woman-aleanna-royal-bechdel-fatally-stabbed-in-new-york-state/ [https://www.pghlesbian.com/2026/04/black-trans-woman-aleanna-royal-bechdel-fatally-stabbed-in-new-york-state/] RIP Eryka Caldwell: https://www.them.us/story/trans-woman-eryka-caldwell-fatally-stabbed-in-bushwick-brooklyn [https://www.them.us/story/trans-woman-eryka-caldwell-fatally-stabbed-in-bushwick-brooklyn] RIP Danielle Spillman: https://www.them.us/story/dannielle-spillman-san-francisco-trans-woman-run-over-killed [https://www.them.us/story/dannielle-spillman-san-francisco-trans-woman-run-over-killed] RIP Luca RedBeard: https://www.them.us/story/lucas-redbeard-knapp-killing-new-mexico [https://www.them.us/story/lucas-redbeard-knapp-killing-new-mexico]

ALLT S03E13 – Fighting for Trans Youth's Right to Exist

Join trans elders Mardi P. and Lenny Z. as they bring nearly 100 years of collective lived experience to the table in this deeply personal episode. Recording from their favourite spot – the elder folx house. This week, they're getting real about aging parents, health challenges, and the importance of self-care and boundaries. They dive into Canadian citizenship fast-tracking options for trans Americans seeking safety, celebrate the resilience of trans activism, and call out the privilege of older trans folks who've forgotten where they came from. The hosts honour Marsha P. Johnson through composer Omar Thomas's beautiful instrumental piece "Mother of a Revolution", which was banned from a high school but found a home in a local church — a true testament to community resilience. They read heartfelt listener messages about transition fears, breast augmentation, and the courage it takes to start your journey later in life. Most importantly, they shine a light on the devastating reality of trans violence, paying tribute to Juniper Blessing, a 19-year-old trans musician tragically murdered, while emphasising why healthcare access and community support for trans youth is literally a matter of life and death. – This is a life lived trans – Shownotes: * Trans Kids Suicide Increase: https://goodlawproject.org/new-data-shows-surge-in-trans-kids-suicides-following-healthcare-rollbacks/ [https://goodlawproject.org/new-data-shows-surge-in-trans-kids-suicides-following-healthcare-rollbacks/] * Juniper Blessing: https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2026/05/new-details-in-juniper-blessing-he-stabbed-her-over-40-times-after-prowling-the-residence/ [https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2026/05/new-details-in-juniper-blessing-he-stabbed-her-over-40-times-after-prowling-the-residence/] * Eryka Caldwell: https://www.them.us/story/trans-woman-eryka-caldwell-fatally-stabbed-in-bushwick-brooklyn [https://www.them.us/story/trans-woman-eryka-caldwell-fatally-stabbed-in-bushwick-brooklyn] * Music by Omar Thomas, UGA Wind Ensemble, A Mother of A Revolution! : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6ieR-YZ4eY&list=RDR6ieR-YZ4eY&start_radio=1 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6ieR-YZ4eY&list=RDR6ieR-YZ4eY&start_radio=1] * Performance of Wildflowers by Juniper Blessing and the NMMEA all state mixed chorus 2024: https://www.tiktok.com/@fire4452/video/7642131046204476703 [https://www.tiktok.com/@fire4452/video/7642131046204476703]

REPLAY - Bridging generations even when they tell you to shut up. W/ The Alexandra Billings!

On this episode of A Life Lived Trans, Alexandra Billings drops by in all her hilarious glory and discusses together with Mardi P. and Lenny Z., the need for connection and understanding between trans generations and the significance of sharing experiences of acceptance and resilience.  Show notes: * Russo, Why We Fight (1988): https://youtu.be/C0Q8p0HCQEs?si=s4jJCAQbHyXcXYSO [https://youtu.be/C0Q8p0HCQEs?si=s4jJCAQbHyXcXYSO] * The AIDS Monument: https://aidsmonument.org/ [https://aidsmonument.org/]   We have had some family and personal health issues and were't able to record last week. Pls enjoy this free video episode. Its one of our favourites that with did last year. We will be back next week with a new episode full of the fabulous banter you have come to expect from us!

S03E12 Pick me gays vs. the crows have eyes

Season three, episode 12 of A Life Lived Trans opens with hosts Mardi P. and Lenny Z. checking in personally before diving into a packed agenda. Lenny shares that he's navigating some difficult family struggles, which leads to a warm exchange about the complexity of family relationships for trans people — estrangement, boundaries, and the particular pain of having unsupportive family members, including conservative relatives. Both hosts reflect on their own histories with chosen family, stealth living, and the hard-won community they've built over decades. The bulk of the episode takes on the Met Gala, where Mardi and Lenny call out what they see as the tokenizing of trans women — namely Hunter Schaefer and Alex Consani — at an event now bankrolled by Jeff Bezos. Mardi draws a sharp parallel to her own experience in the 1980s being the "token tranny" at wealthy Vancouver parties, and the conversation expands into a broader critique of "pick-me gays" who distance themselves from the trans community for social acceptance, at a moment when trans youth suicide rates are climbing in both the US and UK. They also touch on passport gender policy rollbacks under the current US administration, and celebrate Trans History Week with a rundown of Canadian and American trans trailblazers. The episode wraps with a joyful segment on Chris Paul Rainbows' upcoming children's book Guinea Pigs Don't Wear Pants — a gender-affirming picture book with charming self-illustrated pages, available for pre-order with a portion of sales going to the It Gets Better foundation. Mardi also gives a brief update on the memoir she's writing, describing the process as both cathartic and re-traumatizing, with a first chapter due the following week. https://www.guineapigsdontwearpants.com/ [https://www.guineapigsdontwearpants.com/]

ALLT: S03E11 Passports, Patriarchy & Genital Operators

Mardi and Lenny open the episode with their signature irreverent energy, welcoming new Patreon supporters and giving a shoutout to their editor "Sparkly Fairy" for elevating the show's production quality.  They reflect on why they started the podcast — to counter the false narrative that trans people are a recent phenomenon — sharing how both men and women transitioned in the 1970s and have watched representation slowly trickle into mainstream culture, from Christine Jorgensen to the award winning series Transparent.  Mardi recalls the latest huge increase in Trans Visibility during the Pandemic and the early days of uncensored TikTok when she found a huge audience of young trans people hungry for elder representation, a pipeline that has since been algorithmically throttled. The hosts dive into a lively, frank discussion about the distinction between gender identity and gender expression. Drawing on Mardi's colorful past as a "professional gennytill operator," they discuss the world of bimbification and cross-dressing fetish culture — not to shame it, but to clearly separate it from the transgender experience. They frame both as products of a patriarchal society that punishes gender nonconformity, making compassionate space for the kink world while pushing back against conflation with trans identity. The episode wraps into a segment on Caitlyn Jenner's passport woes, a broader conversation about trans rights, legal battles, and municipal representation through the lens of New York City's new LGBTQ appointee. – This is a Life Lived Trans