Decisions, Decisions

Lost in translation

I studied International Relations in college. Somewhere along the way... I may have confused that with international dating. In this episode of Coffee, Tea and Me, I'm sharing stories from years of highly unscientific—but surprisingly educational—international field research. We'll talk about dating across cultures, navigating different expectations, family dynamics, stereotypes, and why sometimes the hardest thing to translate in a relationship isn't the language... It's the expectations. You'll also hear what dating an Argentinian, a Dutchman, and an American taught me about love, compatibility, and why "different" doesn't automatically mean "wrong." So whether you're dating someone from another culture, have ever been called "exotic," or you're just curious why love doesn't come with subtitles... Grab your coffee... or your tea... Class is officially in session. coffeeteaandmepodcast@gmail.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588120827969⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588120827969] ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/coffeeteaandmepodcast/⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/coffeeteaandmepodcast/] TikTok coffeeteaandmepodcast

Is it me? Am I the drama?

Is it me? Am I the drama? …or is there actually a reason everything feels this intense? In this episode of Coffee, Tea and Me, I’m talking about getting diagnosed with ADHD later in life—and how it explained way more than I expected… especially when it comes to my emotions and relationships. From feeling like I was "too much" growing up, to masking, overthinking, and constantly trying to keep up with my own brain—we’re getting into what ADHD can actually look like (especially in women), and why it often gets missed. We’ll also talk about dating with ADHD (aka getting emotionally invested in 30 minutes), why small things can feel really big, and something called Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria —where a tone shift or a late text can suddenly feel like a whole situation. So no… it’s not just you. But also… maybe it’s a little your brain. If you’ve ever overthought, over-felt, or asked yourself, “why am I like this?”—this one’s for you. coffeeteaandmepodcast@gmail.com ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588120827969⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588120827969] ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/coffeeteaandmepodcast/⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/coffeeteaandmepodcast/]

Detachment - Attachment Theory pt. 3

Ever known better… and still stayed anyway? In Part 3 of this series on Coffee, Tea and Me, I’m sharing what it actually looks like when all that awareness you’ve built gets tested in real life. Because understanding your patterns is one thing… but being in it—when your feelings are involved, when it feels real—that’s different. This episode is more personal. I’m talking about a relationship that pulled me right back into old patterns—overthinking, chasing, holding on to potential—and how hard it was to walk away, even when I knew I wasn’t getting what I needed. We get into the anxious-avoidant dynamic, emotional unavailability, and that push-pull cycle that can feel intense, confusing… and honestly, kind of addictive. And we talk about what it took for me to finally be honest with myself—not just about him, but about my own patterns—and start learning how to detach without losing myself in the process. If you’ve ever known something wasn’t right… but couldn’t quite let it go, this one’s for you. coffeeteaandmepodcast@gmail.com ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588120827969⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588120827969] ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/coffeeteaandmepodcast/⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/coffeeteaandmepodcast/]

The Attachment Fix - Attachment Theory pt. 2

Ever realized your patterns… but still found yourself doing the same thing anyway? In Part 2 of this series on Coffee, Tea and Me, we’re getting into what actually matters—healing. Because awareness is one thing… but choosing differently in the moment? That’s the hard part. We talk about what it looks like to break those patterns in real time—learning to pause instead of react, stop chasing clarity from someone who isn’t giving it, and choose self-respect over привычка. We also get into how to become more secure, what healthy love actually feels like, and why healing isn’t about becoming someone new—it’s about finally staying true to yourself. If you’ve ever known better… but still felt pulled back into the same dynamic, this one’s for you. coffeeteaandmepodcast@gmail.com ⁠https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588120827969⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588120827969] ⁠https://www.instagram.com/coffeeteaandmepodcast/⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/coffeeteaandmepodcast/] And if you are interested in some more info about Attachment Theory, here are some suggestions. I am not affiliated with any of these authors or podcasters. Just wanted to share. Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller: ⁠https://a.co/d/02367CFR⁠ [https://a.co/d/02367CFR] Attachment Theory by Thais Gibson: ⁠https://a.co/d/07syYQlr⁠ [https://a.co/d/07syYQlr] The Mel Robbins Podcast with Thais Gibson: ⁠https://youtu.be/GIkspM20BeY?si=JWMGnpH4oJgsC_2c [https://youtu.be/GIkspM20BeY?si=JWMGnpH4oJgsC_2c]

The Rules of Attachment - Attachment Theory pt.1

Ever wondered why you can be totally chill in relationships… until you actually like someone? In Part 1 of this series on Coffee, Tea and Me, we’re diving into attachment theory—what it is, how it’s shaped, and why it shows up hard in dating. We break down the four attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, fearful avoidant, and secure), what they look like in real life, and how different combinations can feel either grounding… or like emotional chaos. We also talk about how to recognize your own patterns and simple ways to start understanding your attachment style—without overcomplicating it. If you’ve ever overthought a text, pulled away when things got real, or found yourself in the same relationship dynamic on repeat… this one’s for you. coffeeteaandmepodcast@gmail.com https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588120827969 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61588120827969] https://www.instagram.com/coffeeteaandmepodcast/ [https://www.instagram.com/coffeeteaandmepodcast/] And if you are interested in some more info about Attachment Theory, here are some suggestions. I am not affiliated with any of these authors or podcasters. Just wanted to share. Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller: https://a.co/d/02367CFR [https://a.co/d/02367CFR] Attachment Theory by Thais Gibson: https://a.co/d/07syYQlr [https://a.co/d/07syYQlr] The Mel Robbins Podcast with Thais Gibson: https://youtu.be/GIkspM20BeY?si=JWMGnpH4oJgsC_2c [https://youtu.be/GIkspM20BeY?si=JWMGnpH4oJgsC_2c]