Decoding Narcissism, Manipulation And Toxic Ideas, with Frederik Ribersson

131. Using Emotions To Navigate (Toxic) Relationships

Learn how to use emotions to detect toxic signals in a relationship, symptoms of unhealthy relationships, and noticing when something is off. As well as reducing the risk a relationship becomes toxic. Dr Paul Ekman recently passed away and his work on emotions was ground breaking. We can use emotions to decode things happening around us that our rational brains don't see. But with emotions, we can learn the signals. In this episode, I run through the 7 universal emotions, how to use them to decode toxic situations, and why none of them are "negative", even though 5 are unpleasant.

130. Getting Our Energy (And Lives) Back

Toxic relationships are draining. And managing our energy is crucial in order to get our lives back. I share some thoughts and tips around this, while taking you for a walk - and hoping the noise is not detracting from the content. (If it is, please let me know and I won't record outside again). In short: get out and move! The body needs movement and toxic people feel like they're pulling on the hand break. And there are other things you can do to get your life back on track, I share some suggestions and how you can find what works for you!

129. How To Trust Again After A Narcissist?

After we trusted too easily, too much the wrong person, what do we do? Shutting down and no longer trusting anyone is safe. But... It leads to a very lonely life, and might be a bit of an overreaction, at least in the long term. So what can we do? And how to do it? A client asked me this question, I gave her a long answer, and thought it might be helpful for some listeners.

128. Picking Up On Toxic Signals In Real Time - Real Story

I noticed a series of strange signals before things get really weird - but I reacted calmly: I was prepared, this time. I'd started speaking with a woman at the hotel gym. I noticed some weird comments. Each, taken individually, didn't mean much, but together should have alerted me. I was going to have dinner and she tagged along. During the dinner, she attempted to switch on Drama Mode and play victim. But instead of apologise or reassure her, I debunked her claims, calmly. Here are the signals I picked up on, and some thoughts around such (bizarre) interactions. Some might remind you of situations you've been in. Maybe you can imagine if you would have reacted like me, or differently, and you'll see different options. I hope you find this helpful (and possibly entertaining).

127. Reputation Destruction (Smear Campaign): Decoding, Debunking and Managing A Toxic Ex Colleague

A friend was upset: he's fallen out with an ex colleague, whom I happen to know. He was worried because of a former "colleague" who was smearing him. I happen to know the guy, and found him weird. In this episode I share part of our conversation. This is relevant for anyone having to deal with a smear campaign.