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Top Sexologist Reveals Best Relationship Advice for Midlife || Tanya Koens

54 min · 11. maj 2026
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Tanya Koens is a leading sexologist, somatic sex therapist, and self-described "pleasure activist". In this episode of Don't Let the Old Man In, we sit down with Tanya to explore what sex and intimacy really look like in your 40s, 50s, and 60s. Whether you're navigating mismatched libido, adjusting to an aging body, or stepping back into dating after a long-term relationship, Tanya brings warmth, expertise, and zero judgement to the conversation. Suggest a topic you'd like us to cover: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/suggestions/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://dontlettheoldmanin.com/subscribe/ In this episode, we cover: * Why libido after 40 isn't what most people expect (and why that's actually good news) * The truth about mismatched libido — and how to talk about it without it turning into a fight * Spontaneous vs. responsive desire: what the difference means for your relationship * How to "schedule" sex in a way that actually keeps the spark alive * Navigating intimacy and dating after 50 — including the new rules around consent * The impact of pornography on sexual expectations * Why curiosity, kindness, and generosity are the foundation of great sexual health at any age ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

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