Evolutionary Men

In this episode, I unpack the concept of men’s groups as the essential “third way”—a relational container that fills the gaps left by coaching and therapy. Drawing on personal experience and cultural insight, I explore how these groups serve as both a third place and a missing medicine for modern men—offering brotherhood, real-time feedback, and deep presence in a peer-led structure. With loneliness, isolation, and performative masculinity on the rise, I make the case that decentralized men’s groups aren’t just helpful—they’re revolutionary. Join a virtual group via the Men’s Group Experience [https://feeds.evolutionary.men/~/t/0/0/evolutionarymenpodcast/~https://evolutionary.men/mens-group-experience] Join a virtual group with live retreat in The Heart of Shadow [https://feeds.evolutionary.men/~/t/0/0/evolutionarymenpodcast/~https://evolutionary.men/heartofshadow] [https://feeds.evolutionary.men/~/i/919131641/0/evolutionarymenpodcast] Click the icon below to listen.[https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/podplay.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/-/919131638/0/evolutionarymenpodcast.mp3 [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/fblike20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/28/919131641/EvolutionaryMenPodcast [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/pinterest20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/29/919131641/EvolutionaryMenPodcast, [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/x.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/24/919131641/EvolutionaryMenPodcast [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/email20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/19/919131641/EvolutionaryMenPodcast [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/rss20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/20/919131641/EvolutionaryMenPodcast

In this episode, I’m joined by my friend and brother in the men’s work space Amir Khalighi. He shares his journey into men’s work, discussing the importance of somatic healing and the role of community in personal growth. He emphasizes the need for men to reconnect with their true selves and the natural world, highlighting the challenges they face in today’s society. Amir defines ‘Embodied Masculine’ as a unique approach that integrates somatic and shamanic practices, aiming to empower men to live purposefully and authentically. We explore the evolving landscape of masculinity, emphasizing the importance of men’s circles, vulnerability, and the reclamation of feminine energy. Amir highlights the dangers of disconnected masculinity and the necessity for men to find their purpose within a community, ultimately advocating for a balanced approach to leadership that embraces both strength and vulnerability. More about Amir Khalighi at embodiedmasculine.com [https://feeds.evolutionary.men/~/t/0/0/evolutionarymenpodcast/~https://embodiedmasculine.com/] Join the Men’s Group Experience [https://feeds.evolutionary.men/~/t/0/0/evolutionarymenpodcast/~https://evolutionary.men/mens-group-experience] [https://feeds.evolutionary.men/~/i/918828581/0/evolutionarymenpodcast] Click the icon below to listen.[https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/podplay.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/-/918828578/0/evolutionarymenpodcast.mp3 [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/fblike20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/28/918828581/EvolutionaryMenPodcast [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/pinterest20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/29/918828581/EvolutionaryMenPodcast, [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/x.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/24/918828581/EvolutionaryMenPodcast [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/email20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/19/918828581/EvolutionaryMenPodcast [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/rss20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/20/918828581/EvolutionaryMenPodcast

In this episode, I share the deeper “why” behind launching my new program, Men’s Group Experience—and what I’ve learned after decades in the trenches of men’s work. Yes, I’ve talked before about the power of decentralized men’s groups. But this conversation goes further. This one’s about what actually sustains a group—beyond the structure. What makes men stay, show up fully, and build something real together? I explore the difference between just “being in a group” and fully owning your seat in circle. I also break down what inspired me to create this new offering, how it builds on everything I’ve learned from leading and being part of men’s groups for over 20 years, and why now is the moment to reclaim this kind of brotherhood. If you’ve been circling around this work but haven’t taken the leap—or if you’ve done some groups but they didn’t stick—this is your invitation. The Men’s Group Experience is a 12-week, no-BS initiation into what it actually means to be in a functional, supportive, and sustainable men’s group. You’ll get the framework, the practices, and the chance to keep your group going indefinitely—with or without me. Learn more about Men’s Group Experience [https://feeds.evolutionary.men/~/t/0/0/evolutionarymenpodcast/~https://evolutionary.men/mens-group-experience] [https://feeds.evolutionary.men/~/i/918642143/0/evolutionarymenpodcast] Click the icon below to listen.[https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/podplay.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/-/918642140/0/evolutionarymenpodcast.mp3 [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/fblike20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/28/918642143/EvolutionaryMenPodcast [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/pinterest20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/29/918642143/EvolutionaryMenPodcast, [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/x.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/24/918642143/EvolutionaryMenPodcast [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/email20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/19/918642143/EvolutionaryMenPodcast [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/rss20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/20/918642143/EvolutionaryMenPodcast

In this episode, I reconnect with one of the most important men in my journey—my first men’s coach, Tripp Lanier. We dive into a rich conversation around what it means to be a man today, the traps so many of us fall into with comfort and surface-level success, and why emotional intelligence isn’t optional anymore—it’s essential. We explore what it means to be a dangerous man—the kind that comes from being truly alive and present, not just posturing or playing a role. Tripp shares hard-won insights from his book This Book Will Make You Dangerous, and we unpack why vulnerability, real connection, and doing the inner work are the gateway to actual freedom. This one’s about breaking the mold, reclaiming our power, and leaning into the kind of masculinity that doesn’t run from feeling, but turns toward it. If you’re on the path—or ready to be—this conversation is a potent reminder of what’s possible when men come together and get real. Ready to experience the power of a virtual men’s group? Checkout the Men’s Group Experience [https://feeds.evolutionary.men/~/t/0/0/evolutionarymenpodcast/~https://mens.group/] now Or dive into a group in person with the Heart of Shadow [https://feeds.evolutionary.men/~/t/0/0/evolutionarymenpodcast/~https://evolutionary.men/heartofshadow] men’s group & retreat About Tripp: Tripp Lanier [https://feeds.evolutionary.men/~/t/0/0/evolutionarymenpodcast/~https://tripplanier.com] is a professional coach, author of This Book Will Make You Dangerous [https://feeds.evolutionary.men/~/t/0/0/evolutionarymenpodcast/~https://amzn.to/42ZIzq8], and host of The New Man Podcast: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp [https://feeds.evolutionary.men/~/t/0/0/evolutionarymenpodcast/~https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-new-man/id270419729] which — for over a decade — has been downloaded millions of times. [https://feeds.evolutionary.men/~/i/918428756/0/evolutionarymenpodcast] Click the icon below to listen.[https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/podplay.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/-/918428753/0/evolutionarymenpodcast.mp3 [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/fblike20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/28/918428756/EvolutionaryMenPodcast [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/pinterest20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/29/918428756/EvolutionaryMenPodcast, [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/x.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/24/918428756/EvolutionaryMenPodcast [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/email20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/19/918428756/EvolutionaryMenPodcast [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/rss20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/20/918428756/EvolutionaryMenPodcast

In this episode, I sit down with my friend and collaborator Luke to unpack the enduring myth of the Marlboro Man—and how it’s still shaping men’s lives today. We explore the fantasy of the rugged, independent cowboy and how it feeds into the “lone wolf” mentality so many men have been conditioned to admire. Luke shares some powerful reflections from his own background in Western culture and rural communities, where this archetype is alive and well. Together, we shine a light on the emotional cost of stoicism, the pressure to “just get to work,” and the way this legacy leaves so many men isolated and unsupported. This conversation is a call to reevaluate what real strength looks like—and how connection, not detachment, might just be the most courageous thing a man can choose. Ready to experience the power of a men’s group virtually? Checkout the Men’s Group Experience [https://feeds.evolutionary.men/~/t/0/0/evolutionarymenpodcast/~https://evolutionary.men/mens-group-experience] now! Want to experience it in person? Join the Heart of Shadow [https://feeds.evolutionary.men/~/t/0/0/evolutionarymenpodcast/~https://evolutionary.men/heartofshadow]. [https://feeds.evolutionary.men/~/i/918156773/0/evolutionarymenpodcast] Click the icon below to listen.[https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/podplay.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/-/918156770/0/evolutionarymenpodcast.mp3 [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/fblike20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/28/918156773/EvolutionaryMenPodcast [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/pinterest20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/29/918156773/EvolutionaryMenPodcast, [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/x.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/24/918156773/EvolutionaryMenPodcast [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/email20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/19/918156773/EvolutionaryMenPodcast [https://assets.feedblitz.com/i/rss20.png]https://feeds.evolutionary.men/_/20/918156773/EvolutionaryMenPodcast