Flowers for the Pastor's Wife

Ep:10 Meet Kristen Humiston (former PW and current therapist)

37 min · 5. aug. 2025
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In this episode, Kristen Humiston shares her journey frombeing a pastor's wife to a therapist and ministry coach. She discusses the trauma of forced termination from ministry, the importance of seeking help, and the challenges faced by ministry families. Kristen emphasizes the need for safesupport systems, building skills and savings, and understanding the church as a system. She also highlights the joys and struggles of her current work in therapy, particularly with pastors' wives, and offers practical advice forthose navigating difficult transitions, experiencing trauma, or advice for supporting women in those times. Kristen also shares several helpful resources available to women and ministry families seeking help. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Kristen and Her Ministry Journey 05:29 The Trauma of Forced Termination in Ministry 09:15 Advice for Navigating Difficult Transitions 12:05 Building Identity and Financial Stability in Ministry 16:11 Understanding Church Dynamics and Personal Healing 18:56 Kristen's Current Role as a Therapist and Coach 21:16 Finding Joy in Helping Others Heal 23:47 Recognizing When to Seek Help 29:26 Taking the First Step Towards Healing 31:37 Resources 33:33 Supporting Others in Their Struggles 36:36 Conclusion Resources mentioned in today's episode: Pastors' Hope Network [https://pastorshopenetwork.org/] - Help for pastors and their families who have experienced forced termination. Ministry Transitions [https://ministrytransitions.com/] - Help for ministries or ministry families transitioning. Not mentioned: Care Givers Forum [https://www.caregiversforum.org/directory] - A directory for all things ministry workers support resources.Kristen's personal resources: Contact [https://www.kristenjoycoaching.com/contact-me] - The online form you can use to email Kristen directly for help. Focused Care Retreats [https://www.courageoushealingtherapy.com/] - Kristen's ministry for ministry workers looking to address trauma healing needs.

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In this episode, Tobi Henschel and Anna McCready discuss Anna’s article, “A Heavenly Calling – Notes from a Pastor’s Kid.” They discuss the unique perspective of a pastor's kid as Anna shares her journey of identity, faith, and community. Listen as they seek to explore how PKs navigate their role within the church family, dispel some common stereotypes, and offer some practical ways for churches to bless and encourage pastor’s kids. Timestamps: 00:00 - Welcome and introduction of Anna McCready03:27 - How PKs notice their differences early on 07:31 - Lessons learned about church, community, and being different09:48 - Advice for parents helping PKs navigate their identity12:44 - Common stereotypes of PKs and how churches can serve them better20:37 - The importance of mentorship from older women in the church22:40 - The role of church community in supporting PKs and encouraging relationships28:48 - Unique calling of each PK and embracing personal identity in Christ33:41 - Closing thoughts and encouragement for PKs and church members alike Resources & Links: "A Heavenly Calling – Notes from a Pastor's Kid" by Anna McCready [https://www.flowersforthepastorswife.com/a-heavenly-calling-notes-from-a-pastors-kid/]

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S2 E06: Meet Emily Jezowski

In this episode, Tobi Henschel interviews Emily Jezowski, one of Flowers for the Pastor’s Wife’s new writers this season! Join us as Emily shares her journey of faith, family, and service in Wisconsin’s rural setting. She shares insights on navigating ministry in different communities, the challenges of transient populations, and the joys of discipleship. Thank you for listening! We hope Emily's story encourages you in your own ministry journey.  Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to Emily Jezowski and her ministry background 03:45 - Ministry in Wisconsin's maritime and farming communities 07:00 - Emphasizing that everyone needs Jesus regardless of context 09:00 - Joys and struggles in ministry, including discouragement 13:00 - Battling discouragement through prayer and community 15:00 - The importance of gratitude and time in creation for renewal 17:00 - Discipleship and investing deeply in women’s spiritual growth 25:00 - Unique traits and how they serve as bridges in ministry 28:00 - Reflecting on how God transforms past experiences into opportunities 30:00 - Final thoughts and encouragement to listeners Resources & Links: * The Attributes of God Bible Study by The Daily Grace Co. [https://thedailygraceco.com/products/the-attributes-of-god-study-matte?_pos=1&_psq=attr&_ss=e&_v=1.0] * Flowers Author Emily Jezowski [https://www.flowersforthepastorswife.com/author/EmmyJ/]

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S2 E05: Every Day, Every Thought with Tobi Henschel

In this episode, Flowers Director Wendy McCready and Tobi Henschel discuss Tobi’s article, “Every Day, Every Thought.” They discuss the importance of stewarding our thoughts, managing ministry responsibilities, and discerning voices in a saturated information world. Tobi shares practical tips on cultivating a balanced daily routine, limiting unnecessary noise, and grounding our minds in Scripture to reflect Christ more clearly. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction and episode overview 02:20 - How ministry involvement varies with family seasons 04:17 - Serving in areas aligned with interests and callings 10:32 - Limiting voices: how culture bombards us with information 15:08 - Starting mornings in Scripture: a foundational discipline 19:28 - Developing a strong biblical foundation to discern true voices 26:23 - Discernment in culture: recognizing good and bad and protecting our minds 32:22 - Closing encouragement: taking every thought captive in Christ Resources & Links: * Every Day, Every Thought [https://www.flowersforthepastorswife.com/every-day-every-thought/] * She Can't Even Play the Piano! [https://www.amazon.com/She-Cant-Even-Play-Piano/dp/0834122006] * The Pour Over [https://www.web.thepourover.org/subscribe?ref=pTd2RUErJs]

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In this episode, Jen Hulbert and moderator Tobi Henschel discuss Jen’s article "Marriage is Kingdom Work." She presents the idea that a healthy marriage isn't a distraction from ministry — it is ministry, and serves as a powerful testimony to the congregation. The discussion challenges the notion that ministry should always take precedence over marriage, highlighting the importance of nurturing the marital relationship and countering cultural lies. Key themes include addressing small issues before they escalate, balancing parenting with spousal relationships, and the unique challenges faced by ministry wives. Practical advice such as weekly date nights and praying together is offered to help couples invest in their marriages. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to the episode & guest Jen Hulbert 03:16 - Long-term effects of couples prioritizing marriage 05:53 - Marriage as a reflection of Christ and church 08:11 - Common lies about marriage and ministry pressure 12:17 - The danger of getting comfortable in a marriage 14:44 - How prioritizing your marriage benefits parenting 15:20 - The roots of bitterness and small issues that threaten marriage 17:12 - Consistent habits for maintaining a healthy marriage 18:20 - Supporting your husband’s emotional needs as a ministry wife 24:00 - Practical ways to invest in marriage, including small gestures and prayer 26:51 - Closing thoughts and encouragement for listeners Resources & Links: * Marriage is Kingdom Work [https://www.flowersforthepastorswife.com/marriage-is-kingdom-work/] Closing: Remember, consistent effort in your marriage isn’t just good for your relationship; it’s also a powerful testimony to others and a vital part of your ministry.

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S2 E03: Trading Ministry Pain for Ministry Joy with Sarah Johnson

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