Covert Narcissist vs Codependent - Different Kinds of Abuse

The Internal Saboteur - Why Introjects Create Self-Sabotage

- what are introjects - saboteur's borrowed authority - the 3 sources - the ego ideal and the sadistic superego - the self-sabotage pattern - practical steps: identify, observe, update - podcast- spotify & apple: search 'the one relationship podcast'

How the Mother and Father Concept Shape You

2 Architecture For Self-Formation - How the Mother and Father Concept Shape You - the mother function; mirroring, boundary, self sense - mother failure; identity disturbance, false self, merger - the father function; triangulation, social function - dead father; the locked room, reality-testing - OLNE's open communication; requiring three - podcast: Spotify and Apple: search 'the olne relationship podcast'

How To Deal With Your Ego

- definition of end-run - reframing your ego to switch goals - the mechanism of endrunning - how to turn your ego into your cheering section - failure vs. iteration - podcast on spotify and apple podcast: search 'the olne relationship podcast'

Covert Narcissist VS. Avoidant Personality - What's The Difference and How To Deal

- the difference in withdrawal vs. deactivation - avoidance vs. mortification - how to tell the difference with a simple question - the collapsed-covert switching - akhtar & Cooper table (1989) - inferiority, object relations, passive aggression - the schizoid-avoidant distinction - podcast on Apple & Spotify: search 'the OLNE relationship podcast'

Who Is Your "Ego" (It's Not You) - 9 Ego Functions

- the voice in your head; what is it - how the 'ego program' gets installed in your mind - the meaning of "words" - the two insidious mistruths - the critical voice (entrainment & neural sync..) - authority and responsibility **podcast on Spotify & apple: search "the olne relationship podcast"