How the Right Words Help Us to Feel What We Should

How to Tell If You're Terrified of Closeness

Sometimes we may end up in a couple where we spend a lot of time complaining - to concerned friends and family - that the other person is evidently and committedly ‘afraid of intimacy.’ They don’t often talk of their emotions; they may find it hard to be physically cosy; they don’t cry so often. Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://www.theschooloflife.com/the-school-of-life-youtube/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=description&utm_campaign=How%20to%20Tell%20If%20You're%20Afraid%20of%20Intimacy Learn, heal and grow. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://www.theschooloflife.com/signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=description&utm_campaign=How%20to%20Tell%20If%20You're%20Afraid%20of%20Intimacy FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects in our articles, here: https://www.theschooloflife.com/article/who-is-afraid-of-intimacy/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=description&utm_campaign=How%20to%20Tell%20If%20You're%20Afraid%20of%20Intimacy “Sometimes we may end up in a couple where we spend a lot of time complaining – to concerned friends and family – that the other person is evidently and committedly ‘afraid of intimacy.’ They don’t often talk of their emotions; they may find it hard to be physically cosy; they don’t cry so often. Whereas we on the other hand – as all our acquaintances know – are the emotionally fluent ones. We long to be close to someone, we long to discuss our feelings openly and without restraint, we are healthy and ready for love. It’s simply such a pity – and so profoundly unfortunate – that we have ended up with such an unyielding and resistant partner…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: http://bit.ly/TSOLrelationships SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life-for-business/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Dave Anderson https://daveandersonart.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.uk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Alain de Botton on Romance

The School of Life founder (and voice behind this channel) Alain de Botton lays out his ideas on love in the modern world - at a conference by Google held in London in May 2016 called Zeitgeist [many thanks to them for the film]. Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/K7bj2 Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/imXks CREDITS Brought to you by Google/Zeitgeist #TheSchoolOfLife Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

The One Relationship Principle That Truly Matters

Emotional Intelligence, Daily. Start now: https://www.theschooloflife.com/subscription/ Are you mistaking pain for passion? This film delivers a vital lesson: the only love worthy of the name is reciprocal love. We explore why we settle for ambiguity and emotional unavailability, tracing this self-abandonment back to childhood trauma. Learn the non-negotiable rules for healthy, fully present, and mutually adored relationships. #ReciprocalLove #DatingAdvice #SelfWorth #EmotionalHealth #RelationshipGoals Unlock all the content of The School of Life with a subscription to our podcast, articles, videos, and exercises, specially tailored to your needs. Get weekly insights for better relationships, deeper self-knowledge, and inner calm straight to your inbox. Sign up for more ideas, plus 10% off your first shop order: https://www.theschooloflife.com/signup/ You can read more on this and other subjects in our articles, here: https://www.theschooloflife.com/article/the-only-love-worthy-of-the-name/ “Some of us will require the better part of a lifetime to learn a very simple-sounding lesson – one that should have struck us as obvious and urgent from the start: that the only love worthy of the name, the only love we should ever be interested in, is reciprocal love. In other words, a love where another person is entirely convinced of us as we are of them; where another person is every bit as present in the relationship as we are; a love where we never need to persuade or beg; a love where we aren’t left anxious and agitated by evasions and ambiguities; a love where we don’t have to wonder where they are and when they will get back to us; where we aren’t repeatedly up in the early hours writing them messages explaining what we hope for from them; where they never cease to be entirely there for us, as we are there for them – and where they are profoundly grateful that we are in their lives, just as we are grateful that they are in ours…” OUR COLLECTIONS https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcEwc0qydf2jSszQFSht81E https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpckOvZZ_AZjD7WM2p9-6NBv https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeUL1vz9Su7OmeghBDgmj7X https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeypJMHfNbJ4RAFkRtmAN3P https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcpxBm1RoGRx4mVKNRIrKkG https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpcp7jXVszdNruKUtHZ2zuZb https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpfv2COuuJaKzy6E2n8nSMdi https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpc1qCJ6RYYh4rKNOOlKtFIK SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theschooloflife?lang=en CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Aaron Sampson https://www.motionmaverick.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.uk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person

This video sees Alain de Botton, Creator of The School of Life and narrator on the majority of our videos, talking at a Google event in London in 2017. Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/K3Syr Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/ykyVX SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon X: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Eastern Vs Western Philosophies of Happiness

The answer to what humans need to find happiness is entirely different in the East than the West. Westerners would do well to understand the Eastern point of view. Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/PEDjc Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/IdxHS FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects here: https://bit.ly/3KNsJCV “The Western intellectual tradition suggests that in order to be happy, what we need to do most of all is to go out and subdue the world; secure resources, found businesses, run governments, gain fame and conquer nations.By contrast, the Eastern tradition has for a long while told us something very different. In both its Buddhist and Hindu strands, it has insisted that contentment requires us to learn to conquer not the world but the instrument through which we view this world, namely our minds…” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: http://bit.ly/TSOLself SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ X: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Mike Booth https://www.youtube.com/user/somegreybloke Assets used inline with Creative Commons full credit list here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1xzXvDUffw5V0mh0oJmY-BAjnsO5q4eBGbGilcvxzeMc/edit Title animation produced in collaboration with Vale Productions https://www.valeproductions.co.uk/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]