E34 My Marriage Stand, Part 1

E38 How to Laugh at the Days to Come When Your Life is Falling Apart

Proverbs 31:25 says a woman clothed in strength and dignity can laugh at the days to come. Most of us can't laugh, because tomorrow scares us and we're holding our version of how things should go with both hands. In this episode I take you into the Hebrew behind that verse, oz and hadar, and show you that these are God's own garments, not something you manufacture from inside yourself.   Strength is the power to open your hands and release what you have every right to keep. Dignity is the worth God gave you that no one can strip off, no matter how your husband behaves or how long the season lasts. I get practical about what this looks like in a hard marriage, and I show you how this verse exposes the idolatry hiding underneath the things we refuse to let go of. If you've been gripping and dreading, this one is for you.   For the women going deeper on this kind of teaching and the inner healing behind it, I'd love to see you at the Wise Wife Conference in Atlanta. Details at https://www.wisewife.co.

E37 Are You Ready for Restoration?

Women come to me to heal their marriages. Almost every time, what they needed was to heal themselves first. I know that is hard to hear when your husband is the one who looks broken. But I spent years so fixed on his wrongs that I nearly walked away from God over my own hurt and offense. This episode is about what God wants to heal in you while you wait on Him. I walk through three things: why God can seem so slow to answer, what healing actually looks like, and why I pray He restores you before He restores your marriage. Then I teach the seven steps of spiritual wound care, the same protocol a doctor follows on a flesh wound, mapped onto how God heals a soul wound. Resources: * Fruit to the Root, my free soul-wound workbook: wisewife.co/root * The Wise Wife Co mentorship community: https://www.wisewife.co/community-sp [https://www.wisewife.co/community-sp] * Episode 28, Should I Let Him Move Back In?, on boundaries versus demands If this encouraged you, share it with a wife who needs hope today, and subscribe so you do not miss what comes next.

E36 Follow the Fruit to the Root

Years ago I walked into our bathroom and found raw sewage backing up into the toilet and the tub. We could have spent the rest of our lives scooping it out, or we could deal with the massive tree root that had grown silently underground for decades until it finally broke the sewer line. Most women I coach are still scooping.   You've been trying to change the behavior. You've prayed harder, set up boundaries, read the books, listened to the podcasts, started over a hundred Mondays. The same patterns keep coming back. The anger, the control, the people-pleasing, the shutting down, the fear. This isn't about effort. You've been doing the work. The patterns keep coming back because the work has been happening at the wrong layer. The fruit you see grows from a root that is still alive underground.   This is part two of the series I started last week with the victim and the martyr. Last week I told you both of those identities were ditches and asked you to be honest about which one you lean toward. This week I show you how to climb out.   We talk about soul wounds, the unhealed emotional pains from your past that the enemy uses as a legal entry point to attach lies, accusations, shame, and fear. I explain why the most dangerous soul wound is the one you never acknowledged as a wound, and why a "great childhood" can still hide the filters that are running your life.   Then I share the five whys, the strategy I use with my wise wives to reverse engineer the visible bad fruit in your life all the way back to the root memory. From there, I give you five steps to actually heal it. Identify the fruit and the stronghold. Acknowledge the wound. Invite Jesus into the memory. Forgive and renounce the lies. Command the spirits to go.   You cannot forgive what you won't admit, and you cannot heal what you won't confront. By the end of this episode, you'll have the framework, the workbook, and the prayers to do the actual work. Resources mentioned in this episode - The Fruit to the Root workbook (free): https://www.wisewife.co/root [https://www.wisewife.co/root] - Last week's episode: The Victim and the Martyr - The Wise Wife Community: https://www.wisewife.co/community-sp [https://www.wisewife.co/community-sp] - Scripture: Matthew 18:21-35 (the parable of the unforgiving servant), Matthew 18:35, Luke 10:19 Here are the three key takeaways from this episode 1. You cannot heal what you won't confront. The most dangerous soul wound is not the biggest one. It's the one you never acknowledged as a wound. A "normal" or "great" childhood does not mean you escaped without filters. Some of the most controlling, fearful, people-pleasing patterns come from women who would say they had it good.   2. Soul wounds give the enemy legal access. When a wound is delivered and not healed, the enemy attaches lies to it, and demons exploit those lies. Inner healing without deliverance is incomplete, and deliverance without inner healing is temporary. Forgiveness, renouncing the lies out loud, and commanding the spirits to go in Jesus' name is how the door gets closed.   3. The five whys take you from fruit to root. Pick one piece of bad fruit. Anger, control, fear, resentment, people-pleasing, stonewalling. Ask why. Answer honestly. Ask why again. Keep going past the noble, convenient answer until you find the earliest memory of feeling the way the fruit is making you feel now. That memory is usually the wound. That is where Jesus wants to meet you. Subscribe and review If this episode met you somewhere, do one thing for me. Hit subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, and leave a quick review. Reviews are what put this show in front of the next woman who needs to hear that the root, not the sewage, is the real problem. Thank you for being here.

E35 Victim vs Martyr - How to Share Your Story Well

There are two sinful responses to trauma, and most of us are living in one of them. The victim is sharing her story compulsively, looking for someone to confirm her pain is real. The martyr is stuffing it all down and calling that strength. Today I'm naming both, exposing the root wounds that drive each one, and showing you what it actually looks like to share your story well, with discernment, with dignity, and without destroying the covenant or yourself. This episode will ruffle your feathers. Resources mentioned: Subscribe to The Wise Wife Letters at www.wisewife.co [http://www.wisewife.co] for prayers and resources to help you start anointing your home, your husband, and your family. Join us in Atlanta: The Wise Wife Conference is coming September 12–13, 2026. Find out more at www.wisewife.co [http://www.wisewife.co] If this episode encouraged you, share it with another wife who needs hope today. And if you want to go deeper, join us inside the Wise Wife Mentorship at www.wisewife.co [http://www.wisewife.co]

E34 My Marriage Stand Part 3 - How He Came Home

My Marriage Stand: Part 3 — How He Came Home I got the call I had been fasting and praying for. Tim's opening line was, "Natasha, I don't love you. I haven't loved you in a really long time." I dropped to my knees. Not because the words were good. They were the worst sales pitch of all time. But I knew in my spirit that something had broken. This is Part 3, the final episode of my full marriage restoration story. Parts one and two covered the breakdown and the year of separation. This one is about what God used to break through to Tim, what the call actually sounded like, what the first two years of being back together cost me, and what I want you to take with you if you're standing right now. Don't skip to this one. Go back and start at Part 1. You need that context. But if you're ready, let's finish the story. God did not bring Tim home the way I expected. No dramatic repentance at my door. No apology. He called to say he hoped to one day love me again, and for the next two years, he made good on that. He really didn't feel anything for me. And I had to choose, almost every day, whether I was going to fight in the flesh or fight in the spirit. Most Sundays I kissed him on the cheek, smiled, and went to church alone with the boys. My flesh wanted to slam the door. Key Takeaways God did not use who I expected. I spent years praying that someone would say the right thing to Tim. People from church, people from work, all of them offering to reach out. And I kept releasing them from that because God didn't need them. He got through to Tim using the other woman. The one I had been asking Him to remove. Stop managing how He does it. The call did not sound like victory. "I don't love you. I haven't loved you in a really long time. But I can't see my life without the boys, and I hope to one day love you again." That was it. But I heard what God was saying behind those words, and I dropped to my knees in gratitude. You have to be anchored enough in the Lord to hear what the Spirit is saying when the words are not what you wanted. Coming home is not the same as coming back. Tim came home physically. For the next two years I was still proving out the work. He saw that I had changed, but he did not trust it yet. Two years physically back together before emotional connection. Two more years after that before he came back to the Lord. Know what you are actually standing in. Abigail exists because neither of us quit. Our daughter, our restoration baby, born 13 years after the twins. She would not be here if I had given in to my hurt feelings or Tim to his stubbornness. She is what obedience looks like with skin on. The sanctification was the point. The biggest gain from those years was not getting my marriage back. It was what God built in me through it. Even if Tim had never come home, I would still thank God for that season. The woman He made me into, I would not trade her. Seek His kingdom first, and all these things get added. That is the whole testimony. Resources Wise Wife Conference 2026 — Atlanta https://www.wisewife.co/wise-wife-conference-2026 [https://www.wisewife.co/wise-wife-conference-2026] Wise Wife Co Community https://www.wisewife.co/community-sp [https://www.wisewife.co/community-sp] The Wise Wife Letters — Weekly Newsletter https://www.wisewife.co/newsletters/the-wise-wife-letters/ [https://www.wisewife.co/newsletters/the-wise-wife-letters/] This is Part 3 of 3. Start at the beginning: Part 1 — I Hated My Husband.