Done Pretending: How to Reclaim Your Identity in Midlife | Susan Houston & Dr. Z

Why Your Unresolved Arguments Are Keeping Your Nervous System Stuck — With Conflict Resolution Coach Rod Jeter & Dr. Z

The fight that won't close isn't behind you — it's inside you. Every unresolved argument stays in the body as a low-grade stressor. It shows up as 3 AM wake-ups, tight chest, and exhaustion with no clear source. In this conversation, Dr. Danielle Zanzarov, PhD, sits with conflict resolution coach Rod Jeter — creator of YBAngry — to talk about what unfinished conflict actually costs the nervous system, and how his structured game helps couples resolve decades of disagreements in under an hour. What this episode covers: 1.    Why every unfinished argument registers as a stressor your nervous system is still running. 2.    How the YBAngry game removes emotional charge from the most loaded conversations. 3.    The specific steps that finally make people feel heard — sometimes after 30 or 40 years. 4.    Why most people are worse communicators than they think, and what the game does differently. 5.    Rod's three free tips to stop arguing, available now at ybangry.com. About | Roderick "Rod" Jeter — Conflict Resolution Coach & Creator of YBAngry After traditional counseling failed, Rod created YBAngry (pronounced "Why Be Angry") — the relationship game where all you have to do to win is play. He designed YBAngry to help couples stay together, one issue at a time. Rod's game approach helps couples overcome seemingly insurmountable disagreements that have lasted decades, in just minutes. No fuss. No drama. Resources mentioned: Order the YBAngry Game: https://ybangry.com/?ref=DANIELLE-753B [https://ybangry.com/?ref=DANIELLE-753B] YBAngry Website: https://ybangry.com/ [https://ybangry.com/] 3 Free Tips to Stop Arguing: Visit ybangry.com and scroll to the '3 free tips' link — enter your first name and email to receive a short video. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrrodjeter/ [https://www.instagram.com/mrrodjeter/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mrrodjeter [https://www.linkedin.com/in/mrrodjeter] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mrrodjeter [https://www.facebook.com/mrrodjeter] FREE GIFT: The 21-Day Nervous System Calibration is designed to help you begin shifting out of survival mode and back into a state of regulation. go.southbaywellness.com/calibration [http://go.southbaywellness.com/calibration] Schedule a FREE discovery call with Dr. Z and our team: https://go.southbaywellness.com/schedule-call [https://go.southbaywellness.com/schedule-call] Thanks for listening to T.R.U.E. Wellness with Dr .Z, follow us on social media for more wellness inspiration. Watch the full episodes here: https://www.youtube.com/@ThisIsDrZ [https://www.youtube.com/@dr.deephd] Instagram: ThisIsDrZ [https://www.instagram.com/ThisIsDrZ] Facebook: ThisIsDrZ [https://www.facebook.com/ThisIsDrZ/] YouTube: @ThisIsDrZ [https://www.youtube.com/@ThisIsDrZ] LinkedIn: ThisIsDrZ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ThisIsDrZ/] TikTok: @ThisIsDrZ [https://www.tiktok.com/@ThisIsDrZ] Website: www.SouthBayWellness.com [https://www.southbaywellness.com] The information in this episode is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. Dr. Z and her guests share perspectives and suggestions, not diagnoses or treatment. Always consult your own qualified provider.

The Real Reason You Wake Up at 3 AM (It's Not Insomnia)

Why do you wake up at 3 AM every night and struggle to fall back asleep?  It's not insomnia the way you've been told — and it's not a character flaw. Your body is doing something specific in the early morning hours, on a clock. If you fall asleep fine but snap awake at 3 or 4 AM with a racing mind — the to-do list, the worry, the thing you said years ago — this episode is for you. Dr. Z walks through what's actually happening: the early-morning cortisol rise, the overnight blood sugar dip, and a nervous system stuck in "survival mode" that reads all of it as a threat and pulls you wide awake at the lightest stage of sleep. You'll learn why melatonin, blackout curtains, and "just relax" haven't worked, what your 3 AM wake-up is really signaling, and the daytime and evening shifts that actually lower the alarm — so your body stops treating a normal night like an emergency. This isn't about forcing sleep. It's about helping a dysregulated nervous system feel safe enough to keep it. FREE GIFT: The 21-Day Nervous System Calibration is designed to help you begin shifting out of survival mode and back into a state of regulation. go.southbaywellness.com/calibration [http://go.southbaywellness.com/calibration] Schedule a FREE discovery call with Dr. Z and our team: https://go.southbaywellness.com/schedule-call [https://go.southbaywellness.com/schedule-call] Thanks for listening to T.R.U.E. Wellness with Dr .Z, follow us on social media for more wellness inspiration. Watch the full episodes here: https://www.youtube.com/@ThisIsDrZ [https://www.youtube.com/@dr.deephd] Instagram: ThisIsDrZ [https://www.instagram.com/ThisIsDrZ] Facebook: ThisIsDrZ [https://www.facebook.com/ThisIsDrZ/] YouTube: @ThisIsDrZ [https://www.youtube.com/@ThisIsDrZ] LinkedIn: ThisIsDrZ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ThisIsDrZ/] TikTok: @ThisIsDrZ [https://www.tiktok.com/@ThisIsDrZ] Website: www.SouthBayWellness.com [https://www.southbaywellness.com] The information in this episode is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. Dr. Z and her guests share perspectives and suggestions, not diagnoses or treatment. Always consult your own qualified provider.

Why 80% of Menopausal Women Get Dismissed (And It's Not Their Fault)

More than 80% of women in perimenopause and menopause never get adequate care — and the most common explanation for that number is almost entirely wrong. The story we tell is that these women didn't advocate for themselves. That they stayed quiet, put everyone else first, didn't make the appointment. Dr. Z has sat across from thousands of these women over nearly 20 years in practice. Most of them did go. They made the appointment. They sat in the chair and said the hard thing out loud. They just got sent home with nothing. In this episode, Dr. Z, PhD — functional medicine and nervous system regulation practitioner at South Bay Wellness — walks through what's actually behind the data, why the conventional system is structurally unable to see what perimenopause looks like on labs, and what it costs a woman psychologically when she's told everything is normal when her body is clearly saying otherwise.   In this episode: 1.    Where the 80% figure actually comes from — including findings from a 2025 Mayo Clinic study [https://newsnetwork.mayoclinic.org/discussion/mayo-clinic-study-finds-majority-of-midlife-women-with-menopause-symptoms-do-not-seek-care/] on midlife women and menopause symptom treatment gaps, and what the lead researcher said about the current state of care. 2.    Why women who did seek help still appear in the data as women who never sought care — and what that gap reveals about how the system counts what it misses. 3.    What conventional labs are built to detect and why perimenopause falls structurally outside the range of what standard diagnostic panels can see. 4.    The psychological cost of medical dismissal — why being told 'everything looks normal' doesn't just leave women without answers; it trains them to disbelieve their own internal signals. 5.    What body-led care actually looks like: treating symptoms as signals worth reading, not malfunctions to silence or performance metrics to optimize. FREE GIFT: The 21-Day Nervous System Calibration is designed to help you begin shifting out of survival mode and back into a state of regulation. go.southbaywellness.com/calibration [http://go.southbaywellness.com/calibration] Schedule a FREE discovery call with Dr. Z and our team: https://go.southbaywellness.com/schedule-call [https://go.southbaywellness.com/schedule-call] Thanks for listening to T.R.U.E. Wellness with Dr .Z, follow us on social media for more wellness inspiration. Watch the full episodes here: https://www.youtube.com/@ThisIsDrZ [https://www.youtube.com/@dr.deephd] Instagram: ThisIsDrZ [https://www.instagram.com/ThisIsDrZ] Facebook: ThisIsDrZ [https://www.facebook.com/ThisIsDrZ/] YouTube: @ThisIsDrZ [https://www.youtube.com/@ThisIsDrZ] LinkedIn: ThisIsDrZ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ThisIsDrZ/] TikTok: @ThisIsDrZ [https://www.tiktok.com/@ThisIsDrZ] Website: www.SouthBayWellness.com [https://www.southbaywellness.com] The information in this episode is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. Dr. Z and her guests share perspectives and suggestions, not diagnoses or treatment. Always consult your own qualified provider.

Why You Keep Quitting Your Health Goals (It's Not What You Think) | Dr. Z

Most people have tried to change something about their health and watched it quietly fall apart by day nine — or day two. Not from a dramatic failure. Just a slow fade. The common conclusion? You don't have enough discipline. You're not motivated enough. Something's wrong with you. Dr. Z is here to correct the record. In this episode, Dr. Z breaks down the actual mechanism behind follow-through — and it has nothing to do with willpower. Using the most boring example possible (brushing your teeth), she unpacks why the habits that stick are the ones you've stopped deciding about, and exactly how to apply that same logic to the health goals that keep falling apart.  What You Will Learn From This Episode: 1. Why willpower is a terrible foundation for any health plan — and what the research actually says about self-control fatigue 2. The daily decision trap: how turning your commitment into a recurring vote is a guaranteed path to quitting 3. Why "I'll do it when I feel motivated" is functionally a plan to fail 4. The five practical steps to make a new health habit automatic — starting embarrassingly small 5. The single most important rule when you miss a day (and you will miss a day) If you've ever started a wellness program with real momentum and watched it dissolve into nothing — this episode is about what actually happened, and what to do instead. FREE GIFT: The 21-Day Nervous System Calibration is designed to help you begin shifting out of survival mode and back into a state of regulation. go.southbaywellness.com/calibration [http://go.southbaywellness.com/calibration] Schedule a FREE discovery call with Dr. Z and our team: https://go.southbaywellness.com/schedule-call [https://go.southbaywellness.com/schedule-call] Thanks for listening to T.R.U.E. Wellness with Dr .Z, follow us on social media for more wellness inspiration. Watch the full episodes here: https://www.youtube.com/@ThisIsDrZ [https://www.youtube.com/@dr.deephd] Instagram: ThisIsDrZ [https://www.instagram.com/ThisIsDrZ] Facebook: ThisIsDrZ [https://www.facebook.com/ThisIsDrZ/] YouTube: @ThisIsDrZ [https://www.youtube.com/@ThisIsDrZ] LinkedIn: ThisIsDrZ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ThisIsDrZ/] TikTok: @ThisIsDrZ [https://www.tiktok.com/@ThisIsDrZ] Website: www.SouthBayWellness.com [https://www.southbaywellness.com] The information in this episode is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. Dr. Z and her guests share perspectives and suggestions, not diagnoses or treatment. Always consult your own qualified provider.

Foundayo™, Ozempic, and the Question No One Is Asking

Foundayo just got FDA approval. Which means a lot of women who never thought about a GLP-1 medication — because the needle was a hard no — are now thinking about one. The conversation in midlife wellness changed overnight. In this solo episode, Dr. Z is not here to tell you whether to take a GLP-1. She's here to give you what she has not seen anyone else give you: a clinical, body-led framework for how to think about this decision before you make it. Not after. What you'll discover in this episode: 1. Why the shift from injectable GLP-1s to an oral pill is changing who considers them, and why convenience is not a framework. 2. What these medications actually do in the body, what they cannot do, and why a quieter appetite is not the same thing as a healed system. 3. The numbers no one is putting in the marketing — including how much weight returns within a year of stopping, and what portion of what you lost was muscle. 4. Why midlife weight gain is rarely just about weight, and what a body-led conversation about it actually sounds like. 5. The five questions Dr. Z wants every woman to sit with before she makes a decision about a GLP-1 — so that whatever she decides, she decides it clearly. Download The GLP-1 Conversation — Dr. Z's full briefing on the research, the lawsuits, what these medications do in the body, and what your body already knows how to do on its own: https://go.southbaywellness.com/glp [https://go.southbaywellness.com/glp] FREE GIFT: The 21-Day Nervous System Calibration is designed to help you begin shifting out of survival mode and back into a state of regulation. go.southbaywellness.com/calibration [http://go.southbaywellness.com/calibration] Schedule a FREE discovery call with Dr. Z and our team: https://go.southbaywellness.com/schedule-call [https://go.southbaywellness.com/schedule-call] Thanks for listening to T.R.U.E. Wellness with Dr .Z, follow us on social media for more wellness inspiration. Watch the full episodes here: https://www.youtube.com/@ThisIsDrZ [https://www.youtube.com/@dr.deephd] Instagram: ThisIsDrZ [https://www.instagram.com/ThisIsDrZ] Facebook: ThisIsDrZ [https://www.facebook.com/ThisIsDrZ/] YouTube: @ThisIsDrZ [https://www.youtube.com/@ThisIsDrZ] LinkedIn: ThisIsDrZ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ThisIsDrZ/] TikTok: @ThisIsDrZ [https://www.tiktok.com/@ThisIsDrZ] Website: www.SouthBayWellness.com [https://www.southbaywellness.com] The information in this episode is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. Dr. Z and her guests share perspectives and suggestions, not diagnoses or treatment. Always consult your own qualified provider.