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Episode 101: The Resentment You Are Calling Patience

12 min · 10. juni 2026
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Have you ever finished a conversation, smiled, said something gracious, and then forty minutes later replayed every word and realized you had been keeping a very detailed mental ledger? You may be calling that patience. It might be something else. This episode is for the woman who prides herself on being "the patient one" — and is starting to wonder what it is actually costing her. We are looking at the difference between patience and silence, what happens to your body and your closest relationships when anger gets dressed up as a virtue, and a simple evening practice rooted in Ephesians that can change how you carry the day.  Here is what you will walk away with: • A clear-eyed way to tell whether you are actually patient or holding it in at your own expense. • An honest look at what suppressed anger does to your body, your sleep, and your closest relationships. • A sixty-second evening practice you can use tonight, before your head hits the pillow. SCRIPTURE HIGHLIGHT: Ephesians 4:26–27 (NIV) Research note: This episode draws on Gross and Levenson's foundational work on emotional suppression, more recent research on anger and cardiovascular health (Shimbo et al., 2024, Journal of the American Heart Association), and Dr. John Gottman's relationship research on contempt. Ready for your next step? FREE 5-Minute Daily Reset (instant download): YourNextBestStep.com  [https://YourNextBestStep.com] Weekly encouragement + practical tips: YouTube @CoachJanetJ [https://www.youtube.com/@CoachJanetJ] Instagram: @janetjjaecks [https://www.instagram.com/janetjjaecks/ ] If this episode resonated with you, please follow/subscribe and share with a friend who needs their next step.   One small step. One day at a time.

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