Better Sex

337: From infidelity to full f&ck yes with Britton and Carolee Beckham

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, guests Britton and Carolee share their transformative journey from a strict Mormon upbringing to a deeply connected and sexually fulfilling relationship. They discuss the challenges of infidelity, the lack of support within their church, and the pivotal role of trauma-informed healing practices, including psychedelics and yoga. The couple's story unfolds from dealing with church disciplinary actions to exploring substances like cannabis and mushrooms, leading to profound emotional and sexual healing. They also highlight their decision to leave the church, undertake an 18-month pilgrimage, and engage in extensive self-discovery and spiritual growth. Carlee and Briton's story provides valuable insights into overcoming deep-seated trauma and embracing a life of authenticity and connection. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:50 Meet Carolee Britton: A Journey of Transformation 02:05 Struggles Within the Church 03:58 The Healing Process and Discontent 07:48 Exploring New Paths 14:56 The Role of Psychedelics in Healing 16:46 Mushroom Experience and Church Realization 18:31 Carolee's Healing Journey with Mushrooms 20:40 Transforming Sexual Relationships 23:44 Sexual Reeducation and Moving to Bali 26:32 Raising Children with New Perspectives 28:48 Healing from Infidelity 33:35 Promoting Their Healing Journey Find Jessa's resources for navigating libido mismatch at https://www.desirediscrepancy.com [https://www.desirediscrepancy.com/] Bio: Britton and Carolee, raised in the strict dogma of the Mormon church, and with infidelity threatening their marriage and family, found themselves at a cliff’s edge. Through a deep commitment to heal, these two left everything they knew to find themselves. Over a period of five years, they rebooted their relationship and traveled the world seeking their truth with four kids in tow. They have emerged on the other side as an embodied and awakened couple with a powerful message to share. www.themagicalstoryofus.com [http://www.themagicalstoryofus.com/] @ mystic and witch Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast] Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast] How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com [https://www.sexhealthquiz.com/] The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com [https://www.sexwithoutstress.com/] Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass [https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass]

336: [Soapbox] What makes a healthy sexual relationship

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman explores what it means to have a healthy sexual relationship. She introduces the six principles of sexual health as identified by the World Health Organization: consent, non-exploitation, honesty, shared values, safety, and pleasure. Jessa delves into each principle, explaining its importance and providing insights on how couples can apply these concepts to strengthen their intimate relationships. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on these principles and consider areas where they can improve to enhance their sexual health and relationship satisfaction. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:48 Defining a Healthy Sexual Relationship 01:56 Principle 1: Consent 04:40 Principle 2: Non-Exploitation 07:01 Principle 3: Honesty 08:25 Principle 4: Shared Values 09:47 Principle 5: Safety 11:08 Principle 6: Pleasure 13:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts 13:28 Closing Remarks and Call to Action Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast] Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast] How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com [https://www.sexhealthquiz.com/] The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com [https://www.sexwithoutstress.com/] Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass [https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass]

335: Rewriting sexual scripts with Lauren Elise Rogers

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews Lauren Elise Rogers, a certified holistic sexuality educator and intimacy coach. They discuss the journey from a sex-negative upbringing to crafting a fulfilling and values-aligned sex life. Lauren shares her personal story of overcoming restrictive beliefs rooted in a conservative religious background, through education, therapy, and self-discovery. They explore the concept of sexual scripts and the importance of integrating positive sexual beliefs and values into one's life. The discussion touches on the impact of societal and cultural narratives on sexuality, the role of media, and the significance of writing one's own sexual values mission statement. The episode aims to inspire listeners to rethink and reclaim their sexual identities. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:48 Guest Introduction: Lauren Elise Rogers 02:02 Lauren's Background and Upbringing 03:47 Marriage and Personal Struggles 05:01 Turning Point and Seeking Help 07:33 Rebuilding and New Beginnings 10:48 Professional Journey and Current Work 13:08 Exploring Sexual Scripts and Beliefs 16:20 Exploring Sexual Scripts and Improv 17:32 Revisiting Sexual Beliefs and Values 19:17 Crafting a Sexual Values Mission Statement 21:33 Integrating Sexuality into Everyday Life 25:00 The Role of Erotic Literature 29:14 Connecting and Resources 30:35 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Find my quizzes at https://www.desirediscrepancy.com [https://www.desirediscrepancy.com/] Bio: Lauren Elise Rogers is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach, celebrated for her warm and approachable style. Her holistic and embodied approach to education and coaching is deeply rooted in her own pain-to-purpose journey. Lauren brings an empathetic and non-judgmental approach, offering practical tools that empower her clients to take ownership of their pleasure and grow in confidence and connection. She is known for creating shame-free spaces, where she invites individuals and couples to navigate complex topics like long-term partnerships, consensual non-monogamy, life transitions, purity culture and LGBTQIA+ issues. www.sexedforyou.com/free [http://www.sexedforyou.com/free] consult podcast: The Partnership Podcast. Sex Ed for You @sex_ed_for_you Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast] Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast] How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com [https://www.sexhealthquiz.com/] The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com [https://www.sexwithoutstress.com/] Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass [https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass]

334: [Soapbox] What do you do about the lack of sex in your relationship

In this episode of Better Sex, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, listeners are guided through the complexities behind the lack of sexual intimacy in relationships. Zimmerman discusses the factors that contribute to this issue, such as changes in brain chemistry, desire discrepancies, emotional connection, and life stressors. She provides insight into common feelings, like shame and inadequacy, and offers practical strategies for couples to improve their intimate lives. Emphasis is placed on the importance of addressing relationship problems, rediscovering emotional connection, adapting to changes, and open communication without blame. Professional help is recommended for persistent issues, with advice on seeking certified sex therapists. The episode aims to reassure couples that they are not alone and provide actionable steps to enhance their sexual and emotional bonds. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:57 Understanding the Lack of Sex in Relationships 01:41 Normalizing Sexual Struggles 03:12 Addressing Desire Discrepancies 04:13 Identifying Relationship Strengths 06:13 Common Reasons for Reduced Sexual Activity 13:06 Rebuilding Emotional and Physical Connection 19:43 Seeking Professional Help 21:16 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast] Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast] How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com [https://www.sexhealthquiz.com/] The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com [https://www.sexwithoutstress.com/] Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass [https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass]

333: Writing about sex to explore your sexuality with Tash Doherty

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes author Tash Doherty to discuss her work on a spicy coming-of-age novel and a sex writing journal. Doherty shares her goal of helping people explore their sexuality and desires through writing while confronting shame. The conversation delves into her personal experiences, creative process, and the impact of sharing intimate stories publicly. The episode also highlights an upcoming Kickstarter for Doherty's journal, aiming to guide individuals in their sexual exploration. Listeners are encouraged to visit her blog and join the project. Overall, the discussion offers insights into the power of writing to deepen one's understanding of sexuality and reduce shame. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:50 Guest Introduction: Tash Doherty 01:41 Tash's Journey in Writing 02:50 Exploring Personal Experiences in Writing 04:30 Challenges and Vulnerabilities in Writing 07:33 The Impact of Writing on Personal Growth 13:23 The Benefits of Sex Journaling 21:38 Kickstarter and Final Thoughts 23:17 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Want to share your personal story on the podcast? It can be done anonymously. Email us at info@intimacywithease.com Bio: Tash Doherty is a British-Irish-American writer and author. She is the creator of Misseducated, a blog, and podcast on a mission to help the world be shamelessly sexy. She started writing her first novel, These Perfectly Careless Things, when she was 14 years old and self-published the book in September 2023 (finally achieving her childhood dream). These Perfectly Careless Things is a spicy, coming-of-age Young Adult novel set in London. Tash has also gone viral on TikTok for over-sharing her birth control experience. ‍ Tash graduated from the Wharton School, University of Pennsylvania, where she studied Business Analytics and Management. In other lives, she worked in analytics at Postmates and Vox Media and still does corporate consulting to pay them pesky bills. She lives in Mexico City. misseducated.substack.com Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast] Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast [https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast] How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com [https://www.sexhealthquiz.com/] The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com [https://www.sexwithoutstress.com/] Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com [https://www.intimacywithease.com/] Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass [https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass]