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Name That Tune

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2498441/fan_mail/new] Four songs. Still on playlists. Still in content. Still being used as sound beds for things that have nothing to do with why they were written. Santayana said those who do not confront the past are condemned to repeat it. We're going to talk about what happens when the confrontation gets turned into a vibe. SHOW NOTES / REFERENCES Songs discussed in this episode: War Pigs — Black Sabbath (1970). Album: Paranoid. Fortunate Son — Creedence Clearwater Revival (1969). Album: Willy and the Poor Boys. Ohio — Crosby, Stills, Nash & Young (1970). For What It's Worth — Buffalo Springfield (1967). On the history: Geezer Butler on War Pigs — Mojo, 2017; Songfacts, 2024 Neil Young on Ohio — Decade liner notes; Rolling Stone John Fogerty on Fortunate Son — multiple interviews; NPR Stephen Stills on For What It's Worth — NPR American Anthem series https://www.npr.org/2017/09/19/551766018/for-what-its-worth-the-story-of-a-protest-song-that-almost-wasnt [https://www.npr.org/2017/09/19/551766018/for-what-its-worth-the-story-of-a-protest-song-that-almost-wasnt] Kent State, May 4, 1970 — May 4 Visitors Center, Kent State University https://www.kent.edu/may-4-visitors-center [https://www.kent.edu/may-4-visitors-center] On collective memory: Santayana, G. (1905). The Life of Reason: Reason in Common Sense. Scribner's. perspectivestherapywi.com ironstarpeersupport.com Structure & Scars Unfiltered dialogue about the structures that shape us. ✉️ Continue the conversation: nikki@perspectivestherapywi.com

What a Racket

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2498441/fan_mail/new] It's the center square on the buzzword bingo card. It's on coffee mugs and conference lanyards and LinkedIn skill sections. It's in every training, every debrief, every organizational wellness initiative that's ever been handed down from someone who will never have to use it. Resilience. We're going in. Resources referenced in this episode: Southwick et al. (2014) — Resilience definitions, theory, and challenges: https://doi.org/10.3402/ejpt.v5.25338 [https://doi.org/10.3402/ejpt.v5.25338] Papazoglou et al. (2020) — Moral injury and PTSD in law enforcement: https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.00310 [https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.00310] PMC10742391 — Stress, prevention, and resilience among first responders: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10742391/ [https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10742391/] perspectivestherapywi.com ironstarpeersupport.com Structure & Scars Unfiltered dialogue about the structures that shape us. ✉️ Continue the conversation: nikki@perspectivestherapywi.com

I'm Just a Girl

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2498441/fan_mail/new] Two months of silence. A professional meeting that went sideways in the specific, targeted way that only happens when someone with institutional standing decides to use their access to deliver a verdict instead of a conversation. This episode names what that is clinically — institutional betrayal, moral injury, the wound response that looks like a creative block but isn't — and why the standard advice for getting unstuck doesn't work when the problem isn't a block. It's a wound. Nikki Hensler Gordon is back. And she brought the framework. Structure & Scars Unfiltered dialogue about the structures that shape us. ✉️ Continue the conversation: nikki@perspectivestherapywi.com

The Kids Are Alright

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2498441/fan_mail/new] When a celebrity dies and you feel something that seems too big for someone you never met — that grief is not disproportionate. For kids who grew up in homes where the adults were inconsistent, conditional, or unsafe, the characters on the screen weren’t entertainment. They were attachment figures. They held the template for what safe and consistent looked like when nobody at home was modeling it. In this episode, recorded the day Chuck Norris died, we talk about what parasocial attachment actually is, why the grief is real, and the long arc from finding safety on a screen to recognizing it in real life. For the kids who were watching every week. You were paying attention. And it worked.   Concepts referenced: •       Parasocial relationships (Horton & Wohl, 1956) •       Attachment theory and alternative attachment figures •       Conditional vs. unconditional attachment •       Nervous system co-regulation and media presence •       Parasocial grief and celebrity death response •       Developmental trauma and attachment template formation   Key sources: •       Horton, D. & Wohl, R.R. (1956). Mass communication and para-social interaction. Psychiatry, 19(3), 215–229. •       Bowlby, J. (1969). Attachment and loss, Vol. 1: Attachment. Basic Books. •       Ainsworth, M.D.S. et al. (1978). Patterns of attachment. Erlbaum. •       Giles, D.C. (2002). Parasocial interaction: A review of the literature and a model for future research. Media Psychology, 4(3), 279–305. •       Schemer, C. & Motherboard, S. (2021). Parasocial relationships and grief after celebrity death. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. •       Van der Kolk, B. (2014). The body keeps the score. Viking. [Developmental trauma and nervous system adaptation]   Resources: •       EMDRIA therapist directory (trauma-competent therapists): emdria.org/find-a-therapist •       Open Path Collective (reduced-fee therapy): openpathcollective.org •       Psychology Today therapist finder: psychologytoday.com/us/therapists Structure & Scars Unfiltered dialogue about the structures that shape us. ✉️ Continue the conversation: nikki@perspectivestherapywi.com

Don't Call Me Daughter

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2498441/fan_mail/new] The "oldest daughter" trope has gone viral — and it's getting it wrong. What social media is calling a personality type is actually a survival pattern. In this episode we shift the narrative off the child who adapted and back onto the system that required it. We talk about parentification, ACEs, the feminization of poverty, human trafficking, and why Gen X women are being diagnosed with autoimmune disorders at rates nobody seems to want to explain. This isn't who you are. It's what happened to you. And those are not the same thing. Structure & Scars Unfiltered dialogue about the structures that shape us. ✉️ Continue the conversation: nikki@perspectivestherapywi.com