11. The Grief Protocol Step 6: How to Actually Live After Losing Someone You Love

11. The Grief Protocol Step 6: How to Actually Live After Losing Someone You Love

You made it to the final step. And this one is going to ask something of you that grief has been fighting against the whole time. To actually live. In this episode, Ashley closes out The Grief Protocol with her most honest episode yet. She talks about joy that comes with a shadow, guilt that shows up at the best moments, and the decision she makes every single day to honor her sister by fully living the life she still has. This episode covers: - Why happiness after loss feels like betrayal and what to do with that guilt - The hot take nobody says out loud about what grief actually did for Ashley's life - What three powerful Bible verses reveal about suffering, transformation, and unshakeable hope - Ashley's personal testimony about choosing sobriety, faith, and a fully alive life after losing her sister - What living for both of you looks like on a regular Tuesday, not just the big moments - A direct letter to the woman who believes she is too broken for any of this to apply to her This is not the end of your grief. It is the beginning of carrying it differently. Verses Mentioned in This Episode: - 2 Corinthians 12:9 - Romans 8:28 - Romans 5:3 through 5 DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE GUIDE HERE [https://thecalmsphere.com/shop/LiveForBothOfYou] ORDER YOUR SEA MOSS HERE [https://amommawhocares.com/?aff=85] - Use code: ASHLEY15 for $$ off Connect With Ashley from The Calm Sphere: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecalmsphere/ [https://www.instagram.com/thecalmsphere/] Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thecalmsphere [https://www.tiktok.com/@thecalmsphere] Website: TheCalmSphere.com [http://TheCalmSphere.com] Email: TheCalmSphere@gmail.com [TheCalmSphere@gmail.com] Keywords: living after loss, grief and joy, grief guilt, sibling loss recovery, faith after loss, Christian grief podcast, grief healing journey, nervous system support, sobriety and grief, bereaved siblings, grief support for women, purpose after loss, grief protocol, how to honor someone who died This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thecalmsphere.substack.com [https://thecalmsphere.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

10. The Grief Protocol Step 5: You Were Never Meant to Grieve Alone

Grief tells you that you are too much. That you are a burden. That you are better off disappearing into your pain alone. In this episode, Ashley calls that lie out directly. This is Step 5 of the Grief Protocol, and it might be the hardest one yet. Not because the tools are complicated. But because everything grief does to you fights against what this step asks of you. This episode covers: - What isolation actually looked like for Ashley and why it felt like protection but wasn't - The unique loneliness of sibling loss that even a room full of love cannot touch - Why Ashley paid for a grief support group and never went, and what finally changed - Free and low-cost grief resources, including GriefShare, NAMI, and The Compassionate Friends - How to find a faith community when you are angry at God and feel like a fraud walking through the doors You do not have to carry this alone anymore. DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE GUIDE HERE [https://thecalmsphere.com/shop/LetLoveIn] ORDER YOUR SEA MOSS HERE [https://amommawhocares.com/?aff=85] - Use code: ASHLEY15 for $$ off Connect With Ashley from The Calm Sphere: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecalmsphere/ [https://www.instagram.com/thecalmsphere/] Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thecalmsphere [https://www.tiktok.com/@thecalmsphere] Website: TheCalmSphere.com [http://TheCalmSphere.com] Email: TheCalmSphere@gmail.com [TheCalmSphere@gmail.com] Keywords: grief support community, grief isolation, sibling loss support, GriefShare, faith after loss, grief therapy, bereaved siblings, Christian grief podcast, grief support for women, nervous system healing, sobriety and grief, how to ask for help in grief, grief recovery podcast This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thecalmsphere.substack.com [https://thecalmsphere.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

9. The Grief Protocol Step 4: Why Grief Gets Stuck When You Stay Silent

You know the feeling. Someone asks how you are doing, and you open your mouth, and nothing comes out. Not because you are fine. Because the grief is too big for any word you know. In this episode, Ashley walks you through Step Four of the Grief Protocol and teaches you how to give your grief a voice, even when you do not know where to start. This episode covers: - Why grief that stays silent gets heavier and what finally cracked Ashley open - The one question someone could have asked her that would have changed everything - How journaling through loss does not have to be pretty or make sense to work - The way prayer became Ashley's first language when every other word failed her - Why Romans 8:26 is the most comforting verse for the griever who has run out of words This episode will help you stop isolating and start expressing. Your grief deserves to be heard. Let's find the words together. DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE GUIDE HERE [https://thecalmsphere.com/shop/FindYourWords] ORDER YOUR SEA MOSS HERE [https://amommawhocares.com?aff=85] - Use code: ASHLEY15 for $$ off Connect With Ashley from The Calm Sphere: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecalmsphere/ [https://www.instagram.com/thecalmsphere/] Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thecalmsphere [https://www.tiktok.com/@thecalmsphere] Website: TheCalmSphere.com [http://TheCalmSphere.com] Email: TheCalmSphere@gmail.com [TheCalmSphere@gmail.com] Keywords: grief and isolation, how to express grief, grief journaling, faith and grief healing, sibling loss podcast, nervous system support, grief support for women, Christian grief podcast, grief recovery, sobriety and grief, bereaved siblings, how to talk about grief, prayer and grief This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thecalmsphere.substack.com [https://thecalmsphere.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

8. The Grief Protocol Step 3: How to Stop the Thoughts That Keep You Stuck

Step 3 of the Grief Protocol: Breaking the rumination cycle and reclaiming your mind after loss. The grief wave hits, and then the thoughts take over. Suddenly, you are drowning in questions that have no answers, guilt you cannot shake, and a voice telling you that you do not deserve to feel better. That is the spiral. And in this episode, Ashley teaches you how to silence it. This episode covers: - Why your brain keeps replaying the worst moments and what is actually happening when it does - The thought that kept Ashley stuck for months after losing her sister and how she broke free from it - Why about 90 percent of your negative self-talk is not even originally yours - What Romans 12:2 reveals about the mind that neuroscience is only now catching up to - 6 practical tools to interrupt the spiral in real time, no meditation experience needed This is not a positive-thinking episode. This is a get your mind back episode. If the grief guilt is telling you that you do not deserve a better life, this episode was made for you. DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE GUIDE HERE [https://thecalmsphere.com/shop/SilenceTheSpiral] Connect With Ashley from The Calm Sphere: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecalmsphere/ [https://www.instagram.com/thecalmsphere/] Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thecalmsphere [https://www.tiktok.com/@thecalmsphere] Email Newsletter + Website: TheCalmSphere.com [http://TheCalmSphere.com] Email: TheCalmSphere@gmail.com [TheCalmSphere@gmail.com] Keywords: grief rumination, intrusive grief thoughts, grief guilt, mental health after loss, sibling loss podcast, nervous system healing, faith and grief, grief and the mind, Christian grief podcast, grief recovery for women, sobriety and grief, grief support podcast, how to stop overthinking grief This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thecalmsphere.substack.com [https://thecalmsphere.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

7. The Grief Protocol Step 2: You Are Not Feeling Your Feelings (Here's Why)

You think you're feeling your grief. But are you actually processing it? In this episode, Ashley breaks down the difference between experiencing an emotion and actually moving it through your body. And why everything you've been using to cope might be making the grief go deeper, not away. This episode covers: - Why numbing, scrolling, and staying busy don't remove grief but bury it further into your body - What happened in Ashley's body during a somatic therapy session that changed everything she believed about healing - The difference between drowning in your emotions and actually swimming through them - Why the Bible's rawest grief texts prove that feeling your pain is an act of faith, not a failure of it - 6 real somatic practices you can start today, no experience needed This is the most vulnerable episode of the protocol so far. It goes deep. Come ready. If you have ever wondered why you still feel stuck even after all the crying, this episode is your answer. Episode 7 Guide: https://thecalmsphere.com/shop/Feelittohealit [https://thecalmsphere.com/shop/Feelittohealit] Connect With Ashley from The Calm Sphere: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecalmsphere/ [https://www.instagram.com/thecalmsphere/] Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thecalmsphere [https://www.tiktok.com/@thecalmsphere] Email Newsletter + Website: TheCalmSphere.com [http://TheCalmSphere.com] Email: TheCalmSphere@gmail.com [TheCalmSphere@gmail.com] Keywords: somatic grief healing, feel it to heal it, grief and the body, processing grief, nervous system healing, grief recovery podcast, sibling loss, faith and grief, sobriety and grief, trauma stored in body, emotional healing, Christian grief podcast, grief support for women, somatic therapy This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thecalmsphere.substack.com [https://thecalmsphere.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]