Sexual Identity: Claiming Your Pleasure with Pamela Madsen

After Hours with Steph Zapata

How well do you know your finger techniques?  In this second anniversary episode, I’m sharing another After Hours moment with you! This time, it’s with Steph Zapata [https://www.instagram.com/risewsteph/], sexual health educator, anti-colonial organizer, and the visionary behind SLAM, a groundbreaking conference centering sex, liberation, and movement work. We kick things off with a game called Fingering It Out, where Steph schools us on fingering techniques, erogenous zones, and why lube is always the answer. Then we get real and go deeper into Steph's personal journey from years of shame and disconnection to reclaiming their body, their pleasure, and themselves.  We also talk about: * how shame shows up in the bedroom and what to do instead of fighting it * reclaiming your identity and body as home through sex education * how to live from your heart instead of your anxiety-riddled mind * using dirty talk to turn intrusive thoughts into real-time communication with your partner * why imposter syndrome and fear do not have to hold you back from showing up If you have ever felt disconnected from your body, stuck in your head during sex, or like pleasure is something you have to earn, this episode is your reminder that becoming whole is a process, shame is not yours to keep, and dirty talk might just be the hack that changes your sex life. Connect with Steph Zapata  https://www.instagram.com/risewsteph/ [https://www.instagram.com/risewsteph/] https://www.tiktok.com/@risewsteph [https://www.tiktok.com/@risewsteph] https://linktr.ee/RISEwSteph [https://linktr.ee/RISEwSteph] Use code WELCOME for 10% off your first order https://motherlode-market.com/ [https://motherlode-market.com/] Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguide [https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguide] Elevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6  [https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6] Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/join [https://www.patreon.com/14753586/join] Stay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee: Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com [https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimee [https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimee] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimee [https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimee] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee [https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee]

After Hours with Orla Maguire of Lubify

Did you know that different kinds of lube are designed for different sensitivities, toys, and sexual activities? Because yes, your lube actually matters more than you think. In this anniversary episode, I’m sharing an After Hours moment with previous podcast guest and founder of Lubify, Orla Maguire [https://ilubify.com]. We break down the differences between water-based, silicone, oil-based, and organic lubes, how to know which one works best for your needs, and why ingredients matter when it comes to intimate care.  We also talk about: * ingredients to look for and why lube should feel like skincare for your vulva and penis * somatics and what it means to reconnect with your body * self-pleasure, sensation, and embodied intimacy * simple breathwork techniques for grounding and nervous system regulation * why slowing down helps you experience more pleasure and connection * how to become more aware of what your body actually wants and needs If you have ever grabbed a random bottle of lube without thinking twice, this episode might completely change the way you think about pleasure products. Your body deserves care, attention, and products that actually support your pleasure instead of working against it. Connect with Orla Maguire https://ilubify.com [https://ilubify.com] https://www.instagram.com/lubify [https://ilubify.com] https://www.tiktok.com/@ilubify [https://ilubify.com] Use code WELCOME for 10% off your first order https://motherlode-market.com/ [https://motherlode-market.com/] Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguide [https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguide] Elevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6  [https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6] Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/join [https://www.patreon.com/14753586/join] Stay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee: Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com [https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimee [https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimee] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimee [https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimee] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee [https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee]

Sacred Sexuality: Your Pleasure is Your Birthright with Elizabeth Hudson

Your sexual energy is not dirty, shameful, or something you need to suppress. It is life force, creativity, connection, and one of the most powerful expressions of being human. In this episode, I sit down with transformational life coach, Kundalini yoga teacher, and Sacred Alchemy podcast host Elizabeth Hudson [https://www.instagram.com/elizabeth.hudson11/] for a deeply expansive conversation about sacred sexuality, shame, spiritual connection, and reclaiming pleasure. We talk about the ways religion, purity culture, trauma, and societal conditioning disconnect people from their bodies and desires, and why so many people carry shame around the very energy that created them. Elizabeth breaks down the sacral chakra, sexual energy as creative force, and the connection between spirituality, embodiment, pleasure, and healing.  We also talk about: * healing sexual trauma through somatic work, breathwork, and nervous system regulation * why pleasure is your birthright and not something to feel guilty about * the connection between spirituality, sensuality, and divine energy * conscious partnership and creating deeper intimacy through presence and awareness * feminine energy, embodiment, and reclaiming pleasure without shame * why creativity and sexuality are more connected than most people realise If you have ever struggled with shame around your body, your pleasure, or your desires, this episode is your reminder that there is nothing inherently wrong with your sexuality. Your body is not something to disconnect from. It is something to come home to.  Connect with Elizabeth Hudson https://elizabeth-hudson.com/ [https://elizabeth-hudson.com/] https://www.instagram.com/elizabeth.hudson11/ [https://www.instagram.com/elizabeth.hudson11/] https://elizabeth-hudson.com/sexual-alchemy-podcast/ [https://elizabeth-hudson.com/sexual-alchemy-podcast/] Use code WELCOME for 10% off your first order https://motherlode-market.com/ [https://motherlode-market.com/] Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguide [https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguide] Elevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6  [https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6] Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/join [https://www.patreon.com/14753586/join] Stay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee: Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com [https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimee [https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimee] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimee [https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimee] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee [https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee]

Erotic Bodywork, Consent, and Learning to Feel Safer in My Body

What exactly happens in an erotic bodywork retreat?  In this solo episode, I take you behind the scenes of my experience attending a seven-day Back to the Body retreat in Sicily with Pamela Madsen. Ten days after interviewing Pamela on the podcast, I booked a flight to Italy and found myself immersed in somatic work, erotic touch, sisterhood, consent conversations, breathwork, body-based healing, and some of the most profound nervous system regulation I have ever experienced. I share what the retreat structure actually looked like, what surprised me the most, the emotional and physical shifts that came up during the experience, and why this work was about so much more than orgasms.  I talk about: * the importance of consent conversations before entering erotic spaces * why safety changes your ability to access pleasure and embodiment * sisterhood, connection, and the unexpected emotional impact of the retreat * why erotic touch is not just about orgasms, but presence, safety, and healing * how to advocate for yourself and your boundaries in erotic spaces If you have ever been curious about erotic bodywork, somatic sex education, or retreats like Back to the Body, this episode is an honest look at what these spaces can actually feel like from someone who experienced it firsthand. This conversation is not about shock value or fantasy. It is about embodiment, consent, safety, pleasure, and what becomes possible when you finally allow yourself to fully drop into your body. Use code WELCOME for 10% off your first order https://motherlode-market.com/ [https://motherlode-market.com/] Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguide [https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguide] Elevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6  [https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6] Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/join [https://www.patreon.com/14753586/join] Stay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee: Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com [https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimee [https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimee] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimee [https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimee] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee [https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee]

Abortion Positivity: Dismantling Shame and Stigma with Sophie Nir

Abortion is not shameful, controversial, or up for debate. It is normal, common, and a fundamental part of healthcare. In this episode, I sit down with Sophie Nir [https://calendly.com/url?q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fabortionpositivity%2F&user_uuid=f840e5fd-1d2d-464f-b37f-1d6a9098512e&stage=1&hmac=d10edbe9554de3c3f362dd9707733f2eecf1c2c265c9b660e96a08cdfed4ad01], co-founder and CEO of the Abortion Positivity Project, for a bold, unfiltered, and deeply necessary conversation about abortion, stigma, and reclaiming the narrative. We talk about what abortion positivity actually means, why abortion is not a political issue but a politicised one, and how shame has been intentionally taught and reinforced in both culture and policy. Sophie breaks down the language we have been using for decades, from “pro-choice” to “safe, legal, and rare,” and why those frameworks actually distance us from abortion instead of supporting it. We also get into the real-life impact of abortion access, why abortion is overwhelmingly common and supported, and what it looks like to move from apologising for abortion to proudly standing behind it. We talk about: * why abortion is not political, but politicized * the problem with language like “pro-choice” and “safe, legal, and rare” * why abortion does not need to be justified to be valid * how stigma directly impacts policy, access, and people’s lived experiences * the reality of abortion access, restrictions, and who is most affected * why the most common emotional response after abortion is relief * how to start having confident, stigma-free conversations about abortion in everyday life If you are ready to drop the shame, question the narratives you have been taught, and start speaking about abortion with clarity and confidence, this episode is your permission slip. You do not need to soften it. You do not need to apologise for it. You can support it, talk about it, and stand behind it fully. Connect with Sophie Nir https://www.abortionpositivity.com/, [https://calendly.com/url?q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.abortionpositivity.com%2F%2C&user_uuid=f840e5fd-1d2d-464f-b37f-1d6a9098512e&stage=1&hmac=31f1b186cc14f997fb3b0916f5bef85ab04cd04d05bfd506cc7be47982426e58] https://www.instagram.com/abortionpositivity/ [https://calendly.com/url?q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fabortionpositivity%2F&user_uuid=f840e5fd-1d2d-464f-b37f-1d6a9098512e&stage=1&hmac=d10edbe9554de3c3f362dd9707733f2eecf1c2c265c9b660e96a08cdfed4ad01] Use code WELCOME for 10% off your first order https://motherlode-market.com/ [https://motherlode-market.com/] Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguide [https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguide] Elevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6  [https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6] Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/join [https://www.patreon.com/14753586/join] Stay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee: Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com [https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimee [https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimee] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimee [https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimee] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee [https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee]