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The Most Important Relationship You Never Question

Dearest Sovereigns: There is a voice you have been in relationship with your entire life. You have never questioned its authority. You have never asked where it came from, who installed it, or whether it has been telling you the truth. You have simply obeyed it, argued with it, tried to silence it, or performed for it the way you perform for every authority you have never thought to examine. That voice has opinions about your worth, your body, and your choices. It has questioned your right to take up space in a room, a relationship, a life. And somewhere along the way you made the most consequential mistake a woman can make. You believed it was telling you the truth. I learned the difference between that voice and the Voice of Love for the first time on a motorcycle in West Texas, many years into an IVF journey that was breaking me. But learning it once is not the same as living it. My experience on retreat in Chartres, France taught me that. What Chartres Taught Me About Whose Voice I Was Still Carrying I was quarantined in a hotel room in Chartres, France, sick with COVID, listening to a recording of a spiritual leader telling a room full of pilgrims that the women who had fallen ill were not spiritual enough to be present with the group. I want to tell you what happened in my body when I heard that. The old voice activated immediately. The one I thought I had learned to quiet through meditation, inner work, and the hard-won clarity of a woman who knows the difference between fear and truth. The voice started building a case that I was spiritual enough. It was not my fault I got sick. I have done more inner work than half the women walking that labyrinth. The voice was relentless and insisted on compiling evidence on my behalf. I argued with myself until 3:00 in the morning. And then I saw what I was doing. I was arguing with her voice and her verdict. The argument itself was the relationship. Every defense I constructed confirmed that her judgment had the power to require one. The moment I understood that, something released. Not because I felt vindicated. Because I asked myself the only question that mattered. Whose voice am I actually in relationship with right now? It was not Love’s voice. Love does not require a defense. It does not need you to prove your adequacy before it will speak to you. Love was not in the argument at all. It was in the stillness underneath, waiting with the patience of something that has never once doubted who you are. When I stopped arguing and breathed, Love was there. It had been there the entire time. The Voice You Have Confused for Truth Fear’s voice is sophisticated. It does not always announce itself as fear. It sounds like reason and self-awareness. It’s practical and masquerades as the honest assessment of a woman who sees herself clearly and is simply being realistic about her limitations. But the body always knows the difference before the mind catches up. Fear tightens when it shortens the breath, contracts the chest, holds the throat closed around the words that need to be spoken. It produces the specific physical sensation of a woman bracing against something she believes is coming for her. Love expands, deepens the breath and opens something in the chest that feels, after years of the alternative, almost unbearably spacious. The body has never lied to you about which voice is speaking. It has simply been overruled so many times by the mind’s elaborate justifications that it has stopped expecting to be heard. The Only Voice That Is True The Voice of Love is not the optimistic version of your inner critic. It is not a positive reframe of your deepest fear. It is not something you manufacture through affirmation or willpower. The Voice of Love = Divine Love. The fierce, ancient, radiant kind that does not require your situation to be resolved before it will speak. That does not need you to have healed sufficiently or chosen correctly or proven your spiritual adequacy before it will reach you. It reached me on a West Texas highway, riding a motorcycle as I argued with God. It reached me in a quarantine hotel room in Chartres, France when I was sick, excluded, and building a case for my own worth at 3:00 in the morning. It did not arrive because I deserved it. It arrived because it was always there, and I had finally gotten quiet enough to hear it. Fear’s voice is loud because it is afraid of being seen for what it is. It fills every silence and delivers its verdicts with such certainty that questioning its authority feels almost sacrilegious. But it is not the truth about you. It has never been the truth about you. The truth about you is what Love says. And Love, when you are finally still enough to hear it, does not deliver verdicts. It asks questions that open everything. It sees what is whole in you before you can see it yourself. It waits, without impatience, for the moment you stop arguing long enough to receive what it has been trying to give you all along. Your sovereignty begins the moment you stop treating fear’s voice as the authoritative account of who you are, and recognize it for what it actually is: a very old, very frightened story that was never yours to carry. An Invitation In June, inside the Sovereign Women’s Circle [https://www.empoweredway.com/sovereign-womens-circle], we are exploring the theme of relationships. The most important relationship work any of us can do is not with our partners or our histories. It is with the voice we have been in relationship with longest, the one shaping every other relationship from the inside, without our awareness or our consent. In our June gathering we will sit together with the question the Voice of Love has been waiting to ask you. We will practice telling the two voices apart in the body, in real time, in the middle of ordinary life. If you are not yet part of the Circle, come. Bring the voice you have been arguing with. Bring the verdict you have been living inside. The Voice of Love is already there, waiting with perfect patience for exactly this moment. Your sovereignty waits for you to turn away from the voice of fear and toward the Voice of Love. To your presence, Kathryn Thanks for reading The Sovereign Voice on Empowered Way! This post is public so feel free to share it. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit empoweredway.substack.com/subscribe [https://empoweredway.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]

Love is the Most Revolutionary Act

Dear Sovereigns: I was on the back of a motorcycle somewhere in West Texas, holding on to my husband and finally, after many years, letting go of everything else. The grief had been living in my chest so long I had stopped noticing its weight. Three years of IVF. Years of watching my body fail at the one thing women are supposed to do naturally. Many hours of quietly, relentlessly arguing my case to a God who did not seem to be listening. On that desolate highway, feeling the dry wind and the motorcycle below me, something cracked open. Not gently and definitely not with ceremony. It was the particular exhaustion of a woman who had finally run out of the energy for argument. Instead of arguing with reality, I gave it all to God. And in the silence that followed, I heard a simple question. “Do you want to be pregnant or do you want to be a mother?” That question instantly dissolved years of suffering in a single moment. Why? Because it was not fear speaking, it was Love. And Love, I discovered that day, does not offer you answers. It offers you something far more dangerous. It offers you a choice. The Revolution Nobody Is Talking About The world is sorting itself into positions right now. Every conversation, every platform, every relationship is being pressed into a shape that demands you choose a side and defend it. And into that noise every woman is being asked to locate herself clearly, without the uncomfortable admission that real life is more complex than any position can hold. When fear is this loud, certainty feels like safety. But certainty delivered by fear is not safety. It is a smaller cage dressed in the language of conviction. The revolution I am interested in does not begin with a position. It begins with the question underneath the noise. Not “What should I do?” but “What does Love have to say about this that fear has been drowning out?” That question is more radical than any activist or march. It’s more dangerous to the structures that require women’s compliance than anything happening in the loudly contested external world. Why? Because a woman who can hear Love’s voice in the middle of an impossible situation cannot be controlled by fear. And fear has been the primary instrument of women’s compliance for a very long time. What Love Actually Is I am not talking about sentiment or the passive, conflict-avoiding version of love handed to women as a spiritual ideal. That kind of love smiles and accommodates and makes herself small so others can feel large. What I am pointing to is Divine Love. The fierce, ancient, radiant kind that arrived on a West Texas highway as a question that dissolved years of grief. It’s the Love that found me in sitting in a French crypt while I was recovering from Covid and technically breaking the rules. Divine Love does not require your situation to be resolved before it will speak to you. This Love does not tell you what you want to hear. It tells you what is true. And the truth, when you are finally still enough to receive it, is not a verdict about what you should have done differently. It is the discovery that you were never as broken as fear told you. The amazing news is that Divine Love is available to every woman on the planet, regardless of where she stands on anything. Why I Wrote the Book Emily Carter, the protagonist of “Sovereign Women: Love Is a Revolutionary Choice [https://a.co/d/08xoAEzw],” faces an impossible situation. Everyone around her has an answer. Her family. Her faith. Her culture. Her fear, loudest of all. What nobody offers Emily is what Love offered me on that highway. A question instead of a verdict. A voice that does not need her to be further along before it will speak. I wrote this book to stand in the vortex of one woman’s impossible situation and show what becomes possible when she stops listening to fear long enough to hear what Love has to say. Instead of arguing a position, this book shows you a woman deciding for herself and trusts you to find your own truth in the watching. I trust your truth. That is the whole premise. Some revolutions begin in the streets. This one begins in the soul. In the stillness before anyone else is awake. In the breath that returns after the argument finally stops. In the moment a woman asks herself, maybe for the first time, “What Love would say about this that fear has been so urgently answering for years?” That moment is the revolution. Not because of what she decides. Because of who is deciding. “Sovereign Women: Love Is a Revolutionary Choice [https://a.co/d/08xoAEzw]” is available now. And if you want to walk this path alongside other women, the Sovereign Women’s Circle [https://www.empoweredway.com/checkout/cart] gathers tonight. Please join us and share in the joy of sisterhood. Bring what you are carrying. Love is already waiting at the center. 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Live with Kathryn Eriksen

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What the Lake House Taught Me

Dearest Sovereigns: When my husband retired, our financial life quietly rearranged itself in ways I had not fully anticipated. The income that had made a second home feel natural and sustainable was no longer there. The reality of carrying a second home with a different financial footing became something I could no longer defer thinking about. I want to be honest about what that felt like, because the teaching I am about to offer you lives inside of the experience. The fear that arose was not dramatic or consuming, but it was real. It visited me the way financial fear always does, quietly, persistently, with a calculator running in the background of every other thought. The lake house needed to sell, and I was aware, at a level beneath the rational planning, of how much was riding on it. That awareness was the moment of choice. Not a grand spiritual crossroads, but the ordinary daily decision that sovereignty asks of every woman who has done enough inner work to know she has one: I could focus on the need, the urgency, the fear of a house sitting on the market too long, or I could surrender the entire process to Divine Love and remain genuinely unattached to how it unfolded. I chose the second path, and what happened in the weeks that followed showed me something about sovereignty and wealth that I had understood intellectually for years and had not yet lived at this particular depth. Please share this article with another woman who is struggling. You may be the ray of hope she needs. Tosha Silver and the Offering Tosha Silver is a best selling author. When I first read her book, “It’s Not Your Money [https://a.co/d/02W5QuXy],” it opened a new awareness about the source of abundance and true wealth. Silver shares a practice called “The Offering.” You place what you desire, or what you fear losing, into the hands of the Divine and releasing your grip on the outcome. Her central premise is not passive resignation but a radical reorientation of source: when a woman stops relating to money as something she must generate through effort, strategy, and anxious management, and begins relating to the Divine as the actual origin of all provision, the entire interior landscape of her financial life changes. What Silver describes is not a technique for attracting better results, though her readers often discover that results do improve. It is a practice of consciousness, a fundamental shift in the question a woman is living from. The fearful question is: how do I make this happen? The sovereign question is: what is Love already making available that my fear has been too contracted to see? I used her prayers when we listed the lake house. Not as a ritual I performed once and then returned to my anxiety, but as a genuine daily practice of releasing our need to a source larger than my own planning. I pictured the house, offered it to Divine Love, and asked that it find its way to the people it was meant for. I tried, as honestly as I could, to mean it. The peace that came was not the peace of certainty about the outcome. It was the peace of having placed the outcome somewhere I trusted more than my own management of it. What Sovereignty Made Possible Here is where sovereignty consciousness enters the story as something distinct from Silver’s framework, not in opposition to it but as the interior architecture that makes her practice livable rather than merely aspirational. A woman cannot genuinely surrender what she has not first witnessed clearly enough to name. She cannot offer her financial fear to Divine Love if that fear is running her nervous system below the level of conscious awareness, shaping every decision and perception without her realizing it is there. It is the witness self, the capacity sovereignty develops in a woman over time, that allows her to see the fear as fear rather than as reality, to observe it moving through her without becoming it, and to make the offering from a place of genuine choice rather than spiritual performance. When I stood at the threshold of that choice with the lake house, I could feel the fear clearly enough to name it, which meant I could also choose not to follow it. That clarity did not arrive automatically. It was learning to distinguish the contracted feeling of fear from the expanded feeling of Love, of trusting my own inner knowing enough to act from it even when the outcome was genuinely uncertain. Silver gives women the theology and the practice. Sovereignty gives them the inner ground to actually stand on while they do it. Both are necessary, and I have found in my own life that neither is fully complete without the other. The Visualization That Arose on Its Own Something happened during those weeks that I want to describe carefully, because it illustrates the difference between a technique and a fruit of genuine surrender. The difference matters enormously for women who have been through enough personal development work to recognize the distinction. I did not decide to visualize a family falling in love with the lake house as a strategy for selling it. The image arose naturally, without effort, as a consequence of the surrender itself. Because I had genuinely released my own need, there was interior room for something other than my own agenda. What filled my heart was a genuine, warm desire for whoever came next to love the house and the surrounding area as deeply as we had loved it. We had spent years watching other couples retire in that area and settle into the particular beauty of life near the water and golf courses. We knew those people existed, knew they were looking for exactly what our house offered, and because I was not contracted around our need to sell, I could feel the rightness of the house finding its way to them. That generosity of spirit was not something I manufactured. It was what became available when fear stopped narrowing my perception to the width of our own understanding”. This is precisely what Silver means when she describes consciousness widening and deepening through the practice of offering. The widening is not metaphor. It is a perceptual reality. When fear contracts around a financial situation, a woman can only see the problem and the urgent need for a solution. When Love expands through the same situation, she begins to see the fuller field, the people already moving toward her, the provision already forming, the grace already present in a landscape her fear had been too narrow to perceive. The Result and Why It Is Not the Point We received offers in the first week. We had a solid contract by week two. I tell you this not because the speed of the sale is the teaching, but because I am aware that your mind went there immediately, as most minds do, and I want to address it honestly before it becomes a distortion of what actually happened. If the house had taken six months to sell, the teaching would be identical. The peace I felt before the offers arrived was the evidence of what sovereignty and surrender actually produce, not the sale itself. It was the interior freedom that made it possible to move through the process without being consumed by fear. The result was grace, and I received it with genuine gratitude, but it is not the proof of the practice. The proof of the practice was the woman I was during the weeks between listing and contract, the quality of attention I brought to it, the generosity I felt toward people I had not yet met, and the quiet certainty that whatever happened would carry Love’s fingerprints. I name this explicitly because the women I work with have often been through enough manifestation and law-of-attraction teaching to have absorbed, somewhere beneath their conscious beliefs, the idea that surrender is a more sophisticated strategy for getting what you want. It is not. Surrender is a reorientation of who is in charge, and the woman who practices it genuinely is not practicing it because she expects a particular outcome. She is practicing it because she has discovered that living from Divine Love rather than from financial fear is simply a truer and more spacious way to be alive. The financial dimension of her life, like every other dimension, looks different from inside that spaciousness than it did from inside the fear. What This Means for Your Own Financial Life I am not offering you a formula. I want to be clear about that, because the woman reading this who is carrying real financial pressure deserves honesty more than she deserves a repackaged technique. What I am offering is a question worth sitting with, one that sovereignty consciousness and Tosha Silver’s practice both point toward from their different directions: In your current financial situation, are you living from the contracted question of “How will I make it happen?” or from the expanded question of “What does Love make available now?” The answer to that question is not found in the mind. It is found in the body, in the breath, in the felt sense of expansion or contraction that your nervous system registers before your thinking has a chance to explain it away. Fear tightens. Love expands. Your body already knows which one is running your financial life, and it has known for longer than you have been willing to acknowledge it. The practice Silver describes, (offering what you desire or fear losing to Divine Love and releasing your attachment to the outcome) is available to you right now, in your current financial situation, not after you have resolved enough or healed enough or built enough inner ground to deserve it. The offering is the ground. The surrender is the practice. And sovereignty that makes genuine surrender possible. That choice, made quietly and without guarantee of outcome, is where sovereign wealth actually begins. Not in a strategy or a mindset or a carefully constructed plan, but in the moment a woman releases her grip on what she cannot control and discovers that what she releases into Love’s hands is not lost, but carried. To your sovereignty, Kathryn P.S. If this article stirred something in your own relationship with money and fear, Sovereign Women: Love Is a Revolutionary Choice [https://a.co/d/02xwOQtE]carries this same teaching into the full arc of a woman’s interior life. P.P.S. And if you are ready to explore how sovereignty consciousness meets your financial world in a more direct and personal way, I would love to introduce you to Flo, the Money Tree AI, [https://www.empoweredway.com/flo-ai] who holds that conversation with care. The Sovereign Voice on Empowered Way is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit empoweredway.substack.com/subscribe [https://empoweredway.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]

The Secretarial Job That Taught Me Everything About Personal Power

Dearest Sovereigns: I have been sharing particularly vulnerable stories about my past, so you can relate and know me. And remember that whatever you thought was the “worst” actually becomes your greatest asset. The Good Girl’s Dilemma By the time I reached college, I’d perfected the art of being what everyone else needed me to be. I was the daughter who never caused trouble, the student who followed all the rules, the friend who kept everyone’s secrets. I was so good at adapting to others’ expectations that I’d never learned to have my own. So when it came time to choose a college major—the first real decision that was supposed to be “mine”—I panicked. When You Don’t Know What You Want I remember sitting in my advisor’s office, staring at the course catalog like it was written in a foreign language. “What interests you?” she asked, and I felt my chest tighten with familiar anxiety. What interests me? The question felt revolutionary and terrifying. I’d spent eighteen years learning what interested my teachers, my parents, my friends. But me? I honestly didn’t know. So I did what I always did: I chose what seemed safe and logical. My mother was a clinical psychologist—I loved hearing how she helped people see them selves for the first time. I was an avid reader and writer, so English seemed like a natural fit. Psychology major, English minor. Done. The Path of Least Resistance College passed in a blur of good grades and careful choices. I studied hard, pleased my professors, graduated with honors. Everyone was proud of me. I was the success story—the girl who had it all figured out. Except I didn’t figure anything out. I just got better at following the prescribed path. When Reality Hits After I married my college sweetheart, it was time to find a job. Reality hit hard, as I learned the first week of job hunting that my beautiful liberal arts degree didn’t translate into career opportunities. In 1980, with a psychology degree and no clear direction, my options felt limited. After weeks of job searching, I finally accepted what felt like the ultimate defeat: a secretarial position at the local bank. I remember crying in my car in the parking lot on my first day, feeling like I’d failed at life before it had even begun. The Failure That Wasn’t That first week, I kept my head down and tried to do the job without drawing attention to myself. Answer phones, file documents, type letters—basic tasks that felt worlds away from the meaningful work I’d vaguely imagined doing with my college degree. The myth that a college degree “guarantees you a good job” was exposed. But my boss, John, noticed something I couldn’t see in myself. The Mentor Who Saw Through the Mask John was in his mid-forties, had worked his way up from loan officer to head of a department. He had an uncanny ability to see potential where others saw limitation. After watching me for a few weeks, he called me into his office. “You’re smart,” he said simply. “But you act like you’re apologizing for taking up space. Why is that?” The question caught me off guard. No one had ever asked me why I made myself small—they’d just praised me for being “easy to work with.” The Gradual Awakening What John did next changed everything. Instead of just giving me more filing to do, he started asking for my opinion. When customer complaints came in, he’d ask me what I thought the underlying issue was. When new policies were being implemented, he’d want to know how I thought the staff would respond. At first, I’d stammer and say, “I don’t know, whatever you think is best.” But John wouldn’t let me off the hook. “I’m not asking what I think,” he’d say. “I’m asking what you think.” Learning to Think for Myself Slowly, tentatively, I began to offer my perspectives. And something amazing happened—my insights were good. Really good. I could see patterns in customer behavior that others missed. I could spot potential problems before they became crises. I had ideas for improving processes. For the first time in my life, someone was actively cultivating my thinking rather than just rewarding my compliance. The Project That Changed Everything Six months into the job, John gave me my first real project: analyzing why customer satisfaction scores had dropped in one particular department. Instead of telling me how to do it, he simply said, “Figure it out and come back to me with recommendations.” I was terrified and exhilarated. For two weeks, I interviewed customers, observed interactions, reviewed complaint patterns. I created charts and graphs. I developed a presentation with specific recommendations for improvement. When I presented my findings to John, my voice shook with nervousness. But my research was thorough, my insights were valuable, and my recommendations were implemented. The Voice That Had Been Waiting That presentation was a turning point. Not because of the recognition I received, but because of what I felt inside myself. For the first time, I experienced the power of my own mind, the value of my own perspective, the strength of my own voice. I wasn’t just responding to others’ expectations anymore. I was thinking, analyzing, creating, contributing. The Ripple Effect of Confidence As my confidence grew at work, it began showing up everywhere else. I started expressing my preferences in my marriage instead of always deferring to my husband’s choices. I began participating more actively in conversations with friends rather than just listening and agreeing. I even started a small ghost-writing side business, helping solo entrepreneurs market their business. I never would have imagined myself capable of being the voice for others. What John Taught Me About Personal Power Years later, I realized what John had given me wasn’t just professional development, it was an education in my own personal power. He showed me that having a voice wasn’t about being loud or aggressive. It was about trusting that my thoughts, observations, and insights had value. He taught me that confidence isn’t something you’re born with, it’s something you build by taking action despite fear, by offering your truth even when your voice shakes, by claiming space for your ideas even when they differ from others. The Greatest Lesson The most profound thing I learned from that “failure” of a secretarial job was this: your path to power rarely looks like what you expected. Sometimes the detour that feels like defeat is actually the exact experience you need to discover who you really are. I’d spent my whole life trying to figure out what I was “supposed” to do, when what I needed was to discover what I was capable of. The Questions That Changed My Life John’s approach taught me to ask different questions: Instead of “What do others expect me to think?” he taught me to ask “What do I actually think?” Instead of “How can I avoid making waves?” he taught me to ask “How can I contribute meaningfully?” Instead of “Am I doing this right?” he taught me to ask “What insight am I bringing to this?” For the Good Girls Who Don’t Know What They Want If you’re reading this and you recognize yourself—if you’ve spent so long being what others needed that you’ve lost touch with what you want, I want you to know something: Your voice is waiting. Your insights matter. Your perspective has value. You don’t need to have it all figured out to start contributing meaningfully. You just need to be willing to trust that your thoughts and observations are worth sharing. The Unexpected Path to Power Sometimes the job you think you’re “too good for” is exactly where you’ll discover how good you actually are. The path that looks like failure is the one that leads to your greatest strengths. Your next opportunity to find your voice might not look like what you expect. It might come disguised as something humble, ordinary, or beneath your education level. But if you show up fully, and you bring your whole mind and heart to whatever is in front of you, you might discover capabilities you never knew you had. The Truth About Becoming Powerful Real power isn’t given to you by a diploma or a title. It’s claimed through the daily practice of trusting your own thinking, valuing your own perspective, and having the courage to contribute your unique insights to the world. Sometimes it takes a mentor to see what you can’t see in yourself. But ultimately, the voice you’re looking for has been inside you all along. It’s just been waiting for permission to speak. Why this matters to you I shared this story because I know how isolating it can feel to be the “good girl” who has no idea what she actually wants. To be smart and capable yet somehow invisible to yourself. To wonder if you’ll ever find the courage to speak up, trust yourself, or claim your own power. If any part of this resonated with you, would you consider sharing it? Please share with the woman in your life, (maybe a friend, a sister, a colleague), who needs to know she’s not alone. She needs permission to stop apologizing for taking up space. And she’s waiting for a sign that finding her voice is possible. Your share might be exactly what she needs to hear today. Ready to Find Your Voice? I created “How to Become a Sovereign Woman [https://www.empoweredway.com/how-to-become-a-sovereign-woman]” for every woman who’s tired of being the accommodating one. For those ready to trust their own thinking, value their own insights, and stop waiting for permission to be powerful. This isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about remembering who you’ve always been beneath the conditioning. Discover what’s waiting on the other side of silence. [https://www.empoweredway.com/how-to-become-a-sovereign-woman] To your sovereignty, Kathryn The Sovereign Voice on Empowered Way is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit empoweredway.substack.com/subscribe [https://empoweredway.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]