Episode 30 | Owning It vs. Renting It

Episode 35 | The Good Things - Remembering What Helped Us Too

When people hear the hard parts of someone’s story, it’s easy to assume that’s the whole story. But what about the good things? In this episode, I’m talking about the memories, people, communities, traditions, and experiences that shaped me in positive ways. From Christmas luminaries and homemade donuts with my Grammy to volunteer firefighters, lifelong friendships, and raising my boys, this is a conversation about remembering that not everything that made us who we are came from pain. Because yes, hard things happened. But they were never the whole story. Sometimes healing also means remembering the good things. ✨ Coaching | Ways to connect: figuringitoutwithrachel.com [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=channel_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqblQ2ZnpuWi1XT0I0TTliR0tXQmhkN2xLRXQ4d3xBQ3Jtc0tsRnlXMHIteGpfeHVfYkVwbDhka2dUdzg2d01kTkFtaHhSOXlFVm5iNGZfbFhZMHVFbVZzSGJjNWt4Q09oZW9oYU1fbTNPZHduS1RCYTY1WXZTVFB0QndGaXpEYWlJQkotM1hjbUNiQjZINHA4MHA1Zw&q=https%3A%2F%2Ffiguringitoutwithrachel.com]

Episode 34 | Emotionally Unavailable... Or Emotionally Overwhelmed?

We hear phrases like “If they wanted to, they would” and “They’re emotionally unavailable” all the time online. But what if the reality is more complicated than that? In this episode, Rachel explores the difference between emotional unavailability, emotional overwhelm, emotional awareness, and emotional capacity. From relationships and conflict to trauma, nervous system regulation, and personal growth, this conversation challenges the black-and-white labels we often place on ourselves and others. Because sometimes people don’t lack desire. Sometimes they lack the tools, capacity, or emotional safety to show up the way they want to. And that’s a very different conversation.

Episode 33 | I’d Like to Return This Self-Doubt, Please and Thank You

In this episode, Rachel talks about inherited self-doubt, emotional conditioning, generational pain, relationships, and the invisible rules many of us grow up living by without ever consciously choosing them. From a moment at 19 years old that quietly changed how she viewed herself, to the emotional patterns that followed her into relationships, motherhood, and adulthood — this episode explores how self-doubt is often learned long before we ever realize it. Rachel shares honest reflections on: • emotional conditioning • people pleasing & validation • emotionally unavailable relationships • generational trauma • self-worth • healing without perfection • learning to trust yourself differently • and what it means to stop carrying beliefs that never truly belonged to you in the first place. This episode is raw, reflective, honest, and deeply human. Because maybe healing isn’t becoming a different person. Maybe it’s becoming aware enough to stop living automatically from wounds you never consciously chose.

Episode 32 | The Things People Say & Don't Think About

This episode is about grief, mental health, suicide, and the things people say without realizing who might be listening. Rachel opens up about losing her brother Jason to suicide, the complicated realities of mental health, addiction, shame, and the emotional aftermath left behind for families who survive it. But this conversation is bigger than loss. It’s about awareness. The way pain changes how you hear people. The way careless language can quietly reveal emotional blind spots. And the importance of creating spaces where people feel safe enough to say, “I’m struggling,” without fear of shame or judgment. This is not a clinical conversation. It’s a human one. If you’ve ever experienced grief, mental health struggles, addiction, emotional exhaustion, or watched someone you love suffer silently, this episode will probably hit close to home.

Episode 31 | You're Not Too Busy

Most people say they’re overwhelmed. But what if that’s not actually the problem? In this episode, I’m talking about the difference between being overcommitted, overwhelmed, and overinvolved — and how staying “busy” can become one of the easiest ways to avoid dealing with yourself. I talk about: - using busyness as distraction - being emotionally consumed by everything around you - why “I don’t have time” usually isn’t the full truth - how overinvolvement keeps your own life stagnant - and the shift that started changing how I use my energy This isn’t about perfection. I still catch myself doing it too. The difference now? I notice it faster. If your energy has been everywhere except where it actually needs to be… this episode is for you.