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Why Women Veterans Keep Getting Misread: What 242 Just Told Us

EPISODE 50: "WHY WOMEN VETERANS KEEP GETTING MISREAD: WHAT 242 JUST TOLD US" You show up. You read the room. You fill what needs filling before anyone asks. And somehow you still leave feeling like nobody quite got you. That is not a character flaw. It is an unmapped pattern. And 242 women veterans just gave us the map. This episode brings you the results from 242 women veterans who completed the Wildflower Assessment for Women Veterans™. The data reveals how this demographic is wired with a precision nobody has mapped before, and it is the halfway-point proof of what Trust the Process, the T element of the Hardcore and At Ease™ Framework, produces when you stay the course. One in four women landed on the Daisy pattern. But here is the question worth asking: is the assessment finding her flower, or is it finding her military training? The answer changes how you read yourself and every woman veteran in your life. (00:00) Wildflower Identity Hook (01:24) BBQ Story and The Pattern (04:26) Protect Your Joy to Mission (06:32) Assessment Voices Montage (11:31) Why This Data Matters (12:56) Results: Daisy and Lily (18:07) Compass Conflicts and Shared Language (20:24) Book, Digital Shelly, and Next Steps In This Episode You'll Discover: ✓ Why 1 in 4 women veterans landed Daisy and why that number deserves a harder question ✓ The Daisy-Lily blend pattern and what it reveals about the woman running two operating systems at once ✓ How the Hollyhock and Goldenrod misread each other and what shared language fixes ✓ What is coming this summer: Digital Shelly and why 242 completed assessments made her smarter A special thank you to the women who shared their voices in this episode: Kim Liszka, Becca Spehar, Jennifer Koenig, Renee Frey, Danielle Springall, and Debi Clifford. Your words are the map. Take the Wildflower Assessment for Women Veterans: $20 at https://othersoverself.shop/products/wildflower-assessment-for-women-veterans [https://othersoverself.shop/products/wildflower-assessment-for-women-veterans] Attend a peer gathering? https://www.womanveteranstrong.org [https://www.womanveteranstrong.org] Join the Community: join.othersoverself.com [join.othersoverself.com] Be At Ease Woman Veteran Gatherings: womanveteranstrong.org [womanveteranstrong.org] Substack / Digital Shelly: https://shellyrood.substack.com/ [https://shellyrood.substack.com/] Learn More: Hardcore and At Ease Framework: https://www.OthersOverSelf.com [https://www.OthersOverSelf.com] Contact: info@missionambition.org [info@missionambition.org] Affiliate Disclaimer: I only recommend products I genuinely use. Full disclosure: https://othersoverself.com/affiliate-disclaimer/ [https://othersoverself.com/affiliate-disclaimer/] Get the Gear: 📊 My Business Report: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/biz-report [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/biz-report] 🎯 StoryBrand.ai: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/storybrand-ai [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/storybrand-ai] 📚 Business Made Simple: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/bms [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/bms] 🚀 Flight School: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/flight-school [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/flight-school] 📈 My Marketing Report: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/marketing-report [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/marketing-report] Listen: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | YouTube https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbwdY5eMeQlCbUmUIAmiiedzPazjuPBxG [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbwdY5eMeQlCbUmUIAmiiedzPazjuPBxG] | https://othersoverself.com [https://othersoverself.com] Connect: LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/company/missionambition/ [https://www.linkedin.com/company/missionambition/] | Instagram @TheShellyRood https://www.instagram.com/othersoverself/ [https://www.instagram.com/othersoverself/] | Twitter/X @OthersOverSelf Email: info@missionambition.org [info@missionambition.org] Rate & Review: Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts Work with Shelly Rood: One-on-One Coaching | Workshops | Team Training | info@missionambition.org [info@missionambition.org] About the Host: Shelly Rood is a former U.S. Army Reserve Captain of Military Intelligence, Distinguished Military Graduate, and broadcast television executive. She is the founder of Mission Ambition, LLC, host of Hardcore and At Ease, and co-host of Veterans Radio. Her work centers on serving ambitious leaders — with particular focus on women veterans — through the Hardcore and At Ease Framework for Everyday Excellence, powered by Others Over Self®.

When Opposite People Become Your Greatest Asset

EPISODE 49: "WHEN OPPOSITE PEOPLE BECOME YOUR GREATEST ASSET" You know that person at work who makes decisions the opposite way you do? Who needs things from people that you don't want to give? What if the problem isn't them at all—what if you actually need exactly what they bring? EPISODE DESCRIPTION Two women veterans with completely opposite operating systems spent years on separate paths in the Air National Guard. Debi retired after 20-plus years of deployments and rebuilding her life from scratch when she realized she had no idea who she was outside of her titles. Renee built a 32-year military career and then transitioned into civilian leadership without skipping a beat. Today they work side by side on committees that pull junior enlisted women up the ranks. What makes their partnership remarkable isn't that they figured out how to tolerate their differences—it's that they figured out they need their differences. One thinks out loud and needs people around to move. The other goes internal, needs space to land her thoughts. In any other context, that tension would split them apart. Instead, it's exactly what makes them effective together. Host Shelly Rood explores what happens when two ambitious leaders stop trying to change each other and start asking what power they can build. This is about the choice that matters more than personality type, framework, or strategy: deciding that someone else's way of thinking is the piece you're missing. CHAPTERS 00:00 Do Opposites Attract 02:32 Meet Renee and Debbie 04:07 Renee Joins the Guard 10:11 Debi's Military Roots 17:38 Retirement and Transition 28:24 Medical Retirement After Deployments 29:49 Empty Nest Identity Crisis 32:31 Service Dog Breaks Isolation 36:42 Friendship Patterns and Flower Types 52:12 Mentorship and Closing Reflections IN THIS EPISODE YOU'LL DISCOVER ✓ Why the leadership trait you think makes you incompatible might actually be what you need most ✓ How loss of identity after a major transition can become the foundation for rebuilding ✓ What two women veterans learned about using opposite strengths instead of fighting them ✓ The only question that determines whether you clash or create together FEATURED GUESTS Debi Clifford — Air National Guard veteran, retired after 20-plus years with medical retirement. Currently co-chair of the Women's Advisory Committee for the Ohio National Guard Enlisted Association, pulling junior enlisted women into leadership. Works in communications and information management; now focuses on mentorship and bridging the gap for the next generation. Renee Frey — Air National Guard veteran with 32 years of service, retired in 2021. Transitioned to civilian work at the Defense Logistics Agency as Tuition Assistance Program Manager, bringing her expertise in human resources development across the enterprise. Also serves as secretary of the Ohio National Guard Enlisted Association. RESOURCES & LINKS Learn More: Hardcore and At Ease Framework [https://www.othersoverself.com] Wildflower Personality Assessment for Women Veterans [https://othersoverself.shop/products/wildflower-assessment-for-women-veterans] Work with Shelly: info@missionambition.org [info@missionambition.org] | https://www.othersoverself.com [https://www.othersoverself.com] Affiliate Disclaimer: I only recommend products I genuinely use. Affiliate Disclaimer [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/affiliate] Get the Gear: 📊 My Business Report [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/marketing-report] 🎯 StoryBrand.ai [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/storybrand-ai] 📚 Business Made Simple [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/bms] LISTEN & CONNECT On All Platforms: othersoverself.com [https://othersoverself.com] | Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hardcore-and-at-ease/id1569898092] | Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/1S9EfxHSmKMYBD2qRQfBzx] | Amazon Music [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/6d27e87d-a8a7-4ba5-85cc-5bc23e9e0c6f] | iHeart Radio [https://www.iheart.com/podcast/hardcore-and-at-ease-101160523/] Connect with Shelly: LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/company/missionambition/] | Instagram @TheShellyRood [https://www.instagram.com/theshellyrood/] | @OthersOverSelf [https://www.instagram.com/othersoverself/] Email: info@missionambition.org [info@missionambition.org] Work with Shelly: One-on-One Coaching | Workshops | Team Training Book a discovery call: info@missionambition.org [info@missionambition.org]

Building a Category Instead of Writing a Book: The Strategic Decisions That Shape It

Episode 48: "Building a Category Instead of Writing a Book: The Strategic Decisions That Shape It" The Book: The Wilderness and the Wildflower: Naming the Language of Women Veterans You're building something that matters. But you're torn between sending it and making it excellent. What if the difference between those two isn't what you think it is? This episode isn't about publishing a book—it's a masterclass in building a category. And when your turn comes, you'll know how to think. EPISODE DESCRIPTION This is an exposure episode. Shelly brings you behind the scenes of The Wilderness and the Wildflower, the book she's writing for women veterans. You'll witness the strategic decisions that shape the entire project—why narrative-first matters, why three parts and not four, which resources guided every choice. You'll discover how Donald Miller's StoryBrand framework positions the reader as the hero (not the expert), how Category Pirates' intellectual capital stacking changes what "writing a book" actually means, and why the data from 650+ women through Be At Ease gatherings became the proof. This episode teaches you how to think about building something that changes people—not just finishing something that works. KEY TOPICS & TIMESTAMPS (00:00) Show Setup and Stakes (01:06) Behind the Scenes Exposure (02:20) The Core Problem: Women Veterans & Isolation (04:43) Three-Part Solution: Sanctuary, Signal, Service (07:42) Book Structure Breakdown: Narrative-First, Sequential, Category-Building (11:01) Guiding Frameworks and Proof: StoryBrand, Category Pirates, Data (14:39) Narrative and Publishing Strategy: Mini-Books, Public Iteration, Stacking (19:14) Process, Vision, and Wrap-Up: Element Flow, Multi-Book Strategy, Three-Level Close IN THIS EPISODE YOU'LL DISCOVER ✓ The narrative-first decision and why it changes everything about how women see themselves ✓ Why a three-part sequential structure (Terrain → Pattern → Navigation) matters more than getting it done fast ✓ How Donald Miller's StoryBrand makes the reader the hero and you the guide ✓ Category Pirates' intellectual capital stacking: posts → mini-books → medium books → category bible ✓ Why 650+ women tracked through gatherings became proof, not aspiration FEATURED RESOURCES The Book & Platforms: * The Wilderness and the Wildflower: Naming the Language of Women Veterans (in progress): 70,000 words | 3 parts | Narrative-first architecture * Mission Wildflower Substack: Chapters publishing weekly as completed | Founding Member access includes Digital Shelly: https://shellyrood.substack.com/ [https://shellyrood.substack.com/] * Wildflower Assessment for Women Veterans: https://othersoverself.shop/products/wildflower-assessment-for-women-veterans [https://othersoverself.shop/products/wildflower-assessment-for-women-veterans] * Be At Ease, Woman Veteran™ Gatherings: womanveteranstrong.org [womanveteranstrong.org] * Digital Shelly (24/7 Resource Library): Included with Mission Wildflower Substack Founding Member access Frameworks Referenced: * Hardcore and At Ease Framework: How to keep your edge without going over it * Others Over Self®: The mindset that shapes everything * Wilderness Framework: 5 criteria for unwinnable situations * Wildflower Patterns: 8 movement patterns (Sunflower, Iris, Lily, Goldenrod, Primrose, Violet, Daisy, Hollyhock) Resources Guiding the Work: * StoryBrand by Donald Miller: Reader is hero, guide shapes the story * Category Pirates Framework (Eddie Yoon, Christopher Lochhead): Intellectual capital stacking * Gatherings Data: 650+ women, measured outcomes (steady confidence, clearer choices, protected joy) CONNECT WITH SHELLY Community: join.othersoverself.com [join.othersoverself.com] Email: info@missionambition.org Instagram: @TheShellyRood Website: othersoverself.com [othersoverself.com] Work With Shelly: * Wildflower Assessment: othersoverself.shop [othersoverself.shop] * Strategy Session: info@missionambition.org * Women Veterans Engage Conference (May 30, 2026): [womenveteransalliance.com [womenveteransalliance.com]] ABOUT THE SHOW Hardcore and At Ease is powered by Others Over Self®. A show about people who are keeping their edge without going over the edge. Mission-driven leaders, women veterans, founders, and builders who refuse the shortcut and understand that excellence takes time. DISCLAIMER I only recommend products I genuinely use. Full disclosure: Affiliate Disclaimer [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/affiliate]

Double Middle Fingers and a Homecoming

EPISODE 47 — ADAM CASTILLO: "DOUBLE MIDDLE FINGERS AND A HOMECOMING" Hardcore and At Ease | Mission Ambition, LLC You gave everything to a country that claimed to want you back. So what do you do when it doesn't make room for you? You build something they can't take back. And then you come home. Adam Castillo came home from Afghanistan ready to work. Corporate America hung the banners. Hire a hero. And then wouldn't get him through the door for a warehouse supervisor interview. So he gave it double middle fingers, packed up, and moved to one of the most dangerous places on earth. What he built there, and who he became, is the kind of story that reframes everything you thought you knew about rejection, reinvention, and what it means to finally come home. In this episode, United States Marine and combat veteran Adam Castillo breaks down what happens when the system hands you something that was never actually meant for you, how anger becomes either your exit or your engine, and what a man carries back after twelve years of building in a war zone. This is leadership in crisis. This is the American spirit abroad. This is Hardcore and At Ease. IN THIS EPISODE * Why corporate America's "hire a hero" movement felt like a betrayal to returning veterans in 2012-2013 * How Adam channeled post-service rejection into building a security company in Myanmar that employed thousands * What it means to lead a business community through a military takeover with no playbook * The VA claim he didn't file for over a decade, and the all-night sign-up in Bangkok that changed everything * Why faith and a fellow veteran's words became the turning point * What he is carrying back to Riverside, California, and why it fits this time FEATURED GUEST Adam Castillo is a United States Marine, combat veteran of Afghanistan, author, and founder of a security company in Myanmar that employed thousands at its peak. He served as president of the American Chamber of Commerce in Myanmar, leading the American business community through a military takeover and years of crisis. After more than twelve years abroad, he is returning home to California with a mission to invest in the community that raised him. NEXT EPISODE Episode 48 — Solo. Shelly gets into the process of tying up loose ends on the road to publishing a book: what the journey looks like from the inside, what she has learned, and what is coming next. RESOURCES MENTIONED * Finding Our Voice: A Story of Leadership in Crisis and the American Spirit Abroad by Adam Castillo — Available now: https://a.co/d/05WGMqAe * Mission Wildflower on Substack — Women veteran stories and additional content: https://shellyrood.substack.com Affiliate Disclaimer: I only recommend products I genuinely use. Full disclosure: https://othersoverself.com/affiliate-disclaimer/ Get the Gear: 📊 My Business Report: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/biz-report 🎯 StoryBrand.ai: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/storybrand-ai 📚 Business Made Simple: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/bms 🚀 Flight School: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/flight-school 📈 My Marketing Report: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/marketing-report LISTEN & CONNECT 🎙️ Apple | Spotify | YouTube | https://othersoverself.com 📲 Instagram: @TheShellyRood 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/missionambition/ 📩 info@missionambition.org Character count: ~3,100 | Under 5,000 limit ✓ Draft 1 | Ep47 | Mission Ambition, LLC | Others Over Self®

Built for a Different Body: How to Claim the Skills Nobody Documented

EPISODE 46: "BUILT FOR A DIFFERENT BODY: HOW TO CLAIM THE SKILLS NOBODY DOCUMENTED" Hardcore and At Ease | Powered by Others Over Self® You did the work. You figured it out. Everyone celebrated the result and nobody asked how you got there. If that sounds familiar, this episode is going to hit somewhere specific. In this solo episode, Shelly Rood breaks down what happens when you perform a standard inside a system that was never fully designed for your reality, and what it actually means to claim the full value of what that demanded from you. This is not a conversation about fairness. It is about intelligence, accuracy, and owning what you bring to the table. Using a vivid story from her Army days, Shelly unpacks the difference between a tactical executor and a strategist, why the people who do both rarely get credit for either, and how a three-step inventory process gives you the confidence to stop leaving your own value on the table. If you have ever been told to "just figure it out" and did, this episode is your high five. CHAPTERS * 00:00 Welcome and Promise * 01:40 Ruck March Gear Story * 04:09 The Invisible Gap * 07:07 Executor vs. Strategist * 10:40 Name the Design Gap * 15:35 Three Moves to Claim Your Value KEY TOPICS * The design gap: what it is, what it is not, and why naming it changes everything * Why your competence has been keeping your own gap invisible * The difference between a tactical executor and a strategist, and why most high performers are doing both without credit for either * The military phrase that runs entire organizations, and the real problem with it * Three moves to take your inventory, separate terrain from identity, and pass your knowledge forward * Why self-blame and resentment both come from the same unaddressed root NEXT WEEK Episode 47 features Adam Castillo, United States Marine and combat veteran of Afghanistan, who came home and watched corporate America run hire-a-hero campaigns without giving him an interview. He left. He built a security company from the ground up in Myanmar that employed thousands, led the American Chamber of Commerce through a military coup, and is now coming home to Riverside, California. His book Finding Our Voice: A Story of Leadership in Crisis is available now through Lioncrest Publishing. RESOURCES MENTIONED * Mission Wildflower on Substack — The article this episode is based on, plus additional women veteran stories: shellyrood.substack.com [shellyrood.substack.com] * Finding Our Voice by Adam Castillo — Available now https://a.co/d/05WGMqAe [https://a.co/d/05WGMqAe] LEARN MORE * Hardcore and At Ease Framework: https://www.OthersOverSelf.com [https://www.OthersOverSelf.com] * Personal Mission Statement Workshop: info@missionambition.org [info@missionambition.org] * Book a Strategy Session: info@missionambition.org [info@missionambition.org] Affiliate Disclaimer: I only recommend products I genuinely use. Full disclosure: https://othersoverself.com/affiliate-disclaimer/ [https://othersoverself.com/affiliate-disclaimer/] GET THE GEAR 📊 My Business Report: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/biz-report [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/biz-report] 🎯 StoryBrand.ai: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/storybrand-ai [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/storybrand-ai] 📚 Business Made Simple: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/bms [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/bms] 🚀 Flight School: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/flight-school [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/flight-school] 📈 My Marketing Report: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/marketing-report [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/marketing-report] LISTEN Apple Podcasts | Spotify | YouTube: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/listen [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/listen] othersoverself.com/podcast CONNECT LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/missionambition/ [https://www.linkedin.com/company/missionambition/] Instagram: @TheShellyRood https://www.instagram.com/othersoverself/ [https://www.instagram.com/othersoverself/] Twitter/X: @OthersOverSelf Email: info@missionambition.org [info@missionambition.org] Community: join.othersoverself.com [join.othersoverself.com] Rate and review on Apple Podcasts — it takes 60 seconds and helps more mission-driven leaders find the show. WORK WITH SHELLY One-on-One Coaching | Personal Mission Statement Workshop | Team Training Book a discovery call: info@missionambition.org [info@missionambition.org] ABOUT YOUR HOST Shelly Rood is a former U.S. Army Reserve Captain of Military Intelligence, Distinguished Military Graduate, and broadcast television executive. She is the founder of Mission Ambition, LLC, creator of the Others Over Self® mindset, and host of Hardcore and At Ease. New episodes every Tuesday. Subscribe: https://othersoverself.com/hardcore-and-at-ease/ [https://othersoverself.com/hardcore-and-at-ease/] Community: join.othersoverself.com [join.othersoverself.com] Hardcore and At Ease is powered by Others Over Self®.