Episode 3: Maybe Fixing You Was Never About You?

Are You Setting Boundaries or Pushing People Away?

In this episode, I explore the difference between healthy boundaries and emotional walls. We talk about why "protecting your peace" can sometimes become emotional avoidance, how past experiences shape the way we connect with others, and why real boundaries require honest communication rather than distance. I share insights on vulnerability, self-awareness, emotional healing, and how to stay present in relationships without abandoning yourself. If you've ever wondered whether you're setting healthy boundaries or simply shutting people out, this conversation is for you. Join me as we unpack the blurry line between self-protection and genuine emotional growth.

The “I’m Sorry” Reflex

Have you ever apologized for asking a question? For crying? For needing help? For literally existing? Because I know I have! In this episode, I'm talking about why so many of us say "I'm sorry" when we haven't actually done anything wrong. We get into people-pleasing, overthinking, awkward text message spirals, the pressure to keep everyone around us comfortable, and why so many of us feel responsible for the emotional temperature of the room. If you've ever replayed a conversation 37 times in your head or apologized just because you felt uncomfortable, this one's for you. New episodes of Just Can't Help Myself drop every Thursday.

The Real Reason You’re Procrastinating

In this episode, I talk about that weird switch where one minute you’re insanely productive and the next you’re suddenly avoiding one single task like it personally attacked you. I break down why procrastination is really just anxiety, perfectionism, and mental overwhelm in disguise, and how it shows up in everyday habits without us even realizing it. I also share simple ways to get unstuck, stop spiraling, and actually start doing the thing without making it a whole production.

The Exhaustion Of Controlling How You Are Perceived

In this episode, I’m talking about the exhaustion of constantly overthinking how people perceive us. From rewriting texts and overanalyzing conversations to treating captions like graded assignments, it’s exhausting trying to make sure we’re never misunderstood. I also share how I handled my first mean comment online, why it ended up being more corny than hurtful, and the random moment that gave me some much-needed perspective. Sometimes the best thing you can do is just send the text, post the photo, and stop over explaining yourself.

The Guilt of a Good Day

Why does peace feel so uncomfortable sometimes? In this episode, I’m opening up about something that’s been challenging me lately: even when life is good, my brain still feels like it’s waiting for something to go wrong. I had a genuinely great weekend. Good food, great company, and I even won at ping-pong, but I still couldn’t fully relax. Instead of enjoying the calm, I found myself searching for problems and waiting for the other shoe to drop. In this episode, we talk about: -Why chaos can start to feel more familiar than peace “Anxiety debt” and the feeling that we always need something to stress about -How overthinking can ruin otherwise good moments -Learning how to trust calm instead of fearing it -Showing up imperfectly and giving yourself credit anyway I’m also sharing my three wins for the week, including being honest with my therapist and showing up to record this episode even when everything in my life doesn’t feel perfectly figured out. If you’ve ever struggled to enjoy a good day without overanalyzing it or preparing for it to fall apart, this episode is for you.