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Regulated-ish: The Hidden Endings of Parenting (May-ish)

Two moms—one in the mountains and one in the Midwest—sharing one frequency. In this month's episode of Regulated-ish, we're getting real about the chaos, uncertainty, and emotional rollercoaster of seasonal transitions. We dive into the overwhelm of summer planning, teens preparing for college, and the profound "hidden endings" of parenting—like those subtle last walks at school before sending them into the world. We explore how the unpredictability of weather perfectly mirrors the turbulence of self-regulation. From managing the unexpected money and energy drain of teenager appetites to a lighthearted but honest look at ADHD brains, we discuss why knowing your coping tools is only half the battle. Most importantly, we remind each other (and you) that summer doesn't have to be perfect. Through tiny shifts like intentional breathing and managing expectations, you can find a little more grounding amidst the chaos. Remember: your nervous system needs support, not another to-do. 🎧 Topics covered: * Summer planning & the mental load of caregivers * Navigating hidden endings & kids' growing independence * Nervous system regulation during seasonal transitions * Managing the emotional turbulence of unpredictable weather * Simple neural hacks & real-time mindfulness to keep calm If anything here stirs something up, check out the Mind Circuit app on Apple Store and Google Play for gentle ways to settle your nervous system. 🧠 About the Host: Erin is a licensed therapist, trauma-informed mom of two, and creator of the Mind Circuit App (Ease) — a somatic nervous system reset tool available on the App Store and Google Play. Mind Circuit offers bilateral stimulation (BLS) and short, evidence-informed practices for when life feels too loud. About the Host Meghan: Instagram · embracing_my_weirdness : Unmasking & loving my weird self. Hobbies? Got 'em! Confirmed ADHD? YUP. Lived in a home? You know it! Raising non-asshole kids? Working on it! Join me. 🎙️ About Notes to My Nervous System: A podcast about understanding your nervous system so you can move through hard moments with less self-blame and more calm. Topics include somatic healing, trauma-informed parenting, emotional regulation, high-functioning anxiety, brain fog, and the mind-body connection. Notes to My Nervous System is a trauma-informed podcast for women’s mental health. Hosted by therapist and mom Erin, we explore mom therapy and nervous system regulation—learning to feel safe in your body without the pressure to "fix" yourself. This is the audio companion to the Mind Circuit App (Ease). Pair our real conversations with the app’s Bilateral Brain Stimulation (BLS) and AI tracking to reset your internal state. Regulated-ish is a conversational series within the Notes to My Nervous System podcast, grounded in the same nervous-system regulation framework that informs the Mind Circuit ecosystem, which focuses on practical, time-limited regulation supports rather than therapy or treatment. Download Mind Circuit for Emotional Regulation & Somatic Tools: * Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/developer?id=Mind+Circuit [https://play.google.com/store/apps/developer?id=Mind+Circuit&authuser=1] * Apple: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ease-stress-anxiety-relief/id6478664305 [https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ease-stress-anxiety-relief/id6478664305] Instagram → @erin_notestomynervoussystem Website → mindcircuit.org Legal & Safety Disclaimer: Notes to My Nervous System is an educational and psychoeducational resource created by Erin Vandermore, LCMHC. While Erin is a licensed therapist, this podcast—including "Mom Therapy" sessions—is for informational purposes only. It does not constitute psychotherapy, medical advice, or a therapist-client relationship. The Mind Circuit app (Ease) is a self-help tool and is not a substitute for clinical treatment. Emergency Resources: If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, please call or text 988 (US/Canada) for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, call 911, or go to your nearest emergency room. © 2026 Erin Vandermore. All rights reserved.

Nervous System Regulation for Parents: Why Boundaries are an Act of Love | Dr. Jennifer Dragnotte | Mom Therapy

Most people misunderstand boundaries as walls that keep others out. In this eye-opening episode, Dr. Jen Dragonette shares how flexible, compassionately communicated boundaries can actually bring people in—healthy, trusting, and safe. If you've ever felt guilty setting boundaries or worried about pushback, this conversation will change your perspective forever. Erin Vandermore and Dr. Jen explore the nuanced dance of honoring yourself while inviting connection. You'll discover: how to differentiate rigid versus flexible boundaries, the importance of curiosity over judgment when others push back, and practical phrases that foster understanding rather than defensiveness. They break down the “Dear Man” DBT skill for negotiation, share how to assess whether someone respects your boundaries, and highlight the vital role of your nervous system in these moments.We delve into the common pitfalls—like misinterpreting pushback as rejection—and the opportunity to deepen trust through honest dialogue. Setting boundaries isn’t about keeping others out; it's a way to bring in relationships that truly serve your well-being. This episode is essential for anyone navigating complex relationships, from family to colleagues, and wants to create a life rooted in authenticity and safety. Whether you're tired of the unspoken rules or ready to express your needs with kindness and clarity, you'll leave inspired to set boundaries as acts of love—an open fence, not a fortress. Perfect for caregivers, professionals, and anyone craving healthier, more honest connections. Grow your capacity to communicate boundaries confidently and compassionately. If anything here stirs something up, check out the Mind Circuit app on Apple Store and Google Play for gentle ways to settle your nervous system. 🧠 About the Host:Erin is a licensed therapist, trauma-informed mom of two, and creator of the Mind Circuit App ( Ease) — a somatic nervous system reset tool available on the App Store and Google Play. Mind Circuit offers bilateral stimulation (BLS) and short, evidence-informed practices for when life feels too loud. 🎙️ About Notes to My Nervous System:A podcast about understanding your nervous system so you can move through hard moments with less self-blame and more calm. Topics include somatic healing, trauma-informed parenting, emotional regulation, high-functioning anxiety, brain fog, and the mind-body connection. New episodes available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube Music, and everywhere you listen. Notes to My Nervous System is a trauma-informed podcast for women’s mental health. Hosted by therapist and mom Erin, we explore mom therapy and nervous system regulation internal state. Discover somatic tools and intentional living to help you navigate overwhelm and find genuine safety today. Download Mind Circuit for Emotional Regulation & Somatic Tools: Android [https://play.google.com/store/apps/developer?id=Mind+Circuit] : https://play.google.com/store/apps/developer?id=Mind+Circuit Apple [https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ease-stress-anxiety-relief/id6478664305] : https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ease-stress-anxiety-relief/id6478664305 Instagram → @erin_notestomynervoussystem Website → ⁠mindcircuit.org⁠ [https://mindcircuit.org] Legal & Safety Disclaimer: Notes to My Nervous System is an educational and psychoeducational resource created by Erin Vandermore, LCMHC. While Erin is a licensed therapist, this podcast—including "Mom Therapy" sessions—is for informational purposes only. It does not constitute psychotherapy, medical advice, or a therapist-client relationship. The Mind Circuit app (Ease) is a self-help tool and is not a substitute for clinical treatment. Emergency Resources: If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, please call or text 988 (US/Canada) for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, call 911, or go to your nearest emergency room. © 2026 Erin Vandermore. All rights reserved.

How to Find Resilience with Shauna Hawkes | Overthinking, Emotional Avoidance & The Role of Body Awareness in Stress Resilience

Most women avoid their feelings—and in doing so, they overthink as a way to manage deeper emotions they’re afraid to feel. What if there’s a way to break that cycle by truly trusting your body and embracing your vulnerability? Shauna Hawks, embodiment mentor and yoga teacher, reveals the hidden connection between overthinking, emotional avoidance, and the body's natural stress responses—and how simple shifts towards surrender can unlock profound resilience.In this compelling conversation, Shauna shares her groundbreaking framework: overthinking is a symptom of avoiding deep emotions, and resilience is found in surrendering into that vulnerability. She unpacks how societal messages teach women to disconnect from their bodies, pushing them into a constant mental loop that leaves them feeling stuck and overwhelmed. Using insights from nervous system science, Shauna explains why a dysregulated body can hinder clarity, trust, and authentic emotional expression—and how healing begins with feeling safe in your own skin. You’ll discover practical tools to start reconnecting with your body today—like setting alarms to pause and feel, and embracing vulnerability as a strength rather than a weakness. Shauna discusses the power of sweet surrender: the art of allowing life to unfold, releasing control, and opening yourself to receive more love, support, and emotional resilience. She also explores how society’s neglect of emotional literacy keeps women in a cycle of push-push-push, and why changing this narrative begins within. This episode is perfect for women craving deeper self-trust, mental clarity, and emotional freedom. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by your thoughts or disconnected from your body, Shauna’s gentle insights will show you a way home—where you can finally feel safe enough to be fully, vulnerably human. Tune in and discover how to rewire your nervous system for calm, confidence, and authentic connection. 📱 Need support right now? The Mind Circuit app ( Ease) is a guided nervous system reset tool built for moments just like this. Whether it's bilateral stimulation (BLS) to calm anxiety, a wind-down for sleep, or a quick transition between stressful moments — it's not therapy, it's the "how" when your body needs help before your brain catches up. Download Mind Circuit today. 🎧 Also available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube Music & all major platforms.  Our podcast is the audio companion to the Mind Circuit App, designed for daily nervous system resets. While the show explores the "why" of your patterns, the app provides the "how" through: ·        Bilateral Brain Stimulation (BLS): Powerful tools for anxiety reduction and emotional grounding. ·        AI-Powered Mood Tracking: A data-driven way to continue our "Real Conversations" privately. ·        Gamified Healing: Somatic tools like "Catch the Leaf" make trauma-informed parenting and self-care approachable and consistent. Start Your Reset Today Download Mind Circuit for Emotional Regulation & Somatic Tools: iOS App Store →⁠ Download Now⁠ [https://apps.apple.com/us/app/mindcircuit/id6478664305] Google Play →⁠ Download Now⁠ [https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.app.ageOfUncertainty&hl=en] Connect & Listen: Instagram →  @erin_notestomynervoussystem Website →⁠ mindcircuit.org⁠ [https://mindcircuit.org/] Legal & Safety Disclaimer: Notes to My Nervous System is an educational and psychoeducational resource created by Erin Vandermore, LCMHC. While Erin is a licensed therapist, this podcast—including "Mom Therapy" sessions—is for informational purposes only. It does not constitute psychotherapy, medical advice, or a therapist-client relationship. The Mind Circuit app (Ease) is a self-help tool and is not a substitute for clinical treatment. Emergency Resources: If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, please call or text 988 (US/Canada) for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, call 911, or go to your nearest emergency room. © 2026 Erin Vandermore. All rights reserved.

How to Find Calm as a Mom with Safiya Omosanya | The Secret Tool That Can Help Moms Regain Control When They’re Triggered

Most moms feel overwhelmed by stress and generational patterns—until they learn to reset their nervous system. In this episode, Safiya Omosanya, the "cycle-breaking mom," reveals groundbreaking strategies to transform reactive parenting into calm, conscious connection. Safiya shares her raw journey from overwhelmed mother to trauma-informed expert, guiding you on how to recognize stress patterns and regulate your body. We dive deep into: * The science of nervous system regulation and emotional safety. * Breaking intergenerational wounds through tapping and intentional pauses. * Managing emotions without shame and modeling authenticity for your kids. * Understanding adolescent brain development to foster better relationships with teens. When you heal yourself, you create a safe space for your children to thrive. If you’re ready to step into confident, calm leadership and break the cycle, this episode is your call to action. About our guest: Safiya Omosanya is a trauma-informed coach and the creator of the MindCircuit app, dedicated to helping moms parent from a place of calm connection. Ready to start your reset? Hit play and begin your transformation today. 📱 Need support right now? The Mind Circuit app ( Ease) is a guided nervous system reset tool built for moments just like this. Whether it's bilateral stimulation (BLS) to calm anxiety, a wind-down for sleep, or a quick transition between stressful moments — it's not therapy, it's the "how" when your body needs help before your brain catches up. Download Mind Circuit today. 🎧 Also available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube Music & all major platforms.  Our podcast is the audio companion to the Mind Circuit App, designed for daily nervous system resets. While the show explores the "why" of your patterns, the app provides the "how" through: ·        Bilateral Brain Stimulation (BLS): Powerful tools for anxiety reduction and emotional grounding. ·        AI-Powered Mood Tracking: A data-driven way to continue our "Real Conversations" privately. ·        Gamified Healing: Somatic tools like "Catch the Leaf" make trauma-informed parenting and self-care approachable and consistent. Start Your Reset Today Download Mind Circuit for Emotional Regulation & Somatic Tools: iOS App Store →⁠ Download Now⁠ [https://apps.apple.com/us/app/mindcircuit/id6478664305] Google Play →⁠ Download Now⁠ [https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.app.ageOfUncertainty&hl=en] Connect & Listen: Instagram →  @erin_notestomynervoussystem Website →⁠ mindcircuit.org⁠ [https://mindcircuit.org/] Legal & Safety Disclaimer: Notes to My Nervous System is an educational and psychoeducational resource created by Erin Vandermore, LCMHC. While Erin is a licensed therapist, this podcast—including "Mom Therapy" sessions—is for informational purposes only. It does not constitute psychotherapy, medical advice, or a therapist-client relationship. The Mind Circuit app (Ease) is a self-help tool and is not a substitute for clinical treatment. Emergency Resources: If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, please call or text 988 (US/Canada) for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, call 911, or go to your nearest emergency room. © 2026 Erin Vandermore. All rights reserved.

How to Find Calm as a Mom with Dr. Janyne McConnaughey | The Surprising Power of Nonverbal Support in Trauma Recovery

Unlock the secret to calming even the most overwhelmed nervous system. If you or someone you love feels stuck in fight, flight, or shutdown mode, this episode will change the way you understand trauma responses—and how to support healing over just surviving. Imagine mastering simple, science-backed techniques that help your body find peace from within—without the need for words or complex therapies. Dr. McConaughey is a trauma educator and author dedicated to guiding survivors and allies alike in reclaiming agency after trauma. With a background rooted in attachment and co-regulation, she shares powerful insights on why your body reacts the way it does—and more importantly, how to gently help it restore balance. You’ll discover the truth behind the on/off nature of trauma responses, and how the process of regulation actually begins with recognizing your nervous system’s signals. We break down: * The science of co-regulation and how early attachment shapes your body’s responses * Practical strategies for supporting loved ones in triggering moments, especially avoiding harmful “calm down” commands * The importance of non-verbal connection—like shared breathing—to build trust and reduce dysregulation * Why dissociation isn't a failure but a vital protection, and how to respect it without shame * How to understand religious trauma and its unique impact on the body and mind This episode is essential for anyone navigating trauma—whether you're healing yourself or supporting others. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by your body's reactions or frustrated by others who don’t understand what you’re experiencing, here you’ll find compassion, clarity, and practical tools to foster healing and safety. Prepare to rethink what you know about trauma responses and discover gentle, effective ways to lower stress, restore agency, and feel safe in your body again. Your nervous system holds the key—and now, there’s a manual. Don’t miss out on transforming pain into peace. 📱 Need support right now? The Mind Circuit app ( Ease) is a guided nervous system reset tool built for moments just like this. Whether it's bilateral stimulation (BLS) to calm anxiety, a wind-down for sleep, or a quick transition between stressful moments — it's not therapy, it's the "how" when your body needs help before your brain catches up. Download Mind Circuit today. 🎧 Also available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube Music & all major platforms.  Our podcast is the audio companion to the Mind Circuit App, designed for daily nervous system resets. While the show explores the "why" of your patterns, the app provides the "how" through: ·        Bilateral Brain Stimulation (BLS): Powerful tools for anxiety reduction and emotional grounding. ·        AI-Powered Mood Tracking: A data-driven way to continue our "Real Conversations" privately. ·        Gamified Healing: Somatic tools like "Catch the Leaf" make trauma-informed parenting and self-care approachable and consistent. Start Your Reset Today Download Mind Circuit for Emotional Regulation & Somatic Tools: iOS App Store →⁠ Download Now⁠ [https://apps.apple.com/us/app/mindcircuit/id6478664305] Google Play →⁠ Download Now⁠ [https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.app.ageOfUncertainty&hl=en] Connect & Listen: Instagram →  @erin_notestomynervoussystem Website →⁠ mindcircuit.org⁠ [https://mindcircuit.org/] Legal & Safety Disclaimer: Notes to My Nervous System is an educational and psychoeducational resource created by Erin Vandermore, LCMHC. While Erin is a licensed therapist, this podcast—including "Mom Therapy" sessions—is for informational purposes only. It does not constitute psychotherapy, medical advice, or a therapist-client relationship. The Mind Circuit app (Ease) is a self-help tool and is not a substitute for clinical treatment. Emergency Resources: If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, please call or text 988 (US/Canada) for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, call 911, or go to your nearest emergency room. © 2026 Erin Vandermore. All rights reserved.