Mommy Wine Culture Almost Broke Me: Ellen's Story

The 10-Minute Trick That Can Break a Craving

When an alcohol craving hits, it can feel like your brain is screaming, “I need a drink.” But what if that craving is not really a command? What if it is discomfort in the body, a nervous system response, or an old autopilot pattern asking for relief? In this episode of The Alcohol Myth Podcast, coaches Jonathan and Ellen unpack why alcohol so often becomes the go-to “switch” for changing your mood, calming anxiety, easing boredom, or getting through the 5 PM trigger. They share practical, in-the-moment tools for creating space between the urge and the drink so you can make a conscious choice instead of reacting on autopilot. You’ll learn simple strategies like splashing cold water on your face, moving your body, going for a walk, practicing HALT, using the WAIT acronym, replacing the ritual with an alcohol-free option, and riding out a craving long enough to discover that it does pass. If you are questioning your relationship with alcohol, taking a break from drinking, exploring alcohol-free living, or trying to understand why cravings feel so powerful, this conversation will help you feel less powerless and more equipped in the moment. In this episode: Why cravings can feel physical, urgent, and inevitable How alcohol becomes a “mood switch” The power of creating space between stimulus and response Practical craving tools that work in real life Why cravings rise, peak, and eventually fade How alcohol-free drinks or mocktails can help replace the ritual What to do when the 5 PM trigger hits Have a question, story, or idea for a future episode? Email us at thealcoholmyth@gmail.com — we read every message. Connect with us: Email: thealcoholmyth@gmail.com Jonathan: https://livecreativeaf.com/ Ellen: https://ellenbiggscoaching.com/ Subscribe for more episodes on pulling back the curtain on the alcohol myth. #AlcoholFree #SoberCurious #QuitDrinking #AlcoholCravings #ThisNakedMind #AlcoholMythPodcast #MindfulDrinking #AlcoholFreeLife #StopDrinking #SoberSupport Chapters 0:00 Alcohol cravings may be body discomfort, not a command 0:47 Welcome to The Alcohol Myth Podcast 1:27 Debunking the myths alcohol feeds us 2:06 Alcohol as the go-to mood switch 3:15 Creating space between stimulus and response 5:04 The power of a tiny pause 6:20 Cravings as a runaway train 7:05 Physical interruption tools for cravings 8:47 Why cravings speak through the body 10:35 Responding to the body with the body 11:33 Switches vs. seeds 12:53 Listening to what your body actually needs 13:43 Using HALT: hungry, angry, lonely, tired 14:17 Challenging the belief that cravings mean game over 16:26 Sitting with a craving and learning from it 17:45 Cravings rise, peak, and fall 19:33 Realizing you are not powerless over cravings 20:53 Ellen’s early alcohol-free beer story 23:06 Replacing the substance, not the ritual 24:38 Alcohol-free drinks as a support tool 26:04 Practical takeaway: keep the ritual, change the drink 27:40 Movement, breath, and physical state changes 28:50 Exercise and natural dopamine 29:42 Walking through a craving 31:19 WAIT: What am I thinking? 31:56 Final tools: WAIT, HALT, move, experiment 32:22 Send questions and stories to the podcast

Alcohol Promises Connection. But Builds Isolation

Does alcohol really help us open up, or does it quietly build a wall between us and the connection we’re looking for? In this episode of The Alcohol Myth Podcast, we unpack one of alcohol’s most convincing stories: the belief that we need a drink to be vulnerable, have deep conversations, and feel close to other people. Ellen and Jonathan talk about heartfelt wine-fueled conversations, brownouts, shame, drinking buddies, emotional armor, social isolation, liquid courage, and what it actually takes to build honest connection without alcohol. You’ll hear why alcohol can make vulnerability feel easier in the moment while also blurring boundaries, lowering our ability to discern who is safe, and sometimes leaving us feeling even more disconnected afterward. We also explore emotional safety, reciprocity, and how to practice real connection from a clear-headed place. If you’ve ever believed alcohol made you more open, more social, or more connected, this conversation will help you look at that myth with curiosity and compassion. #AlcoholMythPodcast #AlcoholFreedom #SoberCurious #AlcoholFree #vulnerability  Connect with us: Email: thealcoholmyth@gmail.com Jonathan: https://livecreativeaf.com/ Ellen: https://ellenbiggscoaching.com/ Subscribe for more episodes on pulling back the curtain on the alcohol myth. Chapters 00:00 Cold Open and Podcast Intro 01:01 The Myth: Alcohol Helps Me Open Up 03:12 When Alcohol Creates the Opposite of Connection 04:51 Drinking Buddies, Shame, and Emotional Armor 06:18 From Social Drinking to Isolation 08:11 Stop Outsourcing Connection to Alcohol 12:38 Vulnerability, Belonging, and Trustworthy People 16:38 How Alcohol Dilutes Real Openness 21:55 The “Ante Up” Model for Deeper Conversations 25:06 Choosing Safe People for Vulnerability 27:36 Internal Courage Without Liquid Courage 29:14 Practicing Vulnerability in Safe Community 33:41 Practical Ways to Connect Without Drinking 39:44 Awareness, Reciprocity, and Curiosity

Alcohol Was My Coping Strategy. Here’s What Replaced It

If you’ve been using alcohol to cope… you’re not broken. You’re human. In this episode of The Alcohol Myth Podcast, coaches Jonathan Ball and Ellen Biggs talk about alcohol as a coping strategy: why it feels like a multi-purpose tool for stress, boredom, anxiety, celebration, and hard emotions, and why it eventually starts to create the very problems it promised to solve. We unpack the “handyman” trap (alcohol as the always-available fix), why quitting can feel raw at first (because life is still lifey), and how real confidence is built: curiosity first, then competence, then confidence. In this video, you’ll learn: - Why alcohol works as a coping strategy at first (and why that matters) - The “handyman” effect: one tool for everything, even when it fits nothing well - Why alcohol crowds out other coping options and becomes “indispensable” - What happens when you stop drinking and the problems are still there - The biology behind the pull: seek pleasure, avoid pain, conserve energy - The key skill: asking “What do I really need right now?” without judgment - How clarity and presence return, and why that changes everything Quick takeaway: Alcohol can give temporary relief. Real coping gives you your life back. Tiny FAQ: Q: Why does it feel harder when I stop drinking? A: Because you’re confronting the same life stressors without the quick numbing tool. That’s not failure. That’s the start of building real skills. Q: What do I do instead of drinking? A: Pause, get curious, and identify the real need: rest, food, water, connection, movement, solitude, or honest conversation. Connect with us: Email: thealcoholmyth@gmail.com Jonathan: https://livecreativeaf.com/ Ellen: https://ellenbiggscoaching.com/ Subscribe for more episodes on pulling back the curtain on the alcohol myth. Chapters 0:00 Alcohol as your hobby and personality 1:12 Today’s topic: alcohol as a coping strategy 2:07 The “big stuff” and the “small stuff” alcohol covered over 3:06 Ellen’s “handyman” metaphor (and why it clicked) 4:20 Alcohol as the multi-tool that starts ruining your life 5:07 How alcohol crowds out other coping options 5:55 Why we used it: it worked… until it didn’t 8:39 When you stop drinking and life is still lifey 9:55 Confidence comes last (curiosity → competence → confidence) 11:00 The mindset shift: burden vs opportunity 12:22 The biology: pleasure, pain avoidance, energy conservation 13:16 “Why is this so hard?” It’s brain wiring 14:13 Neural pathways: “problem → drink” 15:39 Time slows down when you get present again 16:27 The 7–10 day physical shift and what changes after 17:14 The upward spiral: handling hard things builds belief 19:25 Giving alcohol credit for what was in you 21:32 Real example: anxiety, busyness, and the cortisol loop 24:05 The practice: ask what you really need (and don’t judge it) 27:22 Reintroducing yourself to yourself 28:12 Ellen’s example: finishing what alcohol kept stalling 30:55 High achiever energy: hustle vs ease and purpose 32:01 Practical advice: curiosity, compassion, and staying on the path 34:10 Closing and invitation to share #AlcoholMythPodcast #QuitDrinking #SoberCurious #AlcoholFree #Anxiety #Stress #HabitChange #SelfCompassion #ThisNakedMind

The Vacation Trap: Hungover in Paradise

Ever notice how alcohol can make even the most beautiful place feel weirdly… the same? In this episode of The Alcohol Myth Podcast, coaches Jonathan Ball and Ellen Biggs talk about alcohol and travel, and the big lie most of us believed: that drinking makes trips more fun, more romantic, and more special. In reality, alcohol has a superpower, it turns your vacation into the same loop you run at home, just with different scenery. We unpack free wine on flights, the 5 PM countdown, drinking-focused itineraries, the sneaky “me time” pattern, resentment on family trips, and why alcohol-free travel can feel like a total upgrade once you actually try it. In this video, you’ll learn: - Why alcohol makes every place feel the same - The “free wine on the flight” trap and what it costs you - How travel can expose the hidden routines of overdrinking - Why alcohol-free travel often feels calmer, clearer, and more joyful - How to spend the alcohol budget on experiences you actually remember - A simple plan for your first alcohol-free trip (without white knuckling) - Why treats matter: do not remove alcohol and go treatless Quick takeaway: If you want travel to feel new again, remove the thing that makes every day predictable. Tiny FAQ: Q: What if I’m scared my trip will be less fun without alcohol? A: Run a smaller experiment. Pick the first 1–3 days alcohol-free, plan one fun activity, and collect real evidence. Q: What should I drink instead? A: Anything that feels like a treat. Mocktails, alcohol-free beer, sparkling drinks, special coffee, dessert. Build it in on purpose. Connect with us: Email: thealcoholmyth@gmail.com Jonathan: https://livecreativeaf.com/ Ellen: https://ellenbiggscoaching.com/ Subscribe for more episodes on pulling back the curtain on the alcohol myth. Chapters 0:00 The travel lie: “it makes it special” 1:22 What we’re talking about today: alcohol + travel 2:04 Free wine on flights and the fear of sober travel 3:31 “Best kept secret”: what changes when you travel alcohol-free 4:20 A ticking clock to 5 PM: planning your day around drinking 6:23 Work travel as “me time” and drinking alone 8:33 Disney, Epcot, and making alcohol the mission 9:11 Alcohol’s superpower: making everywhere feel the same 10:22 The patio fantasy, and why it’s not different than home 11:36 Spend the alcohol money on real experiences (Cape Cod) 12:57 Ads sell the highlight reel, not the 3 AM wakeups 15:22 The mind noise disappears: travel gets easier 16:26 Resentment on family trips and hiding behavior 19:45 Travel disrupts your routine, and shame shows up 22:19 The “two glasses of water” moment that busted the pattern 25:00 Alcohol isolates you, even in a crowd 26:34 The mask: “fun party person” vs how you actually feel 28:41 Safe spaces: practice taking the mask off in community 32:39 Practical plan: pick a target, plan fun, stay curious 35:01 Travel tip: do not start your trip in withdrawal 37:19 Future casting for success (airport treats, museums, plans) 38:42 Build treats on purpose and explore alcohol-free options 40:13 Closing and invitation to share the episode #AlcoholFreeTravel #SoberTravel #QuitDrinking #SoberCurious #AlcoholMythPodcast #ThisNakedMind #Mocktails #HabitChange

Why Quitting Feels Like Losing a Friend

Have you ever thought of alcohol as your “most reliable friend”? In this episode of The Alcohol Myth Podcast, coaches Jonathan Ball and Ellen Biggs unpack a surprisingly common belief: alcohol as the dependable, always-there friend. We talk about why that story feels true, what it is masking underneath (needs, loneliness, celebration, comfort), and how alcohol becomes a predictable substitute for real connection. This is an episode about self-trust, self-compassion, and learning how to be there for yourself, especially when life gets hard. In this video, you’ll learn: - Why quitting can feel like leaving a friend behind - “Reliable” vs “predictable”: what alcohol actually does every time - How alcohol becomes the Swiss Army knife solution for emotions and events - Why celebration gets hijacked by alcohol and what you actually want instead - The control trap: why alcohol feels safer than real relationships - How distraction keeps you from knowing what you need - A practical exercise: define “best friend,” then compare it to alcohol Quick takeaway: Alcohol can be predictable, but it cannot be a friend. If you want real support, you build it through self-knowledge, quiet, and connection with people who can meet you there. Tiny FAQ: Q: What if alcohol really is the only thing that helps me relax? A: That is a common belief. This episode is about running a new experiment and building other sources of relief and connection. Q: What do I do when I feel a blank space without it? A: Start small. Replace the ritual with podcasts, quit lit, and community while you build real support. Connect with us: Email: thealcoholmyth@gmail.com Jonathan: https://livecreativeaf.com/ Ellen: https://ellenbiggscoaching.com/ Subscribe for more episodes on pulling back the curtain on the alcohol myth. Chapters 0:00 When the noise of alcohol goes quiet 1:12 Why quitting feels like leaving a friend behind 2:01 “How do I be my own best friend?” 3:39 Alcohol as the always-there “friend” 5:05 The Swiss Army knife myth: drink for everything 6:24 “Reliable” vs “predictable” 7:30 Celebration without alcohol: what do you actually want? 10:39 Outsourcing connection to a substance 12:22 Vulnerability and the “safer” option 14:23 Stop letting yourself down: learning self-support 17:44 The Stoic takeaway: what is truly yours to steward? 23:47 Distraction and avoiding being with yourself 25:35 Discernment: turning inward and learning to love what’s there 35:31 Going against the grain in a culture that sells numbness 38:10 The influence of your environment and the people closest to you 39:48 Finding replacements: quit lit, podcasts, and community 41:58 The Best Friend Test: write it down and compare it to alcohol 43:23 Practical close: try quiet, then get curious #AlcoholFree #SoberCurious #QuitDrinking #AlcoholMythPodcast #ThisNakedMind #SelfCompassion #HabitChange #PersonalGrowth