The D. Tales with Allison Kahler

Ep. 13: Healing Isn't Feeling Better — It's Feeling Everything

35 min · 28 de abr de 2026
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This is a story about a self-described "recovering nice guy" who spent decades outsourcing his self-worth — and how he learned that healing isn't feeling better, it's feeling everything. In this episode: * How the sensitive kid underneath armored up behind toxic masculinity — and why that armor "doesn't discriminate" between what it keeps out and what it keeps in * How a first separation, a cancer diagnosis, and a decade of "should I stay or should I go?" surfaced a quieter, harder question — "maybe I’m the problem?" * How a transformative experience at The Hoffman Process taught Billy that "forgiveness is giving up all hope for a better past" * How Jack Kornfield's challenge to "die of boredom on the meditation mat" taught Billy he could sit with anxiety — and survive it * What months on the living room floor processing delayed grief taught Billy about inviting grief to "come have a seat" instead of running from it * Why healing isn't about feeling better — it's about feeling everything, and why finally trusting "I can handle it" changed everything About Billy Kaitz: Billy is a recovering perfectionist and lifelong overthinker who spent years trying to be everything for everyone — while quietly leaving himself out of the equation. He built the life he thought would finally make him feel whole, only to discover that nothing was missing except his connection to himself. What followed was a messy, humbling journey through loss, therapy, and real human connection — learning that the most meaningful parts of life often sit behind the doors we spend years avoiding. Today, Billy is still doing that work in real time, choosing honesty over performance, and showing up as a devoted girl dad grounded in something far more real than perfection. Follow Billy on Instagram: @billkaitz [https://www.instagram.com/billkaitz] Connect with Billy on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/billkaitz [http://linkedin.com/in/billkaitz] Find Billy on Facebook: facebook.com/bill.kaitz [http://facebook.com/bill.kaitz] Resources mentioned: * The Hoffman Process [https://www.hoffmaninstitute.org/] * Kristin Neff's Self-Compassion [https://self-compassion.org/] * AEDP Therapy [https://aedpinstitute.org/about-aedp-psychotherapy/] (Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy) About "The D. Tales with Allison Kahler": The D. Tales blends real divorce stories with grounded expert insight — helping you find clarity and courage to move forward on your own terms. Follow The D. Tales wherever you listen to podcasts. Follow along on Instagram: @thedtalespodcast [https://www.instagram.com/thedtalespodcast/] Learn more at https://thedtalespodcast.com [https://thedtalespodcast.com] This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for legal, medical, mental health, or financial advice.

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